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Original poster

To think that if you don't want it, give it back?!

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FieryChipotle · 03/07/2013 13:55

I've given all of my baby stuff to a friend in need. Both her and DH are out of work and got DC3 on the way. She asked me and even though I was going to sell it as I am hard up myself (had to rent house out as cant afford my mortgage) I let her have it
because she has nothing. It was all in excellent condition, some of it practically new as my own DTs spent a very long time in hospital.

I have just been on FB to see that every item is for sale on one of the selling sites.

I'm furious. AIBU? And also, WWYD?

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babybearsmummy · 03/07/2013 16:08

Blimey that's really terrible! Hopefully it was a genuine mistake and she gives it all back. Good on you for mentioning it too!x

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 03/07/2013 16:15

Do you have a car?

I would just go around there and collect it all. Don't give her the opportunity to do or say anything about it.

It is beyond the pale.

rockybalboa · 03/07/2013 16:17

I'd be furious. Good advice from Hecsy already.

OHforDUCKScake · 03/07/2013 16:21

I have given people things that I cant afford to give and could do with selling because I figured it was a good thing to do.

I would go ape shit if someone did that to me.

I would have done exactly what you did.

claudedebussy · 03/07/2013 16:27

not on. i would tell her.

frissonpink · 03/07/2013 16:29

Great comment you put. She has been rather cheeky to say the least!

However, I do confess I did something like this Blush We are hard up like you, and my friend said we could have her old high chair. We were delighted!

Anyway, when she dropped it round it was disgusting :( I wouldn't have fed my dog out of it!! I just didn't have the heart to tell her how grotty I thought it was, so I sold it - for a fiver.

Should I have taken it to the skip instead? I don't know. Confused

I do know, that anything I pass on to others is immaculate.

And I would be annoyed to see anything immaculate being sold, when I could sell it myself!

Original poster
FieryChipotle · 03/07/2013 18:03

Frissonprick - I've been given a few bits like that over the years too! It's a bit awkward isn't it!

I've had no response to my comment and I know she's seen it because she is the sort that lives for Facebook. I mentioned it to a mutual friend and she is shocked too. I think I'd feel differently if I had offered her the stuff, but I felt really pressured with the constant sob story. Hmm

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FieryChipotle · 03/07/2013 18:04

Frissonpink! Not prick!!! Whoops!

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Tryharder · 03/07/2013 18:10

YANBU. I wouldn't mind if I had given stuff which was then used and then sold, say a year later. But to blatantly sell it on without using it first....words fail me!

claudedebussy · 03/07/2013 18:18

ahahaahah

my phone usually edits out my swear words, not adds them!

frissonpink · 03/07/2013 18:57

haha frissonprick, brilliant! Grin Might have to name change!

Your mate is well out of order in any case. Don't feel guilty. Expect your stuff back, OR at least the money she gets from selling it ;)

LimitedEditionLady · 03/07/2013 19:05

Omg!!!!i would actually flip.I make a point if pasding things on that are given to us and never take a penny.But if the ungrateful sods sold it on I would tell them!

ReluctantBeing · 03/07/2013 19:13

That's shocking. Some people take the piss.

LemonBreeland · 03/07/2013 19:15

That is shockingly rude. I hope you get the stuff back.

TidyDancer · 03/07/2013 19:20

Oh gosh no, that's not on at all. I would give her 24 hours and if you haven't heard from her, go to her house.

How can people have the balls to do something like that?!

OHforDUCKScake · 03/07/2013 21:07

Did she respond OP?

SunshineAndPeardrops · 04/07/2013 11:27

Has she had the guts to answer yet?

NatashaBee · 04/07/2013 12:21

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FannyFifer · 04/07/2013 12:24

That is pretty cheeky alright.

MadameGazelleIsMyMum · 04/07/2013 12:27

Well done OP, that's really cheeky, good for you for calling her on it publically.

jemstipp · 04/07/2013 12:36

Get it back, cheeky bitch, if she had nothing then why is she selling it? It's great to be given stuff and having a large family myself and I have the youngest kids, I have no end to offers of clothes and toys and where I have no use or need I certainly do say, thanks but I'm ok why don't you sell it or give it to charity. I would never dream of taking it myself and flogging it. I agree with the 'pay it forward' as well. I will be waiting to see if any family and friends need any of my stuff that is in good condition and if not, then to charity with the clothes and either playschool or charity again with most of the toys that are outgrown.

expatinscotland · 04/07/2013 12:38

Tell her you want it back.

WeAreEternal · 04/07/2013 12:41

I would be going straight round to her house after work with a load of bags to collect my things. The bloody cheek of the woman.

expatinscotland · 04/07/2013 12:46

I would post under all these items, too, and report her to the Paige's admin.

expatinscotland · 04/07/2013 12:47

Paige's, sorry.

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