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to think this woman broke supermarket etiquette

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thestoker · 10/06/2013 20:05

was in Aldi this evening, approached a checkout followed by woman with trolley of stuff, when the operator said she was shutting. We went to move to the next till, with me waiting to make eye contact and be waved in front as per social norms... but this woman pointedly swung her trolley round and avoided eye contact so she could jump the queue Angry I only had two items! (ok it was curly fries and Haribo...)

Who does this, really?! Would anyone admit to it on here? Did she sit in her car reflecting on how much of a turd she just was, or are some people just oblivious? Hmm

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Sparklingbrook · 11/06/2013 09:57

MyBoys Double or Drop. That was a brilliant game. CRACKERJACK!!!

redexpat · 11/06/2013 10:18

Oooh I miss the UK and supermarket ettiquette. WHat you describe is common practice here.

Sparklingbrook · 11/06/2013 10:21

I say it a lot. But Tesco Shop and Scan eliminates all of this. No packing/no interaction with other shoppers/no chatting to the cashier. Pack on the way round, pay and leave.

KatoPotato · 11/06/2013 10:29

I'm not sure if I broke etiquette in Morrisons yesterday. It was very busy so most of the queues were spilling out into the aisles and merging into one another. I had about 8 items and a new till opened, so I went to it as I was in the wilderness so it was easy to move there?

It was too tricky to work out who was higher priority, and everyone was higgldy-piggldy...

Was I right or wrong?

Sparklingbrook · 11/06/2013 10:32

It's every man for himself in Morrisons AFAIK Kato. Wink Well it is in my local awful example of one.

KatoPotato · 11/06/2013 10:34

I also had curly fries if this helps?

Sparklingbrook · 11/06/2013 10:35

Is it Curly Fries week or something? Confused Grin

KatoPotato · 11/06/2013 10:38

Must be... I was inexplicably drawn to them. Plan is to make them for everyone else and only eat one.. I'll let you know how this pans out.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 10:39

Oh God, I do this in Aldi. I am so sorry Blush

I do only do it if I have a loaf of bread in my hand though, I wouldn't do it if I had a week's shop in a trolley.

I think it's the haphazard nature of Aldi, it doesn't feel like a proper supermarket with proper rules, it's just smash and grab.

Won't do it again though.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 11/06/2013 10:44

There is a husband and wife team that go to asda every Sunday when the reduced stuff is being marked down.

They get 2 trolleys, block the cabinet thing where the reduced stuff is, refuse to let anyone else stand there by taking up the entire space and spend 10 minutes rooting through it all, taking all the good stuff.
By the time anyone else can get in there, it's almost empty.

I may have rammed her trolley into her legs last week, causing her to move half an inch so I could get in.
Not because I wanted anything really. Just because I have seen them do this every single week for about 6 months and it annoyed me.

She looked like she wanted to kill me when I picked anything up.
And kept muttering to her husband about "rude people"

EleanorFarjeon · 11/06/2013 10:45

This happened to me in my local M&S last week.

I was 2nd in a queue of 4. A member of staff opened up a new checkout, the woman in front of me was already unloaded so I moved in the direction of the new checkout and the bloke behind me shot over to be first in that queue.

I tapped him on the shoulder and said 'Seriously? I was in front of you' And marched past him.

Some people don't have a clue about etiquette. And don't get me started on people who talk on their mobiles whilst being served at the till. Height of rudeness.

Sparklingbrook · 11/06/2013 10:47

Tantrums I think you should have told on them. Shock A team? Shock

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 10:50

"I think it's the haphazard nature of Aldi, it doesn't feel like a proper supermarket with proper rules, it's just smash and grab."

Actually I am chatting shit, there. I have started threads on people in Aldi who cannot adhere to the pay and pack elsewhere procedure...

I am a supermarket etiquette hypocrite :(

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 11/06/2013 10:57

Eleanor you were about to be served. You can't just leave a queue, join a new one and demand to go in front. Its a new queue. Confused I'd have told you to do one.

KatoPotato · 11/06/2013 11:08

Sorry Eleanor but if you're about to be served and ensconced at the belt and have to negotiate past others to go to the new queue then you stay put I reckon.

froubylou · 11/06/2013 11:18

My DP nearly got into a fight. A real one with fisticuffs and everything in our local M & S. My DP is unreasonably tight when it comes to the food shop. Loves a bargain that mine. My freezer is permanently full of yellowed stickers whoopsies. Whether we like the stuff or not.

Anyhows, one day whilst I was doing a 'normal' shop and he was prowling round eyeballing the staff applying yellow stickers he stumbled upon a trolley (admittadly just behind the sticker mans set up) full with yellowed sticker items. He was so excited bless him. He helped himself to a full duck, some cheese, some little prawn things, some humous (no one likes it in our house but it was 50p so what can you do?) and a couple of packs of chicken breasts. Came charging up to me, dumped stuff in trolley then shot back 'before the rest of the bargains go'.

Followed him at a more leisurly pace with my milk and some butter to find him toe to toe with a grungy, tree huggery, student type chap. All dreadlocks and nicotene stained fingers from the rolly up fags.

Apparantly the trolley wasn't there to refill the shelves with reduced bits it was the grungy guys actual shopping. The guy wanted his duck back. He did have another 2 in there but he wanted that one too. And his hummous. DP was having none of it. Said that 3 ducks was greedy and he should share. Grungy guy pointed out he was a student (red rag to a bull where DP is concerned) and was on a budget. DP pointed out he was working 50 hours a week to support a family and layabout students who shouldn't spend there grants on luxuries like duck and stick with noodles and pizza.

It got nasty. Student type squared up to DP. DP is a builder, built like a brick shithouse and not easily intimidated. There was a finger shove by student in DP's chest. Student I think at that point realised DP was not in fact cuddly but rather muscley. Student took a step back, DP took a step forward and student fell over the wheel of stickermans trolley thing.

The manager eventually intervened,reduced another 2 ducks and some more humous (did I mention that no one actually like humous?) and order was restored apart from the student chuntering about being 'pushed' (sticker man vouched for DP on that one) and then about health and safety.

Now when shopping DP has his own trolley to get the bargains and we meet at the checkout. The dog ended up with the humous (she didn't like it either) and I froze the duck. Duck still in freezer. Its DP's reminder everytime he starts stashing his bargains not to take things too far and that I will not speak to him for about 2 days for causing a scene in M & S's foodhall.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 11:24
Shock

Is your DH always such a prick, frouby?

mirry2 · 11/06/2013 11:36

What about people who mark their space by loading their shopping onto the conveyer belt and then going off to buy more things without aksing the person behind it it is ok. Last time it happened to me there was no sign of the disappeared shopper so I moved her things and put mine in ther place. The shop assistant was just about to scan my shopping when the shopper reappeared with an armful of more shopping. She barked at me 'you were behind me.' So I said to her so so sweetly - 'well I'm in front of you now'. The shop assistant caught my eye and sniggered.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 11:42

Oh God yes, Mirry.

In Aldi (it must attract twats) this horsey woman in a gilet left the queue just as the person in front of her was about to pay up and go. You'd think "ok she forgot one thing, she's just going to QUICKLY run and get it." But no. A few minutes later and she is still perusing the shelves whilst an ever-impatient queue of people starts tutting and pffffffting. I am next in the queue after the gilet woman. So I pick up my things, shove hers back and say to the till assistant, "sorry, but I don't see why I should have to wait for her" and the assistant got all indignant and said "Actually, neither am I!" and took all of gilet's stuff of and threw it in a basket on the floor.

Gilet came huffing back just as I was paying up and said "I WAS NEXT". The assistant said "now you're last. You'll have to re-join the queue."

That's what I lvoe about Aldi, the staff are merciless! Grin

froubylou · 11/06/2013 11:46

To be fair marmalade, he's not.

The student was unreasonably rude and aggressive hence stickerman sticking up for DP. Had the student simply pointed out DPs (honest and genuine) mistake and asked nicely for 'his' shopping back I am sure it would have been resolved with a quick transfer of duck and chicken and humous.

And the student was rude to staff as well. So IMO deserved to fall on his ass. He shouldnt have jabbed DP in the chest and shouldnt have been so aggressive.

DP could have handled the situation better granted. But in general is quite mild mannered and even tempered.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 11/06/2013 11:50

Yikes, now people are even snaffling products out of each others trollies?! You wouldn't do that if the stuff was normal price. To be clear. If anyone pushes in front of me at a newly opened till that I got to first, steals my bargains or selfishly blocked my way when trying to look at a shelf of products i'd not hesitate in ripping them a new one. Fuck me there are some right tools about. Hmm

mayorquimby · 11/06/2013 11:55

Surely that should be your dh nearly "started" a fight

everlong · 11/06/2013 11:57

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 11/06/2013 11:59

I don't think that he was needlessly aggressive. He asked for his shopping back and your DH told him to share! Then told him what to spend his "grant" (students haven't had grants for about twenty years) on! I think it was your DH who deserved to be slapped into the Maris Pipers, soz!

confused123 · 11/06/2013 11:59

I was queuing at Boots once and the queue was for 2 tills with the person at the front of the queue going to whichever till came free first. Some bint ignored this and barged in front of me. I was in a really bad mood so I called her out on it. She ignored me. I tapped her on the shoulder and shouted excuse me. She ignored me again. The woman behind me was tutting so we started chatting about how rude this woman was and I said very loudly "it must be all that dreadful fake tan that's making her hard of hearing". lol.

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