Thank you for the wonderful ideas and recipes.
DD is pretty good at eating what she does. I just worry about the lack of fruit and veg intake and lack of healthy snacks which aren't carb based (breadsticks, ricecakes etc.)
Maryz we try to have fruit and veg on show in the kitchen and eat together so that she sees us eating it but she won't eat at all if any veg is on her plate. Even at friends houses. Perhaps raw things best to put near her first. Soup is the next plan though.
Sanity and Tantrums - unfortunately she is resistant to most bribes or ways of encouraging her. I have tried cooking with her but that didn't work so well, although it got her to touch salad which was a step, so need to do that again. She won't engage in bribes or eat choc covered fruit. We asked yesterday if she would eat cucumber for a reward and she refused. I once bribed her to eat peas for a toy and she said (aged 3 or 4) that she would never do it again and simply wait till Xmas in future 
- this was in the summer!
I eat most veg (not brussel sprouts but who does?) - I was picky as a child though but in a different way, not keen on the carbs!
MumnGran DD won't touch lemon ice cream - fruit. Or lemon drizzle cake (tested that at the weekend). Or sweets as they have hidden fruit flavours. I might make it for me though. Or did you mean I should impress DH?
souffle ??? Lets start with the basics shall we?
Her resistance to fruit is extreme (more than veg, so maybe I start there). The smell seems to upset her. She can smell OJ and bananas even if she can't see them and runs out of the room.
Do you think I could hide dried fruit in a tray thing with chocolate and healthier stuff - healthy rocky road? Or would it be too obvious? Just wondering as a treat to have something other than biscuits that she will eat.
Thank you all so much for this, it is reassuring to hear stories of food refusers eating properly as they get older. Its made me feel like a crap mum many times so its good to know that I am not the only one.