I have a friend, she is the mum of my DD's friend, and we've known each other for about 4 years. In many ways she seems very nice, but then sometimes she will say something or do something and it makes me wonder whether she is my friend or not and whether I should keep a distance. She portrays herself as a very ditzy silly girlie type.
She does things like:
Makes comments with a bit of a sting in the tail, but delivered in a ditzy sing-song way. Things such as liking the jeans I am wearing and wanting some herself but being far thinner than me they wouldn't suit her. She compliments things I have and things I wear but it's done in a "Oooh look what you've got" type of way rather than a genuine way, and she often has a smirk on her face when she says things. I feel like she asks things about my life but not because she is interested, more because she wants to look for fodder to comment on.
I have had problems in the past with a mutual friend, who did some really unkind things to me. I won't go into detail as it'll make it obvious to some RL friends about who I am. My friend always goes on and on about this mutual friend and says how much she likes her, and tells me the ins and outs of this friend's life. She knows that what this other person did was awful and really upset me and that is why she is no longer my friend. But just goes on about her. She also says things like "It is such a shame you and X can't get on". I just feel like she does it excessively to try to make me feel uncomfortable.
Says comments via DD. DD said last time she went round there for tea this woman laughed at the haircut DD had just had. Also she made DD eat every scrap of food on her plate, whilst letting her daughter (who never eats) eat nothing. DD then had a tummy ache when she got home. I didn't tackle the friend as in all honesty I didn't know what to say, and I know she would try to justify it as her being caring.
Am I being oversensitive?