to feel cross about wording/spelling on wedding invite

[littlediamond33]

A close family member (on my dh side) is due to get married.She has made her own invites (they are very nice, so far so good) however, there are several spelling mistakes (even though they printed the words using a computer, so could/should of spell checked it).

For example-'aprecate' instead of 'appreciate'.
the name of the (well known) shop where the wedding list is.and more shocking, the name of the church!

She has also worded the invite (imo) in a slightly rude way. This is a line from the invite-We would aprecate vouchers from this shop to get stuff for our house.

My dh pointed all of the above out in a gentle and polite way before the invites were sent, but she just laughed and said "what am i like!" and sent them.

I know my post is prob full of mistakes but my point is, this is a very special day and i wouldnt want people laughing behind my back and it just gives people the impression that the couple are not taking this seriously?

FFS it's a WEDDING INVITATION - it's not like an informal post on FB or MN - this is something that people keep (my SIL still has one of mine and my ex-husband's invitation years after we divorced). Do you really want something so important to contain mis-spellings? I don't. But then again, I'm generally unreasonable anyway.

Oooh, OP you should of (!) put this in Pedants' Corner, then listened carefully to hear the sound of all the Pedants self-combusting all across the land. I'm one

Spelling mistakes annoy me no end but - and it's a big BUT - this is not your problem! You aren't responsible for the outcome/laughing, and it sounds as if the bride doesn't give a canary's fart, so just ignore it & trot off & buy your vouchers.

P.S It's invitation, not invite (noun, not verb - see Pedants' Corner for details!)

Can we just all agree to blame the groom?

do you always "laugh behind the backs" of people who can't spell? At their weddings of all things? nice.

You were invited and nicely. She is clearly a working class lass. Providing the wedding isn't at the Dorchester and she isn't the hon somebody or another who gives a flying fuckm

I wouldn't waste my time worrying about people I don't know possibly laughing at someone who doesn't care. She obviously believes that the people she has invited to her wedding are better friends than you do - maybe she assumes that her close friends will be more generous than you about the errors.

I would expect a wedding invitation not to contain errors, just because it's supposed to be something special, but that's just me.

The vouchers bit would have offended me, FGS using the word 'stuff' makes them sound ignorant and, alongside asking guests for something specific, entitled. There are nicer ways which don't seem as presumptuous (and that are not written in a bloody begging poem).

Yoko, are you my SIL? You sound just like her....

OP, just have a laugh about it and ignore. Hope you go along for the big day & have a lovely time.

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ladycelia no idea what you mean! I don't think I e said anything offensive...

(broken iPhone screens tend to undermine ones point on a thread like this...) :)

It's a formal communication and should be spell checked. Surely the computer picked up the appreciate error with a red sqiggle to indicate there was an error. "Buy things" is a simple way of rephasing "get stuff" (still not the wording I would choose, but I'm assuming that they aren't into flowery formal language)

It does sound sloppy and undermines the effort that she's made to make the invitations. To make the invitations makes it sound like she does care- if she didn't why not just invite people with an email. It's sad rather than something that would make me cross.

I'd be pretty staggered to receive an invitation like this. I mean, it's up to them. I'm a pedant who works in the print industry - you ALWAYS get your work checked by someone else. How much more so if you're not a professional, know your spelling is a bit dodgy, and it's your WEDDING invitation FFS.

My DP can't spell for toffee, but he'd get anything that important checked. I think it's odd. Not wrong or wicked, but very odd.

I consider myself to be an excellent speller. Nevertheless I always spellcheck anything I have written because I am a crap typist and I still make the odd spelling mistake.

I am amazed that it never occurs to some people to do this. Maybe it is because my background is in writing marketing publications and I have spent years of my life proof reading, but I admit to getting easily irritated by anything that has been badly spelled.

Rude and illiterate. What exactly is "very nice" about them?
They sound completely cringeworthy; but anyone capable of producing something like that won't care

The invitation sounds naff. Don't be cross about it though.

"She has also worded the invite"
It is an invitation. She has worded the invitation. To invite is a verb

People in glass houses...

Grammar aside, it IS odd that she'd misspell the name of the venue! What if people use satnav and can't find it? Equally weird to misspell the store name.

On second thoughts yes, it is lazy not to bother spell checking when it is such an important invite and it would not make me 'cross' but would irritate me.
Should 'of' still bugs me though but I was over the top saying it was ignorant...maybe just unaware?

Does it matter? Does it make you feel better about yourself to pick holes?

You are right, your post IS full of mistakes

There are lots of not very bright people around. Live and let live. Not worth getting upset over.

Your DH did the right thing to point the errors out before the invitations were sent. But they obviously don't care that much. I wouldn't have been able to send them until I'd corrected them but some people are more relaxed about these things. And to be fair many recipients won't notice or care either.