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To be so frustrated that I want to just scream?!?!

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ariane5 · 11/06/2013 15:13

Trying to arrange help for when I (possibly) have an op later in the week.

All I would like is for DH to take 2 days off. Look after 2 younger dcs whilst older 2 at school, let me reat when home and the following day BUT he wants me to postpone as "needs to work" and is worried how he will cope with dcs.

Dm said she "cannot possibly" take time off. Dsis said she will 'help' but her help involves taking the baby for a couple of hrs the following day out for a little walk in his "nice buggy" with her dp to cafe/shops and that's it.
Dh said he might be ok with 1 day off and I asked dm/dsis can I go to their house so am not on my own with dcs but dsis wasn't keen on 'proper' helping as its a lot of work and wants dh to help instead.
Mil wants to know why does dh need time off-shes apparently had a similar op and returned to work the same afternoon.

I just feel like cancelling, I'm nervous anyway and nobody wants to help me.

AIBU to just feel like screaming I'm so so frustrated?

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ariane5 · 18/06/2013 21:47

Dh tidied up this evening after putting dcs to bed.

He wasn't happy but he did it. I did feel slightly awkward watching him struggle. He also cleaned and hoovered the car out as well during his break at work.
I think he has realised how much I do and I'm hoping things will continue to be more equal.

Bit of an atmosphere though, not sure how to approach it as he seems a bit quiet and annoyed. I'm not saying too much as I think its just sulking.

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HowlerMonkey · 18/06/2013 22:38

Go ariane!

SugarPasteGreyhound · 19/06/2013 09:53

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LadyClariceCannockMonty · 19/06/2013 09:56

Agree, no need to 'approach' anything. Let him sulk and hopefully soon enough he'll get a grip.

Very good luck for your op.

morticia74 · 19/06/2013 16:38

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MammaTJ · 19/06/2013 17:12

Well, that's a personal attack if ever I have seen one. Feeling good there mouthing off from behind your computer screen morticia74?

BeauNidle · 19/06/2013 17:14

OMFG morticia Shock

morticia74 · 19/06/2013 17:19

I do, actually.

MammaTJ · 19/06/2013 17:36

Ah well. your comment has been reported. It is a personal attack and very much against the rules of MN as well as normal peoples morality.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 19/06/2013 17:44

Good lord Ariane it looks like you might have found your spine!! Grin Well done you.

DIYapprentice · 19/06/2013 17:47

Morticia - You're WAY out of order. If you don't like the way Ariane is dealing with things you're very welcome to get the hell of a thread SHE started.

DIYapprentice · 19/06/2013 17:49

Ariane - I have been on some of your earlier threads, and I've seen how much you've changed, in a relatively short space of time, really. You did so well standing up to your DH about lending the money, and about helping your DSIS out every sodding day.

Why can't some people understand that not EVERYTHING can be changed in a short space of time?

morticia74 · 19/06/2013 17:59

Oooh, I'm so scared.

Jestrin · 19/06/2013 18:26

morticia74 did you mean to be so rude? Grin

Jestrin · 19/06/2013 18:27

Ariane Good luck with your operation.

morticia74 · 19/06/2013 18:30

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 19/06/2013 18:43

ooh is there a wanker on the loose?
goodluck ariane hope tomorrow goes well

LuisSuarezTeeth · 19/06/2013 19:54

Good luck chick, ignore the twat on the thread. Will be thinking of you tomorrow Thanks

LuisSuarezTeeth · 19/06/2013 19:58

Morticia you appear to be new - may I suggest a little more lurking and a swift name change? You do seem to be raising some hackles unfortunately.

cory · 19/06/2013 20:04

Good for you, good for you, good for you, ariane! You can do it, just don't let yourself weaken! Your family needs a proper dad.

and for the record, my hospital wouldn't let me home in the care of a mature and competent 16yo picking me up in a taxi after a far simpler operation under GA

so I'm trying to imagine their response if I'd told them that actually, I'll be going home on my own to look after 4 disabled children

morticia74 · 19/06/2013 21:24

Really, Luis? Please forgive me but I am so not going to take your advice. If people don't like what I say (ie the truth) then report me (seriously, I don't give a fuck if I'm banned) or disagree. Free country and all that.

LuisSuarezTeeth · 19/06/2013 21:38

Ah I see you have been deleted quite a lot Morticia. You are obviously very wound up - perhaps you could allow posters to support you? You seem to be having a very difficult time.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 19/06/2013 21:44

Ariane

Best of luck for tomorrow.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 19/06/2013 21:45

morticia
It may surprise you to know that there is a difference between plain speaking and twattery. Unfortunately you seem to be posting on the wrong side of the divide.

p.s. this thread isn't about you and your ego

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ariane5 · 19/06/2013 21:46

Another difficult day, dcs not particularly well esp dd2 but have still managed to make progress.
Dh has been a lot more helpful today, still a bit quiet but hasn't actually complained.

Bit nervous about tomorrow but I'm sure it'll be ok.

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