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to think that dog owners shouldnt assume that everyone else is a dog lover?

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urtwistingmymelonman · 21/06/2013 06:15

when I bump into you in the park I don't want to have a soggy nose repeatedly pushed into my crotch.
when I come to your house for a cuppa I would prefer it if your doggy didn't keep trying to hump my leg.
and when im 17 weeks preggers I don't want a bloody great german shepherd jumping up at me pawing at me with his claws as if hes trying to bury a bone in me!
don't get me wrong,i like dogs and I think anyone who mistreats or neglects them should be hung,drawn and quartered but aibu to think that when this sort of behaviour is displayed said fluffball should be pulled of instead of doting owner giggling and rolling eyes at me in an isn't he adorable kind of fashion?

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HazleNutt · 21/06/2013 10:05

I can't stand the PFD dog-owners who can't be bothered to train their dogs and indulgently smile when the dog is a total pain. So YANBU.

But I have 2 big dogs. Trained and well behaved ones. I don't shut them in another room or put them in kennel for visitors. Visitors are warned that we have pets and they have the choice not to visit, if they don't like dogs. I think that's a reasonable solution.

ImagineJL · 21/06/2013 10:05

kitten I think you're missing the point. For most people, it's not that they don't like dogs as such, it's that they don't like all the possible behaviours.

I'm perfectly happy sitting in a room with a dog, even having it sniff around me a bit, that's fine. What I don't like is to be licked and drooled over, or have my leg humped, or have big dirty paws on my clean clothes.

I remember going to a friend's house for dinner once, wearing a brand new white top. As she opened the door her huge labrador (who I was actually quite fond of) jumped up and put his big muddy paws on my chest, totally covering my top with mud from the garden. I had to borrow one of my friend's tops for the evening, which didn't really fit, and although it obviously didn't spoil the whole evening it did piss me off somewhat.

I wouldn't let a toddler slobber or smear grubby hands over a guest, so I don't expect people's dogs to do it to me.

mrsjay · 21/06/2013 10:07

My dog is a teenager Grin so he gets really excited sometimes I dont want him in my face never mind somebody coming to my house

LtEveDallas · 21/06/2013 10:08

Hi thebody, I can't answer for Kitten, but if I were to shut my dog in another room she would howl, bark and scratch at the door. She'd be far more annoying (and scary) than she is lying snoring at my feet.

WinterWinds · 21/06/2013 10:09

I am not keen on dogs although I was brought up with them. Don't get me wrong I will happily give your dog a pet and a stroke if its calm and well behaved.
But the minute that dog starts bouncing up at me, nearly knocking me off my feet, slobbering all over me and trying to sit on my knee, then that's it, i'm done.

A family members dog does this and for this reason I never stay too long or visit too often. I don't want to be stinking of dog and covered in dog hair by the time I leave (which I usually am) and not to mention the dog is bloody heavier than I am, I cant cope with it.

Also it annoys me when people wont go anywhere without their dog.
Remember going to a barbeque and there was a dog running round the guests and jumping up. I asked friends who were hosting when they had got the dog.Was informed it wasn't theirs but another guests dog that she couldn't possibly leave at home for the duration of the bbq.

And twice now I have had visitors thinking it was perfectly reasonable to bring their dogs to my house when I have a houseful of cats, because they cant be left alone for an hour.
Dh agreed without thinking about the logistics of it, one of my cats will not tolerate dogs and did infact attack one of the dogs. The owner then thought she has reason to complain because her dog got scratched.
I have had to put a stop to visits as if they come they will not leave the dog at home and expect us to accommodate it.

I don't force my cats on others so why should they force their dogs on me.

hollyisalovelyname · 21/06/2013 10:10

Don't worry Kittens I have a large garden and would only consider a small dog anyway.. and I'm not getting a dog because I don't have the time to give it at the moment...... I love dogs and know they need love and attention.

OneMoreChap · 21/06/2013 10:10

As a dog owner - with multiple dogs, I don't assume anyone else loves dogs. Why would I?

I have an issue with parents that let kids just run up to dogs and hug/pet the. [Mine are fine, having been brought up with my and family's children, but the parents should always check first.]

I have a similar issue with screamer parents "keep your animals away". Listen, parent, my animals are leaded. Your screaming upsets them, the child, you and me.

Oh and FWIW I trust my dogs completely. I would NEVER EVER leave them alone with a baby/child; not safe for the child or the dogs and I can't believe people that do.

KittensoftPuppydog · 21/06/2013 10:11

Fry, Yes fine, it's up to you, but it's not a decision I can go along with. Why should dog owners accommodate your issues? I'm glad yor children don't feel the same because cutting out dogs from life cuts out a lot of joy too.
I actually used to work with people who had phobias and getting them out of this situation was really satisfying for me and them. They acknowledged that their lives were restricted and did something about it.
I must go and do something more useful now.
Just remember, people, that dog owners often love their animals as much as you love members of your own family.

KittensoftPuppydog · 21/06/2013 10:14

Holly. NO!!! Dogs need to interact with other dogs too. Even the best trained dog. I know a blind man with a guide dog who takes his dog to the park every day, because he realises that dogs need to be dogs, even of only for an hour a day. She runs around like a loon playing with the other dogs and it's great to see.

KittensoftPuppydog · 21/06/2013 10:15

Obv, he can't see it though ...

KatyTheCleaningLady · 21/06/2013 10:20

To the dog owners who let their dogs run up to people, what would you do if the person kicked your dog really hard?

Roshbegosh · 21/06/2013 10:20

Doinmecleanin, 4 dogs in a small two up two down. Bloody hell. The noise and stink and mess would be unbearable to me so I would be in the group that choose not to visit. Guess we'll never be friends. Do you smell like a dog and are you covered in dog hair?

AudrinaAdare · 21/06/2013 10:24

YANBU. I once saw it phrased on here as, "not everybody loves your manky pet". DH and I use it all the time now.

Crumbledwalnuts · 21/06/2013 10:28

I stepped in a dog poo yesterday the size of a cob loaf. Some dog owners are ghastly, you are quite right.

KatyTheCleaningLady · 21/06/2013 10:30

Doinmecleanin The extent to which you prioritise your dogs over people, including the wellbeing of your own children, is well documented on here.

thebody · 21/06/2013 10:32

If the dog howls and scratches at the door then isn't that a badly trained dog?

Roshbegosh · 21/06/2013 10:33

Children too, OMG. Still it saves you having their friends over in your glorified kennel.

LtEveDallas · 21/06/2013 10:34

To the dog owners who let their dogs run up to people, what would you do if the person kicked your dog really hard?

If my dog had run up to someone but not connected with them in any way - I'd kick the human back just as hard.

If my dog had run up and jumped up at the human then I would be pissed off but would know that it was my fault for not training my dog not to jump up.

But that's not going to happen, because my dog is well trained and will not run up to someone - she may try, but before she gets more than a few yards from me I can call her back or make her "down" in place (there is collie in her, she is completely push button)

LtEveDallas · 21/06/2013 10:36

If the dog howls and scratches at the door then isn't that a badly trained dog?

No thebody, it's a dog with seperation issues from being dumped in a sealed sports bag and left to die.

HazleNutt · 21/06/2013 10:37

Rosh I only have 2 dogs but yes, there certainly is some dog hair and if it rains, wet dog smell too. Just like parents have their clothes covered in baby sick and house smelling of nappies. Some consider it a small price to pay.

OrmirianResurgam · 21/06/2013 10:38

I can assure you I don't assume everyone is a dog lover. I tend to assume they are foaming-at-the-mouth rabid dog haters who will scream and faint when presented with my mild-mannered totally uninterested stafflabollie. Unless provided with evidence to the contrary. So if, in the unlikely event of him showing any interest at all in a person with less than 4 legs without their overt encouragement, I call him away and keep him close by my legs.

FryOneFatManic · 21/06/2013 10:39

Kittens, you are missing my point. I don't now go near dogs unless it's unavoidable, but then I don't need to. I certainly don't consider it to be in the realms of phobia.

And I certainly don't feel as if my life is in any way restricted. There is a clear implication in your post that you feel that people who don't like dogs are in some way missing out. "I'm glad yor children don't feel the same because cutting out dogs from life cuts out a lot of joy too." Only if you like dogs.

Lazyjaney · 21/06/2013 10:40

"Okay, dogs should be trained not to pester people, but IMO people who don't like dogs are just plain wrong, and overreact a lot too"

Clearly very unreasonable to not like wet noses in your crotch and drool down your clothes.

One of my kids was massively allergic to dogs when small, and oh my the grumpiness of some dog owners when we shooed their dogs away (I'm talking public places here, not their homes).

LtEveDallas · 21/06/2013 10:42

Do you smell like a dog and are you covered in dog hair?

Rosh, I know you are just being a GF and trying to get a rise out of people, but I have a friend with 5 dogs, 8 rabbits and 3 cats in a 3-up-2-down.

Her house is immaculate, she is always smartly turned out, no dog hair, no smells and is a damn sight nicer than most dog haters I meet.

In fact, because she has so many animals I would say she borders on OCD, so her house is probably cleaner and less smelly than yours - ie do you disinfect all your floors and the fronts of all your kitchen cupboards every single day? She does.

thebody · 21/06/2013 10:42

Oh bless him. Lt, in that case am sure guests would understand and anyway he sounds like he doesn't jump up etc.

No personally I love dogs but I just have one friend who simply can't be in the same room as one and can't go to the park without another adult.

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