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To cringe when i see people wearing the 'wrong' colours..?

337 replies

Scarletohello · 04/07/2013 18:08

Ok it all started a few years ago when I had my colours done, was told I was an Autumn, after hiding in black for years and although I was initially v unhappy with the diagnosis, I eventually accepted it and over time changed my clothes and ditched the black.

I now have a fantastic wardrobe of beautiful colours that really suit my colouring and all match. I often get compliments on what I'm wearing and I know it's just cos I'm wearing the right colours for me.

However, it's meant that I have become a bit of a colour fascist! I have 2 friends with similar colouring to me, pale, freckles, blue/ green eyes and reddish tints in their hair and for ages I have been trying to get them to ditch their black and wear warmer colours to the extent that they call me the fashion police and worry about what they are wearing when they are with me ( in a tongue in cheek way, obviously...)

Also when I see women wearing colours that really don't suit them, I have an overwhelming desire to go up to them and tell them ( obviously I don't, as I don't want a mouthful of abuse and its none of my business..)

But it bugs me! Yesterday I saw a woman with dark hair wearing a black and white jacket, a lime green jumper and cerise lipstick. It was just all wrong!! I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does....What to do??

OP posts:
LadyHarrietdeSpook · 04/07/2013 23:03

"Although i was initially very unhappy when I got the 'diagnosis' " FFS some random woman gave you her opinion. Which you've taken as gospel. Diagnosis- seriously weird word to use, Freudian. (But this thread is a massive piss take I reckon.)

Scarletohello · 04/07/2013 23:06

I have never ever told someone they look shit and I never would. I can't win on this thread whatever I say as it will be misconstrued. I just want everyone to look fab! And there's no way I would dare post a photo of me on here ( partly as I don't know how to) but mainly cos I'd be ripped to shreds...

OP posts:
HoneyDragon · 04/07/2013 23:12

It's not misconstrued. You already make your friends feel policed over what they wear. You have assumed every person on this thread does not look good enough.

Read your posts, your words aren't being twisted, you are not coming across as nice.

HoneyDragon · 04/07/2013 23:14

You may well be lovely btw Smile, but this thread doesn't A&E you come across well.

HoneyDragon · 04/07/2013 23:14

Make, not A&E

Szeli · 04/07/2013 23:16

I didn't realise anyone had their colours done past 1990.

Fair play to the 'colour consultants' who've kept their business going...

DisappointedHorse · 04/07/2013 23:18

My SiL had her colours done once, she was almost evangelical about colour for years afterwards. She once had me sitting in her bedroom draping me in towels and sheets for hours! Grin I love her so I let her but she couldn't work me out.

I would actually be interested in having it done because colour scares me. I only ever wear neutrals and can't work out for the life of me what looks shit.

But OP, YABU. Mind your own business.

Wuldric · 04/07/2013 23:20

I think the best solution for your problem is to buy a white stick and a blindfold. Whenever you go outside, wear the blindfold. The white stick will be necessary as you will not be able to see.

That's honestly the best solution I could come up with on the spur of the moment. The others were all ridiculous.

CoteDAzur · 04/07/2013 23:21

"the point I was trying to get across is that I really love to help people and to help them look great"

Is that what you mean by saying that you cringe when you see these people you love oh so much? Grin

Justfornowitwilldo · 04/07/2013 23:22

People can and do look fab without following their 'colours'. You're a zealot at the moment. Hopefully it will fade.

Wuldric · 04/07/2013 23:24

boomtish at hopefully the colour zealotry will fade :)

Given this started a few years ago, I think 'this too shall pass' is a bit unlikely.

ouryve · 04/07/2013 23:26

I'm far from being a fashionista and occasionally think to myself that someone doesn't know what colours work for them. Doesn't make me uptight, though. Maybe they don't care, and good on them.

Justfornowitwilldo · 04/07/2013 23:26

More people ignoring the rules. they look so awful.

Justfornowitwilldo · 04/07/2013 23:27

I think having your colours done is about as far from being a fashionista as you can get.

ouryve · 04/07/2013 23:27

colours != shape. HTH. LOL.

CoteDAzur · 04/07/2013 23:31

"You just want to slob about in shitty old shapeless unflattering clothes?"

Priceless Grin

Without meaning to hurt your feelings, I think you are assuming that everyone is a size 16 like you. Some of us have managed to maintain a body shape that does not require shapeless clothing.

KittieCat · 04/07/2013 23:36

YABU but surely you know that really...

I would rather have my finger nails removed that have my colours done. Why do some people who've paid to be told what to wear by someone who has been brainwashed and then sent away with some swatches (oh how I hate those swatch books) feel the need to share their new found knowledge?

I'll wear what I like, thanks.

It's like a cult for people who should know better and who should just look in the mirror....

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 04/07/2013 23:38

You are be unreasonable and a twat.

HTH

Wuldric · 04/07/2013 23:38

I don't have any shapeless clothes. None. Where would I wear them? I can't imagine. Not to work or go out in. And since I spend all my time either going out to work or going out I'm baffled.

Does she think I should wear these shapeless clothes in bed? I don't want to. I always sleep naked.

This clothes facism thing is too much. See, the OP has even got me in a dither and she hasn't even seen my colours ...

MousyMouse · 04/07/2013 23:38

aibu to really want to get my colours done now?
I'm intrigued.

Wuldric · 04/07/2013 23:39

Mousey, you start by having your colours done, and a few years down the line you end up as a clothes fascist. It ain't worth it ...

bettybigballs · 04/07/2013 23:46

ChippingIn - no matter what thread I'm lurking on, you always make me snort tea. In a good way. A very, sniggering good way.

Scarletohello · 04/07/2013 23:48

Although u lot are being mean I'm also laughing my head off at some of the replies. Never started a thread which has got people so exercised before. To quote Miranda's bonkers mum, " such fun"..!! :)

OP posts:
UptheChimney · 04/07/2013 23:57

I just want everyone to look fab

I suspect that your idea of "fab" is miles away from my idea of style.

Wuldric · 05/07/2013 00:10

So, to look as marvellous as you do, I have to:

  1. Dress in what you believe to be my colour palette
  2. Not wear shapeless clothes
  3. Gain 3 stones
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