to feel cross about wording/spelling on wedding invite

[littlediamond33]

A close family member (on my dh side) is due to get married.She has made her own invites (they are very nice, so far so good) however, there are several spelling mistakes (even though they printed the words using a computer, so could/should of spell checked it).

For example-'aprecate' instead of 'appreciate'.
the name of the (well known) shop where the wedding list is.and more shocking, the name of the church!

She has also worded the invite (imo) in a slightly rude way. This is a line from the invite-We would aprecate vouchers from this shop to get stuff for our house.

My dh pointed all of the above out in a gentle and polite way before the invites were sent, but she just laughed and said "what am i like!" and sent them.

I know my post is prob full of mistakes but my point is, this is a very special day and i wouldnt want people laughing behind my back and it just gives people the impression that the couple are not taking this seriously?

sorry, but it is "should /could have not of

I don't think it says they aren't taking it seriously. They obviously are not bothered.

And its could/should have not of.

Bloody awful! Would annoy me too, but then I am a bit anal about these things

Now that bit of smart-arsery is over with .....

It is a bit slap-dash to send out something formal which contains spelling mistakes. I often wonder how spelling mistakes on shop signs get through the editing process.

I don't think the bit about the vouchers is rude.

(I meant my own smart-arsery, BTW)

Well there you are then, the bride is pretty secure in herself and doesnt give a rats ass what anyone thinks. Try not to either, and enjoy the day

i didnt mean asking for vouchers was rude i mean saying 'stuff' (could have been worded a little nicer maybe?)

People in glass houses...

With such a snotty holierthanthou attitude i`m surprised you got an invite......

Is this thread serious?

My wedding invitations have really crap grammar, because I was fucking busy at the time and my brain stopped working. Who cares?

Some people just don't much notice spelling and grammar.

I have to admit I assume this is an 'amusing joke' thread as I can't believe anyone writes 'could of' and is also this judgy. It just doens't seem very likely.

FOOKINELL, i am not being snotty, if they are happy with this then its their shout, i just wanted to know what other people thought and i didnt want the couple to be laughed at (and some people already are doing this btw.)

Yeah, I'm sure there's more than one person in the world petty enough to laugh at an ungrammatical wedding invitation from someone they care about.

I would find it strange too OP.

It is shoddy - however so is your own grammar so you may not be the best person to advise.

Sorry - couldn't think of a nicer way to say that.

What right do you have to be cross about it - it is not your invite. Accept or don't - that's all you have to do.

If people are actually laughing at them then they are twats.

The spelling would irk me a little, but that's my problem and I wouldn't think badly of the couple. I would just be happy that they thought to invite me and hope they have a great day!

'You would'nt want people to laugh at them'? How sanctimonious. I'd rather people had a laugh rather than got on their judgy high horse on a public forum.
i wouldn't worry too much, Not everyone is so insecure that they have to ridicule others in order to draw attention to themselves.

I just think that the tone of your OP was a little "off", considering it had so many spelling and grammar mistakes in itself. Yes, I know this is a public forum and Autocorrect is not always helpful, but writing "could/should of" implies that that is how you think it should be spelt and therefore, you should not be so judgemental.

It sounds like they're not very well-educated. I certainly wouldn't laugh at them for that.

Only mean people would laugh about this
If you are concerned though why do you not think the same people are laughing at you right now for your post on a public forum?

LAYMIZZRARB- iam not ridiculing them and iam not trying to draw attention to myself.I just wanted to see what others thought.

I am a terrible speller. When I get married I hope people who are offended by my craps spelling are so offended by the invite that they decline the invite.

It is an invitation to celebrate their marriage not an invitation to judge the bride's spelling.

I would cringe if I received an invitation like that.

My English is far from perfect, but if there are really basic things wrong with the invitation then I'd think most people would notice.

It's quite sad for the couple really. I should imagine like most brides, this one wants her wedding to go well, especially if she has taken the time to make the cards nicely.

IME 'spelling' and 'grammar' are two different things entirely.
spelling 'appreciate' incorrectly is forgivable...lots of people can't spell. Saying "should 'of'" is just ignorant.