To think my birthday could be about me?
phantomhairpuller · 22/06/2013 19:22
Ok so it's not a milestone birthday or anything but still!
DH and FIL went to the pub this morning to watch tho lions game. MIL stayed with me to help get things sorted for the family do which was taking place this afternoon.
Picked up the men folk at 1.30 and they were both fairly well oiled. They continued drinking when they got back to our house. My family descended at around 3pm and FIL immediately started with comments about how the English players were better then the welsh players during the game (it doesn't matter that they were all playing for the same team on this occasion!) he was trying to get a reaction from my (welsh) grandfather. It worked, my 79yr old grandfather walked away from the 'conversation' saying he couldn't be bothered with it- fair enough IMO.
To cut a long story short, you could cut the atmosphere with a knife and consequently my family left after 2hrs. DH passed out drunk and then MIL and FIL left without barely saying a word.
So on my bday, I've done all the clearing up and looked after a toddler and a newborn, basically on my own.
AIBU to be a bit pissed off or do I need a good slap and to get over myself?
Would love a now but am bf-ing
Flobbadobs · 22/06/2013 19:32
Well on the bright side hopefully your MIL is giving your FIL an earbashing for acting like an arse..
And hopefully you'll give DH one when he sobers up. Can you ditch him and go out somewhere nice with friends or your family tomorrow?
Time your wine carefully and you can still BF safely I think.
phantomhairpuller · 22/06/2013 19:43
I am fucking furious. He's now got up because DS1 went and disturbed him. And he's got the fucking cheek to be treating me like I'm the bad guy. He's sitting there watching me get the boys ready for bed, not offering to help but making really useful comments like 'mums got it on her'.
Fucking knobhead cunty-bollock-headed prick. Arrrgghhhhh
Aniseeda · 22/06/2013 20:02
YANBU but hosting a family do wouldn't be my idea of a fun way to spend my birthday at the best of times and even if they were all the best of friends.
I really hope you won't make any effort for your DH's birthday this year.
And, next year, go out with friends or just your parents and the DC.
StuffezLaYoni · 22/06/2013 20:40
How horrible for you on your birthday. If you don't want the day to end totally miserably, I think you should stay away from him, bite your lip (I know you shouldn't have to) then calmly ask him tomorrow to explain himself. Why the fuck is he trying to upset you on your birthday? Probably to detract from the fact his behaviour already ballsed up the day.
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phantomhairpuller · 23/06/2013 20:04
UPDATE: for anyone who cares!
FIL called this morning very sheepish and full of apologies
DH has continued to act like a child, ignored me all morning(!) refused to come to a family do (HIS family!) and since me and DCs got back from said family do he's been nothing but downright horrible to me
So basically he's managed to turn it around so that I'm now the one treading on eggshells and apologising to him. I bloody hate fighting with him and he knows that.
I'm fairly certain I was justified in being pissed off about yesterday but he's making me feel like this whole thing is my fault. I can't do right for doing wrong now.
Oh, and he's had a bottle of wine to himself which is sure to be helping the situation
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