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AIBU?

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To want to take a bottle of water on the nursery trip?

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Kyrptonite · 17/06/2013 23:25

Bit of a random one! I'm 28 weeks pregnant, work in a nursery and we are going on a trip Wednesday on a coach. It's only an hour/hour and a half away but this pregnancy has been making me feel sick even on short car journeys so I am dreading the coach trip.

I asked today if I can take a bottle of water to drink on the coach if needed. Apparently I'm not because then the kids might want a drink too. I understand this but I'm hormonal, stroppy and really don't want to be sick on the bloody coach!

I also have SPD so the idea of wandering around a sodding aquarium all day with no chance to sit down may be adding to my stroppiness about this!

Am I being unreasonable and do I need to suck it up and accept its not a huge journey and if I'm sick I will just have to deal with it?

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CloudsAndTrees · 17/06/2013 23:26

Of course you should be allowed to take water! I would and I'm not pregnant!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 17/06/2013 23:30

What? Why did you even ask? You're an adult. Take a bag. Put drink in bag. Drink it if you need to.

trashcanjunkie · 17/06/2013 23:31

and so should the kids!

Startail · 17/06/2013 23:32

Then surely you just smile and say no you don't want grown up germs.

I'm never car sick, except when PG when I feel awful if I'm not driving. I would certainly want a drink and the front seat as seeing where you are going generally makes it better.

squalorvictoria · 17/06/2013 23:34

That's appalling - for you and the children. God forbid anyone should need a drink on a 60-90 minute journey.

Jan49 · 17/06/2013 23:35

YANBU. But TBH if I were you I'd say you can't go on the trip. 7 months pg plus SPD = not wanting to sit in a coach and wander around an aquarium. Can you tell them you can't do it or go sick?

If I had a child of nursery age and they were going on a coach for up to 1.5 hours I'd want water to be available.

sallysparrow157 · 17/06/2013 23:35

Hmm... You have a drink and the kids want one too versus you vom into a tescos carrier bag in front of the kids and the ones feeling a little sicky on the bus all start vomming too.... Why did you even feel the need to ask? You are an adult, not a nursery kid, you are allowed to drink water without putting your hand up and asking miss! (Not ranting at you but at the crapness of being treated like a child when you're an adult)

Willowbear · 17/06/2013 23:39

Of course you should be allowed to take water on the bus, and as for the children wanting to drink it they should all have water with them too.

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Kyrptonite · 17/06/2013 23:42

I can't get out of the trip. I contemplated being signed off but I can't afford to be! SIL has it worse. She's 30 weeks pregnant, high risk for prem labour and still has to go. I'm counting down the weeks until my maternity leave.
I was asked if I could rearrange a physio appointment Friday as someone had annual leave and she couldn't have anyone else off. Turned up for work Friday and she had authorised someone else to have Friday off the day before

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jessjessjess · 17/06/2013 23:44

So the kids want a drink and you say no. Problem solved.

MidniteScribbler · 18/06/2013 02:33

Good grief, what it is about restricting water to human beings? Our school rules changed quite a few years ago and children now actually have a drink bottle on their desk which they can swig from whenever necessary. They can also refill it whenever necessary. Water is a basic human necessity!

I'd start talking about the workplace relations tribunal if someone told me I couldn't drink water when I needed to.

piprabbit · 18/06/2013 02:47

Why did you think you needed permission? It wouldn't have crossed my mind to ask - I'd have just put the bottle in my bag.

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Kyrptonite · 18/06/2013 06:35

I don't even know why I asked her. I'm just going to take a bottle of water.

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claraschu · 18/06/2013 06:44

What happens if you get stuck in traffic? My daughter's school trip took 3 1/2 hours instead of 1 because of an accident on the motorway. Don't you have water for the children? That is terrible. It is torture sitting on a coach feeling thirsty for hours.

ShadeofViolet · 18/06/2013 06:44

I would be packing my child with a drink for the coach. 90 minutes is a long time on a coach and Wednesday is supposed to be hot.

What if the children start feeling sick?

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Kyrptonite · 18/06/2013 06:55

We have drinks in their lunch boxes which I imagine will be used if we are stuck in traffic. I get the logic- 40 2-4 year olds drinking on a coach without a loo but at the same time it does seem a bit off.

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exoticfruits · 18/06/2013 07:09

I'm surprised you asked! Take a large handbag, take a bottle and drink when you need to, they won't even notice if you are discreet.
Failing that tell them that you mentioned it at an ante natal appointment and they told you that you should take water.

HollaAtMeBaby · 18/06/2013 07:49

YANBU. You do know t's illegal for them not to give you time off for antenatal appointments? I'd be asking the GP to sign me off from now on, personally - and the same goes for your SIL.

Sparklymommy · 18/06/2013 08:02

Dodgy ground your employer is on here! Firstly, water should be readily available at all times to the children, whether on a coach or not! And I think your antenatal appointments should trump someone's annual leave. I would definitely mention it to your midwife.

pigletmania · 18/06/2013 08:05

Yanbu at all you and te kids have every right to water. I hope that they are going to bring their water. Just pop it in your baht and sip it if you need. Appealing beaviou by the nursery manager

Aetae · 18/06/2013 08:07

I don't understand. Are they seriously suggesting that you are not allowed to have water and you are seriously contemplating listening to them? You're an adult, why are you even asking??

Is the concept of "mine" and "yours" (and "people have different needs") not something useful for these kids to understand? Why on earth if you have a bottle of water does it have anything to do with he children?

exoticfruits · 18/06/2013 08:11

I don't understand why you asked- you are an adult employee and not a nursery child. I think the DCs should have access to water anyway.

KentishWine · 18/06/2013 08:12

Children on an 1.5 hour coach journey in summer(ish) with no water?! Is that even legal? It's going to be 27 degrees in London on Wednesday.

I'm never without a bottle of water. Anyone who told me I wasn't allowed it would have to fight me for it.

This is pretty outrageous actually.

childcarehell · 18/06/2013 08:14

Take it, drink it....what will they do???? Like to see that disciplinary go anywhere

whois · 18/06/2013 08:30

Agree OP you should just take a bottle with you, not something you need to ask about. If you think it will help you stop feeling sick its not really negotiable.

Pretty funny all the 'I always have water with me' posters though, you do realise that human beings are not balanced on a knife edge between hydration and dehydration? You should be perfectly able to go for period of time without sipping at your comfort bottle.

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