To think my birthday could be about me?

[phantomhairpuller]

Ok so it's not a milestone birthday or anything but still!

DH and FIL went to the pub this morning to watch tho lions game. MIL stayed with me to help get things sorted for the family do which was taking place this afternoon.

Picked up the men folk at 1.30 and they were both fairly well oiled. They continued drinking when they got back to our house. My family descended at around 3pm and FIL immediately started with comments about how the English players were better then the welsh players during the game (it doesn't matter that they were all playing for the same team on this occasion!) he was trying to get a reaction from my (welsh) grandfather. It worked, my 79yr old grandfather walked away from the 'conversation' saying he couldn't be bothered with it- fair enough IMO.

To cut a long story short, you could cut the atmosphere with a knife and consequently my family left after 2hrs. DH passed out drunk and then MIL and FIL left without barely saying a word.

So on my bday, I've done all the clearing up and looked after a toddler and a newborn, basically on my own.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off or do I need a good slap and to get over myself?

Would love a now but am bf-ing

[BitOutOfPractice]

What GetStuffed said. I feel really angry with your arse of a husband

[diddl]

So, you've got a toddler & a newborn & you organised your own party-with MIL-whilst the "men folk" went drinking?

Jeez-where to even start with that??

[phantomhairpuller]

And just like that, he's snapped out of it. Came home, apologised for everything. Admitted he'd been a c**t (his words not mine), cooked tea and is generally doing everything he can to keep me sweet.

He did see his mother earlier so am wondering if she is behind his sudden change of heart.

The jury is still out on this one

[GetStuffezd]

Ah well, alls well that ends well. Until next time. And the next. And the next.
Please please please ask him what prompted this horrible treatment rather than just feeling relief that your punishment is over. I'm shit at wording things, but this is wrong!

[ICantRememberWhatSheSaid]

Oh dear, that is a sorry tale. [Sad]. I am glad he has seen some sense and apologised. Maybe you can have a proper chat with him later in the week.
Hope things go ok.

[McGeeDiNozzo]

I'm glad he's apologised - especially since you have been very accommodating, to be frank. If I went to the pub and got pissed watching sport on my DW's birthday I'd be rent limb from limb by specially-commissioned giant cockroaches. And rightly so.

[pumpkinsweetie]

Blimey what a s* birthday op, poor you, your dh & your fil acted like selfish childlike morons. Celebrate your birthday today or tomorrow, leave dh with baby & get booked into a lovely spa or go out with friends.
Don't give him an option just go

[ApocalypseThen]

I just can't come to terms with the idea that he got drunk enough to pass out in a house where there are children. That should never happen.

[grumpyinthemorning]

McGee, giant cockroaches?

What a twat. If he does it again, tell him to bugger off til he feels like behaving like an adult. You don't have to put up with this.

Sorry about your birthday. Come down to the pub, I'll treat you to a drink or ten

[OctopusPete8]

I'd say something, I'd be pissed off.

I'd be subsequently waking DP up and going for a lie down.

[Flobbadobs]

You are way too kind. My DH would have had a choice of arseholes to use if he behaved like this.
I bet his Mum has had a go at him.

[EhricLovesTeamQhuay]

So what is his explanation for being a cunt? I don't think it's good enough to just say 'I was a cunt' and expect you to say 'ok no problem as long as you know'
Why did he treat you like that?