Would this annoy you?

[OHforDUCKScake]

DP and I are go through a crisis, and we are either about to divide or make one last go of it.

We do not live together.

I have recently bought a car but the lock is faulty (that I now know) and he has a spare key for my car.

Was at school drop off yesterday, back to the cad and the effing car locked me and ds outside the car and my bag, keys, and phone inside.

We had to go back to the school and call dp and ask him to come to us with the spare keys, many appologies ensued of course.

I have to entertain a hungry and manic 2 year old for 40 minutes and he comes sorts it out.

When I get in, to my house, theres his coffee cup on the side which wasnt there before.

So basically he stopped off at mine and had a coffee en route.

Its really pissing me off thinking about it, but probably a bit more than it should because of the issues we are going through at the moment.

The broken car was not my fault, its not like it was an idiot moment, I appologised, grateful he came but Im pissed off thathe stoped off at my home making us wait longer, then leave me his coffee cup there, alone in all its glory for me to wash up.

Would you be annoyed?

[OHforDUCKScake]

I take it all back. He seemed genuinely baffled that Id thought hed stop for coffee and said he thought he got to us quickly considering where he came from. Which is very true, it was quick considering.

Hes not one to lie so I do believe him.

God knows about the mug.

Tbh my reaction is just a symptom of the cracks.

[Hullygully]

[OHforDUCKScake]

Also its been 14 years and we have children, hes not a boyfriend, hes a long term partner with whom we're going through the crapper.

Thanks for your replies.

[OHforDUCKScake]

S'cuse my terrible english. Shocking.

[ExcuseTypos]

Hope you have a nice weekend!

[quesadilla]

If you wAnt to make a go of it I would say let it go: it's insensitive and selfish but probably not worth having a huge fight about if you are on a knife edge.

It does sound as if you are not really sold on staying together though and this is just one of those things pushing you over the edge.

[tootdelafruit]

so a mug just appeared on the counter? no-one put it there? did you have coffee before you left and forget?

[OHforDUCKScake]

No idea toots, Im really distracted at the moment, we have a hell of a lot of stuff on our shoulders so I guess it was just me missing it before. I.e it was there from the last time he had a coffee here.



He has his faults, sure. But lying about something like that just isnt him.
I knew within 2 seconds that he was telling the truth.

[josephinebruce]

I take back what I said then. Maybe you can go away somewhere neutral for a few days (hours?) and just talk?

If the distraction is all due to him and your relationship, then you need to get to sorted for the kids' sake as well as your own.

If it's other stuff, then get that sorted before you make a decision.

Have been there and do understand.

[Snazzywaitingforsummer]

Do you know that he stopped off on the way? Could he have gone round earlier?

This sounds like you are waiting for him to do something that gives you a reason to end it. I would be annoyed at having to wait, but that's still how it looks.

[AdoraBell]

When distracted I've left things that could easily be dealt with/cleared away, I just don't see it iyswim.

My OH also does stooopid things like turn the lights off so he can read when distracted.

[AdoraBell]

Oops, what I was getting at is your are probably both distracted right now.