Grrr I cant stand racists.... MIL thread

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My Mil and I don't get on sometimes she can be lovely other times it's very clear she doesn't like me and can be very nasty.

Today is DS2s birthday and she bought him round a pressie and card which was really nice of her especially as he is mine from another relationship and I really appreciate the effort.

BUT she is always very snipey about my pets I have 2 dog, 2 budgies and an indian ringneck parrot.
She hadn't met the parrot before so was expecting some comments but she has taken the biscuit, SIL was asking questions so I got the bird out for her to see better and the bird kissed me (as he does, gently grooms my lip) well that was it, according to MIL it was disgusting and I should put him away and no wonder I am ill (29weeks pregnant and a severe kidney infection) as the bird is probably diseased, I told her he was perfectly healthy and has been health tested etc but no he was disgusting and I shouldn't hold him whilst pregnant.

Then genius DP told her he was an indian ringneck parrot which was the worst thing to do and she launched into a rant "DP what have I told you, indian bird, disgusting having a paki bird you dont know what you'd catch, even the birds are forien now, whatever next" right in front of my DCs.

I'm pissed off not only because its nothing do to with her that I keep animals (apprently my budgies should be shot because they are noisy, but the fact she is racist in front of me and my children, I can't have it and won't have it, SIL is extremely racist due to her upbringing and will actually hide her face if she sees a black person.

AIBU to not let her look after my baby as she will not stop her comments and thinks she is doing nothing wrong?
DP has spoken to her but she is very set in her ways.

hope so mama!

This makes me so, so sad and is horribly personal. The confusion between India and Pakistan really pissed me off... A horrendously rascist guy who I went to school with once saw me in the street, just after I'd had DD and got engaged to DH and shouted 'Paki Lover!' at me. Absolutely disgusting and annoying: DH is Indian! I replied back to the rascist thug, 'I think you mean proudly engaged to an Indian and mother to a mixed race child!'. I would absolutely not let her look after my baby. I would try to end all contact or at least discourage it, change regular visits to only seeing her once a year at christmas (and wear earplugs when you have to do so). At least your DP isn't racist, how does he fel about the whole thing?

I had to laugh at your MIL op, sorry but what an idiotic dimwit of a woman. Your poor dc.
She's discriminating against a defenceless innocent animal, a 'parrot' for being foreign, whatever next. Stop any foreign bird migration, ban any fish from entering our waters I think if we had a national survey most of us would opt to keep your parrot in this country, and ship your MIL off to a deserted island somewhere. if only eh?

Bloody Indian parrots, coming over here kissing our women folk, eating our trill.

What's wrong with the indigenous British parrot I ask you?

Would it be very naughty if you could train the parrot a funny phrase every time your MIL is around racist twerp or something.

Next time she visits I would say "I'd offer you a cuppa but you know where tea comes from don't you?". Ditto all the clothes she is wearing. Ripping the piss out of her might be a good place to start.

I'd piss myself laughing and decide to call my bird "Paki" from thereon in. Just ignore the silly old bat. Does she think budgies are Aboriginal, horses are the Mongolian hordes, guinea pigs are really Peruvian natives in disguise too?