to feel cross about wording/spelling on wedding invite

[littlediamond33]

A close family member (on my dh side) is due to get married.She has made her own invites (they are very nice, so far so good) however, there are several spelling mistakes (even though they printed the words using a computer, so could/should of spell checked it).

For example-'aprecate' instead of 'appreciate'.
the name of the (well known) shop where the wedding list is.and more shocking, the name of the church!

She has also worded the invite (imo) in a slightly rude way. This is a line from the invite-We would aprecate vouchers from this shop to get stuff for our house.

My dh pointed all of the above out in a gentle and polite way before the invites were sent, but she just laughed and said "what am i like!" and sent them.

I know my post is prob full of mistakes but my point is, this is a very special day and i wouldnt want people laughing behind my back and it just gives people the impression that the couple are not taking this seriously?

What a lovely post morticia...

OK, it's not fantastic that the invites are less than perfect but what a shame if people laugh at them.

Lots of people don't do well at school and struggle with literacy - finding out people are mocking them must be horrible!

Really Buzzardbird?

I think saying 'should of' instead of 'should have' is much more forgivable than a spelling mistake, especially one that has been done on a computer.

The spelling mistake is a bit more surprising, because it is a mis-type, rather than not knowing how to spell appreciate.

Why do you feel the need to "forgive" people for spelling mistakes Clouds?

Are you a deity?

And that should also have included Buzzardbird.

I'd much rather have a money/voucher request in that onset straight forward way than one hidden in a flipping poem

Onset?? Honest.

YABU to feel "cross" about it. What's there to feel cross about - they weren't your invitations she sent out with spelling mistakes on.

I would feel it was a bit daft. I'm not sure whether I would get "cross". It seems silly to put the effort into making nice handmade invites when you can't be bothered to check basic spelling.

I can't believe people are comparing the grammar of a post to that of a wedding invite. Surely you would have (several) others proof read your wedding invitation, to check for errors. But a post...you might be doing a million other things while mindlessly surfing the net.

I would think it is a bit crap to receive a wedding invite that says "stuff" and has typos on it. But I would ignore them on a post.

The misspelling of 'appreciate' doesn't seem too bad as it's just a missing letter and could be a typing error, but the wording "stuff" sounds a bit ignorant to me. Though less grabby than 'cash'.

But I'm personally more irritated by "could of" and 'invite' instead of invitation. You invite people by sending an invitation. Not an invite.

Bloody hell can we not laugh and judge wedding invitations any more? I thought that was the point (on mumsnet at least).

I did laugh at the irony of the would of mistake. Would of, should of is FAR more irritating than spelling mistakes.

I do admire the chutzpah of someone who just thought bollocks at the spelling mistakes and sent them out anyway.

I get terribly annoyed when people don't get others to proofread important things for them - MN is starting to make me feel like its a character flaw of mines.

And yes my posts are full of poor grammar and typos, but they aren't formal invites!

Anyway I don't blame the bride - I blame our pisspoor educational system which is failing so many people. Because if she sends out say a job application similar to this invite, then she WOULD be judged.

Really? Those people saying that they are crap spellers, you wouldn't get someone to proof read your wedding invitation? It's not a quick email to a mate, it's a formal invitation to one of the most important days of your life.

What do you do about your CV, job applications, letters of complaint?

Would she have handed out invite f she wasn't happy with them? Perhaps it's all tongue in cheek for her? I think ur slightly obsessive over something over nothing! The world has bigger fish to fry

Does it really matter? Does it make you feel better to mock her?

What a nasty thread.

Invite???

INVITE hahahaah short for invitation.....

DH's cousin's wedding invitation stated, 'Mr and Mrs X request the pleasure of MrYoko and Yoko'... I kept having a weird flash-forward where DH and I were humping at the altar

They are now divorced after a couple of years which, I realise, is neither here nor there...

I would RVSP (sic) and tell them you will attend but you'll have to eat, shoot and leaves.

Who started this should of crap? They need to go back to school along with the people who say somethink. It isn't cute.

PS far more people are literate and numerate than 'in the good old days', this has nothing to do with schools and a perceived lack of standards in education fabricated by Gove and the DM

I would probably cringe too a bit if I knew which words were not correct (and that's a big IF) but I'd also be a bit like, 'good for you for just doing some bloody invites for the purpose they were intended -TO INVITE)

The weddings that I've been to that don't sweat the small stuff are always more fun IMO. But don't think you're being a total arse, a lot of people are going to look at it and be a bit

Not the ones I work with yoko. The standards some of them leave school with are shocking. And have been long before gove got a sniff of portfolio, and will continue to be long after he is gone.

Pot, kettle.......Your own grammar is poor so what makes you think you can take issue with another person's?