DP working sudden over-time - aibu?

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Been with DP two years. In all that time he's never worked overtime. He's always worked 7.30am - 4.30pm monday to Thursday and 7.30 - 11.30 on a Friday. Always.

Then we get a house together and all of a sudden he has to work overtime. He's now working until 6.30pm Monday to thursday and now working Saturday mornings. He has his kids every saturday night so since moving in together they've had to get used to spending every weekend with me too. They're great kids (aged 16 and 18) and I'm lucky that they're so good ..... very lucky infact because DP is now working Sunday mornings too! How come before he always used to say he'd never arrange anything on a weekend or work weekends because it's his time with his kids yet all of a sudden he's working saturdays AND sundays (leaving me looking after his kids, youngest is disabled).

I'm also becomming paranoid because he's stopped wearing his work uniform. Ever since I've known him he's worn a navy blue company polo shirt for work - all last week he wore a normal black t-shirt and this morning, despite his work shirt being washed and ironed - he specifically looked for a different t-shirt to wear. I asked him how come he no longer wears his uniform, he said it's optional and plus he doesn't want to look like a "pog" wearing the same shirt every day. It's not bothered him for the past couple of years!!

AIBU??

Agree with sock.

I would tell him you and your DC are busy next weekend so he will have to sort out his own DC, see what reaction you get

There is also Snaochat. The messages disappear after 6 seconds so there is no way of following a conversation. I expect there are other ways of messaging which also auto delete but I've never had to look for them/use them.

You have good reason to be paranoid but all this surveillance chatter turns my stomach a bit. There's got to be another way of doing it. Don't be PRISM.

I think Eastpoint means snapchat

I'd say he is up to something. Next weekend, leave something important in your car like your phone, where you can't see it. Then ring him at work from the landline and insist on coming to work to get it. Then you will see if he is actually at work or not. If he's not he's having an affair. If he is, you know that all the stuff that's happening, whilst a little odd, is legit.