AIBU?
To have taken my DS back to the shop he stole from to confess?
ElectricSoftParade · 10/06/2013 19:37
My DS stole a bar of chocolate and a Turkish Delight from our local shop, I think at the weekend.
I found the wrappers under his bed today as I was cleaning his room. Asked him about them (as I knew we didn't have them in the house), he confessed straight away and appeared ashamed.
I decided to take him down to the shop to apologise and to pay for the stolen stuff. Spoke to the manager (who I know) and he gave DS a right talking-to. DS has apologised and is, now, ashamed.
DH reckons I went over-the-top. I don't. I think DS will certainly think before doing it again and just hope he doesn't. DS is 8.
WIBU to do this?
BarbarianMum · 10/06/2013 19:40
I don't think so, but I'm sure lots of people will be along in a minute to tell you he's just a baby and your a terrible mother 
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Things like this, best to nip them in the bud I think. Being told off and made to apologise to the person you stole from seems pretty fair. Now you can just put it behind you.
Blu · 10/06/2013 19:41
Not at all!
Good move.
If you had'nt gone back and made him pay it would have suggested that the lack of actual payment was less important.
But now it is done leave it behind and let him enjoy the feeling of being good and trustworthy now he has learned his lesson.
freddiefrog · 10/06/2013 19:41
No, I don't think it's over the top in the slightest
I did the same to my DD around the same age. She stole a packet of Haribo, which I made her return to the shop and apologise to the manager. The manager was a friend of mine and I got her to give DD a talking to.
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/06/2013 19:43
No, you were right.
The fact he hid the wrappers shows he knows what he did was wrong.
Maybe the manager was a bit more stern because she knew you and had your authority (rather than some parents who would be 
because their PFB wouldn't DO such a thing)
In a while, you can bring it up with your DS to see if the message has hit home.
(MY DS 'lifted' some lipsticks when he was 2.6yo and I brought baby DD home from hospital. He was in his backcarrier and I guess he thought they were pens. DH only realised when DS drew on him.
We still wind him up about him kleptomaniac ways. Thankfully it was a one-off)
ElectricSoftParade · 10/06/2013 19:44
He said he was really, really hungry and needed the sweets 
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So I asked him why he didn't just ask me and he said he knew I would say no to the sweets. To bloody right, we had been out for lunch on Saturday and he had had a pudding as well. Little toad.
So, I have said it is done now but that I am so disappointed with his behaviour. He is now in bed and, with any luck, tomorrow will be a better day.
1Veryhungrycaterpillar · 10/06/2013 19:48
Loads of kids try it Electric, don't be too sad about it. My brother once decided to steal sweets from various shops that my mum took us too and she didn't realise until some dropped out of his sleeve, he didn't even have an explanation and he was usually angelic!
MrsDeVere · 10/06/2013 20:00
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