to be a bit jealous of people who post smug posts on facebook

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Photos of expensive presents their partners have bought them with vomit inducing comments. Posts about charming children, immaculate houses and partners who enjoy buying shedloads of stuff that they will never use for each DC. I've just read a post from someone about how they just "know" her current pregnancy is a girl so her partner is "insisting" that they go and buy a load of pink stuff.

I'm very lucky. I've got 4 DS's (3 with SN) and a DH who I love but we are more like the family from outnumbered than the waltons. That's normal right? Please someone tell me that the perfect people have flaws too and that their stepford children have tantrums in the dr surgery.

I don't normally think about these things but I'm trying to take it easy post C-section and when my body is inactive my brain goes into overdrive

I hate the boastful messages/photos on FB but I do have a confession... If we (my DH uses my FB) then I make sure the house/garden is super tidy in the background of the photo! (The rest if the room looks like a bomb hit it!! Teehee!! We post pics for our parents who live far away and I know full well my mil looks into the background to see my housework skills!!

I very rarely if ever, post about my emotional state...I feel no need to spill my guts to people I worked with six years ago or somebody I went to school with and didn't really like.

If I need to chat to someone I will speak to a real friend, not let a bunch of near strangers pick through my mental vomit on-line.

ComposHat I agree. What's wrong with picking up the phone and talking to real friends?

It's as if some people feel that things, emotions or experiences might not exist, or won't be as valid, unless they post about them.

ha misstweed i do that as well :D

You are totally unreasonable to be jealous of competetive facebook boasters!

I feel sorry for them, they need that validation in their lives... as though their life needs to be seen as "good" by other people for it to be so. They are insecure.

That said, I totally don't mind seeing pictures of my friends children or nice holidays. I like to see my friends having a good time and nose through their holiday pics

Its the people whose posts are continuingly screaming "LOOK AT ME IM SO FIT AT THE GYM/LOOK AT ME IM SO IN LOVE WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND HIS WEEK HE QUITE LIKES ME WE'RE SO FUCKINGG HAPPYYYY / LOOK AT ME GETTING ALL THIS ATTENTION I'M SO HUUUMMBBLLLEE " that do my head in. Them and their fanclub of friends acquaintances enablers.

I'm such a bitch

yeah i don't get that as well oceanseas

sometimes if i dont get any likes i remove the status after a while

and lol @ mamachubby i so agree. i got absolutely flamed the other week on a different thread for saying similar though, so am surprised this one hasnt gone the same way.....

Fakebook I am just back from Egypt. iPhones are £200 more expensive than they are here?! Weird?

All I can say is that since I left FB a few months ago, I relate with people in a much healthier way. I see people and couples as they really are, with all the beautiful and the ugly. I feel much more comfortable with my life too, as we all have a bit of both in our lives.

FB is very one dimensional, you only see the highs, the loveliness and the love, you don't see the other side of people, so obviously you might think it's only your life the one that is not perfect.

FB makes everybody behave and feel like teenagers again. Not for me, definitely.

Who wants a perfect life after all? Too hard to sustain at the best of times!

I love the outnumbered family

what annoys me....

Holiday villas, with pools
Bikini shots
girls nights with pouts/champers
"I love you" posts with DP tagged

fuck....off.......

All I can say is that since I left FB a few months ago, I relate with people in a much healthier way.

HEAR HEAR

Damn yeah, I bet alcoholism, eating disorders, affairs and money problems are behind some of these posts.

I don't personally post on FB about new purchases or gifts but I like seeing other people post happy messages and photos. There is enough misery and loss all over the News. A few innocuous pics of nice houses and bags I just can't get upset about.

Everyone likes to post a sunny picture to the world and of their 'best self'. Don't worry OP, it is rarely anywhere near the truth If you looked at my FB you wouldn't guess the shit I have been through in the last few years. I just chose not to publicly air the bad stuff, I'd rather do that privately to the select few people I really trust. I just post pics of fun times with my DD, family and friends, I don't want to depress everyone with all the crap

Nightmare, when you want to really connect with people you like and know, e g friends and all you see is them bragging about their possessions, that does make me sad. Sorry...

Maybe all the other horrible things that happen in the world are to some extent the result of failing to truely connect with other human beings.

I don't FB is for people who really think about life and are after something valuable of truthful in life. That's why I left and my life is so much better for it now.

Maybe its reflective of my friends and associates but in general, I find facebook a harmless way of keeping up with the comings and goings in people lives that I wouldn't otherwise. No one is particularly irksome, I find myself smiling at the screen more often than not.

Guess I'm just lucky.

Maybe all the other horrible things that happen in the world are to some extent the result of failing to truely connect with other human beings. You wouldn't need FB to connect with your true friends though would you. It's just social media. Real communication in most families and friendships goes on face-to-face or via the phone, not through FB statuses. It's a good platform to chat with friends in other countries, share bits of your life with old school friends, for family to see pics of you and your children, that's it. You don't live your life through it, it's just a snapshot. I really don't see why people get so worked up about it.

I'm probably a bit guilty of this as I don't post much these days unless something good happens. So I'm not doing it all the time but if I go somewhere nice or whatever I'll post. That is just as likely to be the park in the sunshine than a posh restaurant though.

Oh and pictures of my gorgeous little boy but I make no apologies for that one :)

My family and friends are scattered about a bit and posting on FB is a quicker way of letting them know what I'm up to. I like seeing snapshots of people's lives in the same way - it's nice. I can see why some folk wouldn't like it mind you.

I don't post about expensive gifts etc on facebook or soppy stuff about DH.

I have no issue with seeing other peoples boast/happy posts, I either think how lovely its about time something nice happened for them or I think how fake as their DH is a twat so they are over compensating.

The ones I think the latter about I have started to block as I have felt the need to 'cleanse' my FB home page recently.

me too sinister - I will get that bikini body one day and it will be my profile pic AND my cover photo

" I've just read a post from someone about how they just "know" her current pregnancy is a girl so her partner is "insisting" that they go and buy a load of pink stuff."
I don't think that sounds lovely and I would threaten to throw DH from a very high cliff if he dared to suggest gender stereotyping my child.

quite, sinisterbuggy!