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To feel a little sorry for the 7 children benefits Mum.

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MilgramsLittleHelper · 12/06/2013 11:19

www.itv.com/daybreak/hottopics/benefits-mum/

Is just seems like another bit of benefit bashing to me.

I know she shouldn't have had children she couldn't afford, but what hope of improving her lot???

OP posts:
ItsallFeegle · 12/06/2013 17:02

Bacon - ketchup is so common ShockWink

FasterStronger · 12/06/2013 17:03

and because it depends about what options are open to you:

100k pa FT v benefits, no thanks
15k pa FT v benefits, yes please

ItsallFeegle · 12/06/2013 17:03

That was lighthearted, of course, Bacon. Please don't take offence Smile

BaconKetchup · 12/06/2013 17:03

I don't understand Confused

BaconKetchup · 12/06/2013 17:03

I'm not taking offence but I genuinely don't understand Grin

Floggingmolly · 12/06/2013 17:04

I can't imagine thinking the children should be moved into a smaller house and lose their own bedrooms. What kind of mentality is that? Ah..one which just cares about money. Hmm
No, to be specific, Fanjo, cares about who's earning the money.

merrymouse · 12/06/2013 17:04

Don't have strong feelings either way about her. However feckless she may have been, her children exist and one way or another our society has to care for every child in the uk. I imagine it is cheaper for them to be cared for by a loving mother than be put into care.

I do feel sorry for all benefit claimants who will find life tougher because of this kind of rather irrelevant headline. Have daybreak give much coverage to cuts in legal aid?

HollyBerryBush · 12/06/2013 17:04

Because I like work, I have a work ethic, and I was brought up not to put my hand out expecting to be filled by someone else.

As I said, and I will say it again and again and again: The welfare state was designed to be a safety blanket for the less fortunate not a lifestyle choice for the feckless and bone idle.

No one objects when the welfare state is used for its proper purpose.

Upon further reading, not included in the tot up of money is 2 lots of DLA and carers allowance.

BeauNidle · 12/06/2013 17:04

Boulevard - we also know that this money comes by taking it from armed forces, police, nhs, education et al.
If we all had that attitude there'd be folk moaning that they can't have an operation without an 18 month wait etc etc.

ItsallFeegle · 12/06/2013 17:06

Just a wee joke, but everyone knows it should be bacon and brown sauce Grin

Just because we've got opposing opinions, doesn't mean we can't giggle. Wink

merrymouse · 12/06/2013 17:06

Sometimes less fortunate means being born into a family that isn't very good at family planning.

Large families have high benefits because the parents claim m

claig · 12/06/2013 17:06

claig is your post serious?

Absolutely.

We have a declining birth rate. We need more people. £32000 per year benefits is nothing compared to the expenses and taxi fares paid by the taxpayer to some MPs.

There are very few families with 7 children and £32000 is much cheaper than caring for them in social care and the outcome for the kids will be much better with their family.

BaconKetchup · 12/06/2013 17:07

ItsallFeegle Oh I see Grin No no no, bacon with ketchup is the food of the gods. Can't besmirch it with brown sauce!

merrymouse · 12/06/2013 17:08

Oops

.........
Claim money on behalf of their children, not because they have a right to claiming for themselves.

BaconKetchup · 12/06/2013 17:08

claig I'm not talking about any post like that Confused

I'm talking about the post about the DM?

ItsallFeegle · 12/06/2013 17:08

Lets stop funding illegal wars instead of demonising benefits claimants...there's a thought Hmm

ItsallFeegle · 12/06/2013 17:10

Oh FFS! Me and you, Bacon, we were never meant to be Grin

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 12/06/2013 17:10

I'd also be interested to meet this mythical landlord who's going to rent their 3-bed property to someone on HB with 7 kids...

grumpyinthemorning · 12/06/2013 17:10

The majority do use benefits as a safety net. Am on my phone so can't find them right now, but there are studies on the rate of depression amongst benefit claimants. You have to be seriously messed up to prefer a soul-crushing life on benefits.

And it is soul-crushing. I sincerely hope none of you find yourselves in that position.

BeauNidle · 12/06/2013 17:10

ItsallFeegle - Nobody is demonising benefits claimants as a whole. It is those who have chosen this as a lifestyle choice that we have the issue with. Of which there are many, and numbers growing every day.

BaconKetchup · 12/06/2013 17:11

Feegle there's still hope if your username is a reference to the Terry Pratchett books... Grin

ophelia275 · 12/06/2013 17:11

BeauNidle, she can't downsize. Don't you know that making her children share a room (2 to each room) would be too traumatic on her children and would be cruel beyond words. Her children have got used to having their own rooms. What kind of society would we be if we expected children to share bedrooms? Only a frothing Daily Mail reading Tory would suggest such Dickensian cruelty Wink.

HollyBerryBush · 12/06/2013 17:11

We need these children? Why? Both parents are unemployed, children tend to follow parental patterns of behaviour - in a few years if they all do follow the same pattern, there will be 49 of them doing nothing and bemoaning they don't have a 6 bedroomed house each.

I fail to see exactly why we need them. What use are they?

FasterStronger · 12/06/2013 17:12

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 12-Jun-13 16:50:41

i cant imagine thinking children should be moved into a smaller house and lose their own bedrooms. What kind of mentality is that? Ah..one which just cares about money

is that a serious comment?

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 12/06/2013 17:12

Yeah, BaconKetchup, claig truly believes the Daily Mail is the source of all truth and knowledge. He/she is a bit of a character, as we say back inthe old country.