to be a bit jealous of people who post smug posts on facebook

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Photos of expensive presents their partners have bought them with vomit inducing comments. Posts about charming children, immaculate houses and partners who enjoy buying shedloads of stuff that they will never use for each DC. I've just read a post from someone about how they just "know" her current pregnancy is a girl so her partner is "insisting" that they go and buy a load of pink stuff.

I'm very lucky. I've got 4 DS's (3 with SN) and a DH who I love but we are more like the family from outnumbered than the waltons. That's normal right? Please someone tell me that the perfect people have flaws too and that their stepford children have tantrums in the dr surgery.

I don't normally think about these things but I'm trying to take it easy post C-section and when my body is inactive my brain goes into overdrive

I haven't posted on FB today, but if I were being completely honest I'd put 'Family dose of Ovex please' or similar. I decided against because I thought perhaps it was just a tad TMI?

Not that my other posts are all boasty, I'm just emphasising the significance of editing?

I am no longer on Facebook.. flaky friends.. boring status updates.. I don't miss it.

I find the "edited highlights" of people's lives quite silly/fun to look at, but ultimately tedious, especially when you know they are just bragging. The FML drama kings and queens can be just as bad.

So...I actively enjoy posting really mundane shit. A photo of the train station I am waiting at. The desk opposite me at work....It works best if you instagram the photos with a retro filter.

I have someone on my fb who I keep purely for the entertainment she provides her statements are frequent and vomit inducing, I happen to know that some are going to be used in a tv programme they are so stepford wives!

I console myself with the fact that she obviously spends so much time on fb that she cant possibly be doing all the 'amazeballs' stuff she claims to be doing, and yes she really does use that word, fucking awful from a woman in her 40's

Friend of mine posted on fb today about her fab night with her husband last night - he is having an affair.

Another friend posts glam shots of her and her husband hanging lovingly on each other - he physically and sexually abuses her.

See what I am getting at?

Things are never as they seem - particularly on facebook.

People only post the good stuff. No-one would ever say they had a shit time. That's why Im no longer on it!

I get sucked into that sometimes too.

We have friends that seem to be going away for lovely weekends all the time and have never ending amounts of cash and endless baby sitters.

You just have to shrug it off and remember no one posts their crap times on FB

The people I know on FB who regularly put on happy and "glamorous" photos/statuses are usually the attention seeking ones, dying to get seen to be doing things, just hoping to impress. Most people really don't care! They are too busy, too normal, just don't get impressed with inane goings on. I think if you have to post this stuff, then your life is probably the opposite.

Oh God I hardly use FB anymore but I hate those smug posts.

The last smug post I read was by an old school friend whose dh had gone to Egypt and somewhere else and bought back jewellery for her and and an iphone 5. she was so thankful her "best friend, soul mate, life long partner" had come back home and was loving all her new presents and her phone.

On the surface, very swish, but considering he fucked off on a holiday, alone for 4 weeks travelling to other countries and leaving her with 4 kids alone, I'd have expected more than a bit of jewellery and a phone.

You must read between the lines in all smug posts.

I was at a lecture on the dangers of Facebook recently. Apparently people who put up posts like this are more likely to have mental health issues, in particular, depression. It really is a myth and worrying.

Best fb stealth boast: "which celebrity do your friends say that you look like? My friends tell me I look like Princess Di"...
For real.

My boasting status for today would be "cleaned the shed, organised the living room, lots of kisses and cuddles with DH and DS", in reality it was "Dropped all my terracotta plant pots, cleaned cat sick off the sofa, had a blazing row with DH and DS bumped his head!" It's all about editing it to make your family look perfect (my family are more like Family Guy!)

There have been lots of FB threads on MN recently.
You don't like smug posts.
The one before hated holiday photo's.
The one before that hated negative kids comments: " half term and the kids are driving me mad".
Conclusion = you can't win.

*No-one posts their rubbish days, irritating partner and annoying kids.

You are completely normal (and so are they, they're just good at PR)*

^ this!

I have an entertaining in law who loves to post about how good it is to go to the gym all the time.
Fine yes?

Until my sister saw her(live in different parts of the country) and exclaimed oh you haven't list much weight considering how long you spend in the gym!!!

Or maybe the put the cheery happy stuff up there, because they feel you keep your problems to yourself and no-one wants to hear them moaning that the cat was sick etc. etc.

facebook status - cosy night in watching a great film with lovely nibbles and wine

reality - I've taken my bra off and I'm watching casualty while eating the kids sweets and getting pissed

I wont post either though

it seems people can't win on FB anyway

if they are honest about their lives, ie talk about having a shit time or feeling down etc they are "moaning"

and if they post happy stuff they are "bragging"

i am guilty of both tho TBH

I do both tbh.

If I am having a shit day I have a wee rant on fb.
If I am having a good day I will have a happy post
If dh buys me something amazing I post etc

No hidden truths, no low esteem or depression, no unhappiness what I post is whats going on at that specific time in my life.

Completely normal. Sometimes i'm jealous of the things people do. Many of my friends are childless are at a good point in the careers so go out 3 or 4 nights a week, I do get a tad jealous when I see posts saying 'A champagne lunch on a wednesday afternoon has trned into cocktails until 3am...oops!' and I remember I only have 1 night out clubbing with friends a month as I have DD. But then I remember how much I love my hoem life and how fortunate I am and try to calm the green eyed monster. Everybody has their problems, your 'friends' probably just don't want to admit/post them!

I have a friend who posts lovely family

whoops.... i have a friend who posts lovely family photos of lovely family days out. Each and every one makes me so sad because the only person she is managing to convince is herself. She is a lovely person, her husband is a twat.

People who call their dc their little princess or prince.
It actually makes me froth with rage