wiggles - interesting, in that me and my dp are self employed, and work a number of different contracts - I can envisage myself paying him for the work that he might do re: children and house as an equitable thing, not 'being his boss'. I wonder if that is because it feels like a continuation of the self employed thing?
I would find that MUCH more acceptable than the idea of being given an 'allowance' or 'personal expenses', which seems quite infantilising. Paying for a haircut and tampax out out of my wages is one thing - being given an 'allowance' for personal expenses to do so feels gruesome.
anyfucker - yes, the gross inequity of situations where women and men are in similar positions workwise, but the woman does the vast majority of domestic work and organisation makes me angry. It seems to be very common, and it is a situation you can kind of slide into, if you have a man who does the work poorly, reluctantly, has to be asked all the time and fundamentally does not see it as his responsibility.
If they don't grow up seeing it as their future responsibility, you've got a hell of a challenge on your hands when you get the adult man.
Which is why both my my sons will be raised to be pull their weight and respect anyone who does the same.