Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

[thepigflu]

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

[BeanoNoir]

And I don't get why neither of you discussed beforehand what you'd do if baby needed a feed?

[Fairyegg]

I wouldn't without consent from mum First, then I would.

[TheFallenNinja]

Don't do it. I would be mortified.

[MakeGlutenFreeHay]

I'm the opposite, I'd rather he got bm than formula. Which is why we are not best placed to make the decision for the OP - we don't know the preferences of her friend.

Don't understand why she didn't leave anything though.

[dyslexicdespot]

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[teenagetantrums]

feed the baby, if you cant contact her and its crying I Bf both of mine and would not have left them without a bottle of milk as long as you are sure you are free of disease and don't smoke ect I cant see the harm.

[AnyFucker]

where is this important place your exclusively breast feeding friend has disappeared off to without staying in contact ?

[mrsjay]

why did she leave him so long he probably wont feed from you anyway express some onto a spoon or something do not feed him yourself and Id be quite cross with mum for leaving him without being contactable

[chestnut100]

I would be absolutely livid if you breasted my children (who are breastfed by me) without my consent. There are health implications that are simply not comparable to offering a bottle of formula. You may think you know you do not have anything to pass on (and you probably don't) but unless fully screened in v recent days, you would under no circumstances have consent to feed my child.

[threefeethighandrising]

"I loved it so much it would have ruined it for me I think to know someone else had bf him"

Sorry but I think that's a bit silly.

[libertine73]

makegluten I suggested a banana to suck before OP had said how old the baby was fgs!

[ipswichwitch]

I think you're wise not to, but would like to know why she left her 3 mo old ebf baby for 3 hours with no formula/ expressed milk. There is no way in hell DS would have lasted that long between feeds at that age, and the baby will be even more distressed as he can smell your milk.

[threefeethighandrising]

chestnut100 but would you leave your baby for 3 hours without milk in anything other than a dire emergency?

The mother has put the OP in a very difficult situation.

[StealthPolarBear]

"BeanoNoir Mon 01-Jul-13 13:05:27
Tbh reading my post back I'd rather my baby got fed a small amount of formula than someone else's expressed milk. I thought your milk was specifically tailored for your baby?"

It is. But formula isn't!

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

I was thinking that too, AF, the last one... a shitstorm indeed.

[LookingForwardToMarch]

Op I'd give your friend a bit of a rollicking when she gets back too.

Leaving your very young baby for a few hours without any form of food, and being uncontactable is bang out of order and irresponsible.

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

I'm with the poster who said she can't believe the preferences of the mother are taking precedence over the needs of a hungry, distressed baby who hasn't been fed in three hours.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Ooh, a tough question. One one hand, its the perfect resolution to the problem. Baby is hungry, you have milk. OTOH, I'm really not sure that I would be happy if someone fed my baby without my consent. BUT, OTOOH, she has left him and is uncontactable! Can you take him for a walk in your pram so that he isn't near you smelling your milk for a while and then reassess after the 3 hours if the mother doesn't turn up?
I mean really it is not on to leave him with you with no food available!

[landofsoapandglory]

Is it just me who finds it odd that a mum of a 3 month old ebf baby has left her baby so long, with no way of feeding it and turned her phone off?

[Branleuse]

Id be grateful you fed the baby. maybe feed him and dont tell her?

[landofsoapandglory]

Should have refreshed, cause I see AnyFucker is thinking the same thing!

[BeanoNoir]

Stealth I do realise that and I don't know why it doesn't sit right with me but it seems better that formula is made for a generic baby rather than someone else's bm being specifically tailored for a baby that isn't mine iyswim. I am aware I may not be completely rational about this

[mrsjay]

NO im head scratching too wht the mum isnt around but I am seeing where it goes