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This is emotional blackmail. There must be laws against this, surely?

243 replies

D0oinMeCleanin · 14/06/2013 21:44

I can have them grounded arrested or something, no?

I got a lovely glitter painting from my DC. It's of a no smoking sign and a dead person Hmm.

It has glitter gel pen writing on it.

It reads "Mammy, please stop smoking. It is bad for you. You will die a lot sooner than you normally would. It will make you really poorly. We don't want you to die [insert face with glitter tears]

People who want you to stop
[insert dd1, dd2 and DH's signature]

Me and dd2 and Daddy would want you to quit. It would make us very happy. We love you lots"

This is worse than those awful bloody adverts with the children.

Please tell me I can punish them? This is just wrong. Glitter should not be used this way.

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D0oinMeCleanin · 14/06/2013 21:45

Oh and I sent them to bed an hour ago, I can at least ground them for that, can't I?

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D0oinMeCleanin · 14/06/2013 21:46

And they took the glitter paint upstairs. Paint is not allowed upstairs. That's a groundable offense, yes?

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paulapantsdown · 14/06/2013 21:48

Smart kids! Well done to them I say. stop bloody smoking, it's not that hard, and that's coming from an ex 30 a dayer. It will mean you won't die so young and you won't smell either.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 14/06/2013 21:48

Don't make a joke about something that is not funny Sad. You might do better to think and take on board the sad message that your children are trying to convey to you.

MalcolmTuckersMum · 14/06/2013 21:50

Get yourself an e-cig. Job done!

cortado · 14/06/2013 21:50

Tell them that you smoking will reduce the state pension liabilities they will have to fund for you when they grow up. That'll learn em.

D0oinMeCleanin · 14/06/2013 21:51

I have one Malcolm. I never got on with it. It makes me cough and makes my chest feel all tight. Maybe I should try a different brand?

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Footface · 14/06/2013 21:54

Have you tried to stop smoking? I used to smoke. Loads. Feel like such a fool for every smoking and falling for the propaganda from the cigarette companies

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Yettish · 14/06/2013 21:56

That's really sad. How come you're not racked with guilt and shame, OP?

Just give up. It's not hard.

Szeli · 14/06/2013 21:56

Those e cig are awful! So addictive and so strong! They just don't cater to lighter smokers.

If you do want to quit try cutting down then cutting out.

GeordieCherry · 14/06/2013 21:57

Do you want to carry on smoking or do you want to give up?

ImagineJL · 14/06/2013 21:58

I think that's really sad. Do you feel ready to have another go at giving up? I hope you do.

FoxyRevenger · 14/06/2013 21:58

OP I bloody miss smoking.

That's some cunning behaviour, dude. I mean, glitter. There's no need to invoke The Glitter Covenant which states that you MOST OBEY. Bastards. Grin

Dawndonna · 14/06/2013 21:59

Those who say it's not hard to quit, that may have been the case for you, but for some it's harder.
Yes, OP you really should. Having said that, I gave up last year at the age of 54. I found an ecig that was actually nicotine free, it took me three weeks and I did put on weight, but I haven't had a fag, ecig or otherwise, for eighteen months.

HeffalumpTheFlump · 14/06/2013 21:59

Definitely try a different brand of e cig, I have tried 3 different brands and found I got along best with the menthol vapestick. I didn't used to smoke menthol but I don't like the flavour of the tobacco ones. If you try to give up good luck :)

rootypig · 14/06/2013 21:59

OP Grin Grin

all offences. Send them to bed with no dinner Grin

(and do quit the fags)

OutragedFromLeeds · 14/06/2013 21:59

Quit smoking.

Apart from all the health benefits it will be a really strong, positive message to your DD's that you care about their feelings and that they can have a positive impact on their own lives and environment.

We'll all support you .

NoobyNoob · 14/06/2013 22:04

It's not hard? What bullshit!

It's the hardest thing to do!! I'm currently in the midst of not smoking and its been the hardest month of my fucking life. I've even faltered a few times but I get back up and try again.

OP - listen to the message they're giving you and try to stop before it stops you.

takeaway2 · 14/06/2013 22:05

My FIL quit a couple of years ago. Mil
Still smokes and they live in the same house but he is so much healthier for it. Do quit. My dad is still guilt ridden that he might have caused me to develop asthma as he smoked when I was v little. He stopped. My brother was born. No asthma.

WorraLiberty · 14/06/2013 22:05

E-Lites are the best brand imo and they also cater for light smokers.

You've got very clever manipulative kids lol Grin

I think this could catch on, although I'm not sure how some people would feel about receiving a card like that if they were drinking heavily or eating themselves into obesity.

It would probably make them think, although it could upset them.

MalcolmTuckersMum · 14/06/2013 22:06

Actually any amount of guilt piling will have no effect whatsoever on a smoker who is not ready to quit. You're all wasting your typing energy. Do you honestly think a smoker doesn't know all that shizz? Of course they do.
Jeeze - preachy types! Understand this - It. Never. Works.

D0oin I'm using the Halo from Smoker's Angel as recommended by some lovely person on Chat. Never looked back. I heartily recommend them - and their customer service is second to none.

BadgersNadgers · 14/06/2013 22:12

Little buggers! Make them eat sprouts for a week Grin

WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/06/2013 22:13

D0oin, I was up to nearly 40 a day 11 years ago. I could barely cope at work, going hours between breaks. Plus the astonishing cost of cigarettes then, I think it's doubled since. I had to use nicotine gum stuff if I was going on a flight or something.
One day I woke up and I knew that was it for me. No more cigarettes. I was done with being dependant on something so stupid.
11 years, cold turkey, no aids, no patches. Hate it with a passion now.
Good luck, you can do it, if you truly want to.