To be so frustrated that I want to just scream?!?!

[ariane5]

Trying to arrange help for when I (possibly) have an op later in the week.

All I would like is for DH to take 2 days off. Look after 2 younger dcs whilst older 2 at school, let me reat when home and the following day BUT he wants me to postpone as "needs to work" and is worried how he will cope with dcs.

Dm said she "cannot possibly" take time off. Dsis said she will 'help' but her help involves taking the baby for a couple of hrs the following day out for a little walk in his "nice buggy" with her dp to cafe/shops and that's it.
Dh said he might be ok with 1 day off and I asked dm/dsis can I go to their house so am not on my own with dcs but dsis wasn't keen on 'proper' helping as its a lot of work and wants dh to help instead.
Mil wants to know why does dh need time off-shes apparently had a similar op and returned to work the same afternoon.

I just feel like cancelling, I'm nervous anyway and nobody wants to help me.

AIBU to just feel like screaming I'm so so frustrated?

It will be fine. Sleep well.

I just keep reminding myself that dh IS capable of looking after dcs and that they will all be fine with him.

I won't be rushing home afterwards though! Want to get as much rest as I can then go straight to bed when I do get in.
Dh off the following day too.

Just want to wish you all the best for tomorrow. It's natural to feel nervous . Take good care of yourself, and take plenty of rest.

[Grin]

Good luck for tomorrow ariane hope everything works out ok :)

Ariane, good luck for tomorrow, xxxx

Some call it gushiness, others call it support. Good luck tomorrow ariane, will be thinking of you. Do get as much rest as you can before heading home and DON'T feel guilty about it or one of us will slap you with a virtual kipper

Just read the thread and wanted to say good luck tomorrow and well done for starting to change things. Really, it is so hard to change the patterns we get into, you are doing so great.

Ariane, I've been reading along, and I hope you're getting a good night's sleep and tomorrow's operation (today, here!) goes really smoothly. You're doing brilliantly.

Just read your thread and wanted to wish the best of luck today.
Your new attitude is very refreshing. I think assertiveness is like a muscle. It gets stronger and better the more you use it, which is what you are doing. More power to you, don't give in!

Thankyou for all the support.

Nervous about the morning and really tired-ds2 currently keeping us up as he's unwell (again) with very high temp, generally miserable and wanting to be bf. He had a uti last week and is still on anti b but started with a temperature again yesterday.
Given calpol/nurofen and asked dh to take him back to gp in morning.

Really hoping he goes back to sleep soon.

Aw no. Don't let this stop you going though. I hope you have managed some sleep by now.

Good luck with the op Ariane - and yes you MUST have it this time around, regardless of DS2's state of health. Your DH WILL and MUST manage.
I would actually second staying in overnight after the op, tbh - otherwise you may end up trying to do too much at home.

Good luck for today.

I am speechless tbh, what a twat he is.

You are not being attacked Morticia, more advised and disagreed with. Whatever your issues, THIS thread is not the place for them.

Morticia you really are coming across as abit thick do trot off there's a dear.
Ariane hope today works out ok.

Hope today goes well, Ariane.

Good luck today ariane, try not to worry too much

just read the full thread, good luck today

Back from hospital. All went fine, feel ok but tired.
Will post later/tomorrow as knackered.

Hello ariane55. Glad all has gone well.

Do please let us know if you'd like us to move this thread out of AIBU into a more suitable topic.

Lurker here! Hope you manage to get nice uninterrupted rest. Look after yourself.

Glad it all went OK.

Hope you manage to get a good rest.for the rest of today & tomorrow at least!