One of my colleagues does this and she's getting on people's nerves. Last week her American cousin's husband died suddenly. Very tragic, obviously but my colleague barely knows her cousin and had only met the husband a couple of times. However, on Friday she wouldn't come to another colleague's retirement drinks because 'given her family bereavement it wouldn't really be appropriate and she didn't want to put a dampener on things'. I mean, FFS. Two colleagues have lost their fathers in recent months and she's making more of a fuss than they did.
Last year her mother had her credit card skimmed and this colleague went on as if the woman had been mugged at knife point, talking about how 'shaken up' the whole family were and 'you never really think it will happen to someone you know, do you'.
She took a day off work when her sister was having her appendics out (op in morning, home that afternoon) because she'd only be 'worrying and no use to anyone'.
AIBU to wonder how she will ever cope if she has something serious to cope with and also to feel that there are people in work with real worries and traumas and she should get over herself and stop being such a drama queen?
AIBU?
To find people who like making a three act tragedy out of everything v annoying
arabesque · 24/06/2013 13:38
God I really must stop the swearing. Honestly I'm getting a mouth like a sewer. 
I don't swear this much in real life honestly - it's just something about MN that brings it out in me. It'e like having one of those squeezy stress relievers in your hand the whole time.
It's just reminded me of another collegue the only ever pregnant woman in the world.
Her FB status is always something about how awful X was, how awful and vile someone is - never name drops though.
Off work with 'stress' after being signed off with an illness (not pg related) When off ill we sent flowers - as is the norm for anybody off for more than 2 weeks.
Resulting FB status about flowers? A huge picture and massive thanks to "those who did contribute" 
It wasn't really what was said but the intonation of it.
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While my DH lay in ICU in hospital, he took a phone call from a friend who "couldn't possibly come to visit as he was so busy and upset as his west end show had been cancelled. He was so upset he wasn't seeing anyone (apart from all our friends)! DH said he understood, it was very sad.
When DH died 3 weeks later, he was the first to say he was so upset as it was so sudden and he didn't get a chance to say goodbye - and btw did you know his west end show was cancelled? So sad. 
He's still the most self absorbed person ever! 
"If you dont know a drama llama, thats because its you!"
Not necessarily.
I'm not a drama llama at all, but I seem to have a very high tolerance for other people's dramas.
I find being the centre of a drama so unappealing that it rarely crosses my mind that someone is making a massive deal about nothing.
This is a typical conversation in our house
Me: "Poor Myra (a good friend) has such terrible luck with her health. It just seems to be one thing after another."
DH (has known Myra for years longer than I): " Myra is a hypochondriac you daft gobshite."
:o
I'm the asshole who gives these people the oxygen of interest and sympathy.
I'm to blame.
My ILs were at it again recently. Their son (DHs brother) suffered the worst thing a parent can go through (don't want to out myself but you can guess). What did MIL stress over and go on and on about? A minor medical procedure FIL MIGHT have to have. Necessitated ILs cutting short their visit and racing off home after the funeral offering zilch support to the bereaved parents. DH and I were and amazed how gracious BIL and SIL were I would have lost it. In the end FIL didnt need the minor procedure after all (a long solemn email was sent updating us AND BIL AND SIL!) about this. I think if I had received that email the day after my baby's funeral I would never have spoken to them again.
I swear it's all true!
Unfortunately he has continued on in the same vein - he's a proper drama llama (especially as he's and actor/director!) still, so we don't see much of him. He's always been self absorbed, so we (all our friends) just kind of accept it as his way - if it really pissed us off we'd tell him. Don't think it would do any good, but it might make us feel better.
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