to think this is pathetic and to be losing my patience? (re: seating at wedding)

[CartwrightMiss]

My partner has two brothers and both will be ushers (getting married late July)

Both brothers/ushers will be sat on the front row at the church on the grooms side along with other close members of the family. Both brothers have partners, both are invited but neither are going to be sat on the front row - as there just really isn't enough room.

Both girlfriends get on really well and will be sat together in the church. BIL is complaining that he wants to sit next to his girlfriend and how unfair it is.

They will be sat together during the meal and can be together for the whole day, the girlfriend will be sat with other girlfriend at the church so not alone at all and yet he is still complaining.

Starting to lose my temper. Aibu?

ok, so if seating arrangements in churches are ridiculous why do they all have big signs with "RESERVED" printed on them at every single wedding, funeral, christening or confirmation?

"flowery

the clue is literally in the title- well in the original post.

1.they can't sit in the front row together - not enough room

2.he is expected to sit in front row as are other close family members.

how is that difficult to understand? sorry, I'm getting rude now, but this could not be simpler."

Not difficult to understand at all. But neither of those things explain why it's so important that the BIL sits in the front row rather than in, say, row 2 with his partner. Which is what I asked several times. Couldn't be simpler.

OP has now explained that the reason is because it will "look odd" if he doesn't sit in the front row.

cartwrightmiss

I have a solution.

it's been staring us in the face

tell him that she can sit on his lap.

OP has now explained that the reason is because it will "look odd" if he doesn't sit in the front row.

Well no I didn't just say - he will sit where I want him to sit because otherwise it will look odd.

He will be stood at the front with the other ushers, and will be walking down the aisle after the ceremony, it makes sense for him to sat at the front for convenience and for the actual fact that my partner would like his brother to be sat on the front row.

If there was room we would have both girlfriends sat at the front with them. But sadly there just isn't room.

Yabbu (both being unreasonable) for thinking that where people sit at a wedding ceremony is of enough importance to merit discussion and/or planning...

Is it really worth making an issue of?

I can't believe I am expending energy on this non problem!

Hope you get it sorted how you want it OP.

"Well the way the ceremony will run is there are 3 ushers/groomsmen (1 best man) who will stand in a line at the front of the church"etc ah, I can visualise that, it'll look lovely and, yes, their seats would need to be up near the front for that!

Would it be possible, then, to have the front two rows reserved for family? It would still literally be just a step for the ushers/groomsmen to take their seats at the appropriate time and there would then be plenty of room for their partners to sit right next to them in the designated 'family' ( two ) rows, reserved at the front.

Can they sit together on the second row?

Doh, should have read right to the end

herladyship that's not very helpful.
if you don't think it's an issue either way why do you get involved?

op is either being reasonable or not - but is a problem for her.

have a

Yanbu.