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to think this woman broke supermarket etiquette

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thestoker · 10/06/2013 20:05

was in Aldi this evening, approached a checkout followed by woman with trolley of stuff, when the operator said she was shutting. We went to move to the next till, with me waiting to make eye contact and be waved in front as per social norms... but this woman pointedly swung her trolley round and avoided eye contact so she could jump the queue Angry I only had two items! (ok it was curly fries and Haribo...)

Who does this, really?! Would anyone admit to it on here? Did she sit in her car reflecting on how much of a turd she just was, or are some people just oblivious? Hmm

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 11/06/2013 12:07

I love Aldi check out staff.

My DH went there once, got totally baffled by the speed in which the checkout man was chucking stuff at him and said "can you hold on a minute, you are going too fast"

The man looked at him and said "actually you are going too slow. Everyone else manages to keep up"

Then flung the rest of the shopping at him at double speed. And said when he was finished "you might be better off shopping at tesco next time, they go a bit slower"

itsonlysubterfuge · 11/06/2013 12:08

I hate when people park in the parent and child bays. Just to add some fuel to the fire.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 12:10

Shock Grin Shock at Tantrum's DH getting pwned by Aldi man. They're hilarious!

TwasBrillig · 11/06/2013 12:11

Gosh frou - is your husband always so rude??

itsonlysubterfuge · 11/06/2013 12:12

Obviously when they don't have children or their children are teenagers. Once a woman parked in one and got out with her 15ish son and a man with a baby stopped said excuse me, these are for parents and babies. Woman said if I didn't park here, I would have to go home and we need food to eat, we can't go hungry! Hmm There were other bays, just farther away from the door.

trapenfold · 11/06/2013 12:20

She def' does -

ZenGardener · 11/06/2013 12:20

Some of these supermarkets are really cut throat. Shock

sherbetpips · 11/06/2013 12:26

hate it when I let people in and they then proceed to add purchases on at the counter. cheeky sods.

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 11/06/2013 12:31

someone mentioned upthread that a person spread out their 8 or so items over the whole belt... this happened to me.

once i realised what he was doing, i shoved his items up to the front whilst saying "people clearly think they own the place" and then started putting my items on. i dont think he expected anyone to do anything about it by the look on his face.

checkout lady said he does it every time he goes in and i was the first person to do anything about it Grin

i saw some shocking things working in sainsbury's years ago

Arabesque · 11/06/2013 12:33

I get really irritated when people don't pack their shopping as it's being checked through but just let it all pile up, then start rooting for their purse, then start slowly packing their shopping, then have a look at their receipt and then pick up their bags and amble off. Angry

trapenfold · 11/06/2013 12:40

slightly off point. I like it when you're being served in a shop, then, someone phones, they answer, ignore you and start running around sorting them out and answering the same things again and again. While you stand there.

trapenfold · 11/06/2013 12:41

agreed Arabesque. How f***g infuriating is that?

froubylou · 11/06/2013 12:50

Oh dear, now you all have me questioning the moralities of what I thought was a fairly amusing anecdote about 'supermarket rage'.

Was it right for the student to hog all the bargains? To have his trolley parked so close to the yellow sticker trolley and be so full of yellow stickers (in fact it was just yellow stickers) that another shopper genuienly thought it was all to go back on shelves? Were the students actions much different from the tagteam who frequent Asda and block anyone else accessing the bargains? It was a genuine mistake on behalf of my DP that could have been easily resolved with a polite but firm 'scuse me pal, thats actually my trolley and my shopping I think you have taken, could I have it back please?'.

Did my DP over react? Should he have meekly passed over the shopping when effed and jeffed at? I didn't hear this bit as was still deciding whether we had a block of butter in the fridge at home or not but the staff member with the stickers (seems a bit derogatory now to call him stickerman) certainly told the manager that the student was rude and aggressive to DP.

Would the anecdote have been less amusing if DP was not in actual fact a big, burly builder but a more vulnerable OAP or someone else who may not be as unflappable when confronted with an irrate student effing over his effing duck?

Should my DP have reacted to the 'I'm a poor student on a budget' comment the way he did? Should the student rely on being a student to justify hogging the bargains if we decide that in actual fact no, one shopper alone shouldn't benefit from M & S over ordering that particular week on chicken breats and ducks? And if the student really was on such a strict budget should he be in M & S anyway or stick with a discount supermarket. No problem with discount supermarkets BTW. I use Aldi as much as M & S.

Was it right for the manager to reduce further items to pacify 2 irrate shoppers? Or is that being unfair to those shoppers that day that paid full price for the same item with the same 'use by' date on it? Incidently, we only had 1 duck in our trolley (that originally came from students trolley that was masquerading as a reduced to go back on the shelf items trolley) and we only took 1 duck home. The student took the other 2 so actually benefited by an extra duck.

Its a tough one. And it did shock me actually. You usually see a certain element of teamwork between the bargain shoppers in M & S (though I agree Asda can be a bit 'every man for himself). One bargain hunter will check out the fresh meat, whilst another does the chiller cabinet. And if someone spots something in your trolley that is reduced and enquires whether there were anymore they usually get told if there is. And to hurry if there was only 1 left when you spotted it.

So now I'm unsure if Dp is an actual prick or not? And whether we should eat the duck with pancakes and hoisin sauce or simply sacrifice it at some alter dedicated to bargain hunters around the country.

Arabesque · 11/06/2013 12:54

The impression you gave in your individual post was that the student asked for his stuff back, your DH refused and told him he 'had to share' and then an argument ensued.
If the student was very aggressive in looking for his stuff back I can see it could have made your DH angry but I still think he should have handed the stuff back and then maybe complained to a manager about him.

Arabesque · 11/06/2013 12:55

In your original post I meant.

mayorquimby · 11/06/2013 12:56

"that could have been easily resolved with a polite but firm 'scuse me pal, thats actually my trolley and my shopping I think you have taken, could I have it back please?'."

Well evidently it couldn't have because your dh thought he could dictate that the other bloke was obliged to share, pass comment on what provisions he needed and didn't return the goods when it was pointed out what he's done, instead he tried to justify it and say he was still in the right.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 13:00

Well,m supermarkets put the stuff out to be sold. They don't specify that it must be split in an egalitarian manner amongst shoppers. It's first come, first served, I thought? You've said yourself that your DH overbuys reduced stock because he can't resist a bargain (even though actually he is buying stuff that you don't even eat! So a bit dog in the manger there) so why is it OK for your DH to do this and not a student?

mayorquimby · 11/06/2013 13:03

Exactly
Massively hypocritical and from the original telling of the story a bully with a chip on his shoulder

captainmummy · 11/06/2013 13:05

Actually Frou - I read your post and chuckled. I didn't think student should get away with it; it's not fair and there are others who think the same wy he did. Reduced stickers are for everyone!

I Shop in waitrose (And Lidl and tesco sssh) and they have 3 'quick-check' tills for fewer-than-10 items. The main tills are usually quicker - i unload my 5 items, whilst looking bemusedly at the queues of quick-check people.

Lavenderloves · 11/06/2013 13:07

Froubylou
Sorry but you husband was well out of order. He stole someone carefully selected reduced items and then your shocked at his audacity to ask for them back. Then you tell him to share and threaten to fight with him.

What a twat.

mayorquimby · 11/06/2013 13:08

"if we decide that in actual fact no, one shopper alone shouldn't benefit from M & S over ordering that particular week on chicken breats and ducks? "

Heaven forbid that other people not recognise your self appointed role as all powerful duck related policy makers

froubylou · 11/06/2013 13:08

Dear Lord. It was a funny account in my opinion of an incident that happened in a supermarket over a couple of ducks and some houmous.

Obviously I have a bizarre sense of humour not appreciated by some so will withdraw from this discussion snd ponder the fact that it appears my dp is actually a tosser when it comes to supermarket bargains. Sigh. Just when we had decided to get married too.

Lavenderloves · 11/06/2013 13:10

It's not even remotely funny. Your odd.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 13:11

Grin Quimby

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 13:13

It's an odd way of thinking.

If you're looking at the reduced section, you're going to be buying things that you think you'll need or can freeze. Not thinking of the other shoppers who might want the duck you've put in your trolley. Why would you?! It's a shop and you are buying the things. That's how it works, innit?

Am still mildly amused by the "do as I say not as I do" attitude of Frouby's DP!