to be a bit jealous of people who post smug posts on facebook

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Photos of expensive presents their partners have bought them with vomit inducing comments. Posts about charming children, immaculate houses and partners who enjoy buying shedloads of stuff that they will never use for each DC. I've just read a post from someone about how they just "know" her current pregnancy is a girl so her partner is "insisting" that they go and buy a load of pink stuff.

I'm very lucky. I've got 4 DS's (3 with SN) and a DH who I love but we are more like the family from outnumbered than the waltons. That's normal right? Please someone tell me that the perfect people have flaws too and that their stepford children have tantrums in the dr surgery.

I don't normally think about these things but I'm trying to take it easy post C-section and when my body is inactive my brain goes into overdrive

That's normal right?

Yes and bloody lovely, stop worrying about it you silly moo.

Yu've not been taken in by FB bragging have you? Some people seem to make it their mission in life to be smug and showcase their "perfect" lives. It. Is. Not. True.

No-one posts their rubbish days, irritating partner and annoying kids.

You are completely normal (and so are they, they're just good at PR)

I fall for this sometimes too.

Someone wise on MN once said "Don't compare their edited highlights with your behind the scenes"

People like that who love to boast are the most insecure anyway. The ones who are genuinely off having a fabulous time are too busy to post about it to the world.

Don't believe the hype! Honestly I've had people putting pictures up or status updates about a fab party etc when I've been there and they've looked as miserable as sin!
My main FB bragging bugbear is people putting how much weight they've lost bore off!

No one posts their rubbish days?
I do
Maybe you should be my friend

No-one posts their rubbish days, irritating partner and annoying kids.

Some people are always whinging on there

I used to watch the outnumbered box set when I was pregnant and cry... because I wanted that! Who wants a boring, perfect family, when you can have a family as mad as a box of frogs?

Don't be taken in by it.

I know for certain if one couple that are always saying "Flowers that the lovely DP brought" / I have the best wife in the world" boak

Behind the scenes she knows her relationship is ship and is always moaning about him.

FB is just edited highlights of the good bits.

ahhhh seriously don't fall for that shit, take it as free entertainment comedy value.

There's a woman within my circle of friends who is the classic example, constant updates about her perfect children, house, shopping sprees, dining experiences yada yada yada yet miserable as sin monotone yawn in real life. Very weird.

My DSS is the worst for that. "Having a fab dinner with my lovely hubby", "My lovely hubby bought me these beautiful flowers for our anniversary", "enjoying a family day with my lovely hubby and my beautiful princess" and the like.

These sort of updates were always surprising to me given that said lovely hubby was a complete twunt, although I have to admit to being quite surprised when she LTB a few months ago. I think blessyou said it best, and those people who are always bragging are generally trying to cover things up or trying to make themselves feel better.

That said I also can't stand those who constantly moan about their lives on FB - is this something you'd tell me, someone you know from primary school, in RL? No? Then don't post it all over the internet!

One of my best ever fb stealth boasts (not written by me obs) was...

"I hate it when I get in from work and my kids are already asleep because they've taken themselves to bed at 6.30 "

I love Facebook!

My FB is full of braggers or whiners, there's no real in between. That's what makes it great - I don't want to know about the mundane.

Glad I'm normal . I had just got home from mothercare where DH sighed when I suggested buying a spiderman babygrow for DS4 as well as the bouncy chair that we had gone in for. Then I read the post about the lady with the DP who was desperate to buy loads of baby stuff and I was fed up. My DH has a point though, DS4 has enough hand me downs from his brothers to clothe triplets but it's currently all up in the loft and DH is in no hurry to get it down until DS4 is nearly ready to come home from special care. Me on the other hand wants to have it all down to coo over .

Well, today my status might read about how DS2 shot DS1 in the head with a BB gun, DS1 attacked DS2, I shouted that if they couldn't behave long enough to walk the dog I would rehome it which resulted in DD sobbing in her bedroom.

Or it could read "totally quiet in my house as two fabulous boys are revising and my wonderful DD is playing next door"

Oh and the tiffany boxes / mulberry bags / vivienne westwood boxes pictures on birthdays / anniversaries / christmas.

There's nothing stelthy about that boasting!

I just think ur life cant be that great if u are posting all day, I mean who are u trying to convince?
I dont get people who post things like presents on there, had someone today who posted a picture of the new t-shirt they bought their ds, I mean honestly nobody cares!

People who do that repeatedly are usually trying to convince themselves. Some get very competitive too, i see fb flooded with 'DP/DH/DW got me this' usually followed by expensive pictures but the majority of the time the ones posting are very insecure in their relationships (or have something going wrong) and need that boost themselves.

One friend smugly told me 'DP and I never argue which i could believe, they broke up a bit ago thankfully since the reason they never argued was she was so weak with him. His opinions, beliefs, ideas became hers and even when he treated her like shit she ranted to us but refused to air it with him. So they never argued because she always bowed to him. She was the worst for fb boasting.

That should be: on birthdays/valentines and Christmas I see fb flooded...

I dont post status updates on facebook. I generally have a nice life. Usual shit at times. DH and DSD drive me nuts at times. They both regularly buy me flowers to say thanks for everything I do for them but I dont feel the need to tell all of Facebook. Im also too busy to.

I dont need to tell the world about happy I am
Its like people are trying to convince themselves!

My SIL posts constantly about her perfect family. If I haven't seen her for a while, it makes me think I may hate her her for her smugness. Then when we do meet up I remember she's actually quite normal and the children are also normal & have the same tantrums etc as mine.

I had a FB friend who made out her life was perfect...lots of statuses about her perfect husband, wonderful kids, what she had bought that day in town...

Then her husband left her!

May my life be half as interesting as I pretend it is on Facebook.