aibu to not want my children chanting the name of god?

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Ok opening myself up here, first time I've been nervous!

DH and I are different religions, I find comfort in personal faith, not drum banging. DHs faith is stronger and important to him.

MIL is very committed runs every aspect of life. DM is also very faithful.

I made it clear to both I would educate my children, they could teach my children, but I would not name them they can make choices when they are older. DM has respected this.

DMIL has dds 3 days a week sometimes more dependent on work.

Over the last few days I have heard both dds (dd2 is only 1!) Chanting the name of MILS god over and over and over. I asked dd1 (3.5) she said dmil did it.

I'm not comfortable, it feels like indoctrination not education, if done in public it could open them to abuse. They don't understand what they are saying.

I'm just not sure if iabu or not and if not what to say?

I don't think you're being unreasonable.

To be honest, i haven't a fecking clue what you are talking about

First of all- they are not just 'your' children. Your DH should have a say too.

What did you expect if you asked MIL to look after them 3 or more times a week? Of course they will pick up some of her culture.

This is the problem when you have family providing child care, you have less control than in a professional care environment.

I kind of think it was a bit naïve of you to think that if your MIL has such strong views that she wouldn't pass this on to your kids. In her mind she would be "doing the right thing".

What's the name of your MIL's God?

I'm not sure I get your post OP. What exactly has your MIL done?

I agree with LEM...

Are you all vaguely the same religion (i.e. all Muslim or all Christian)?

Sorry, missed the bit in the OP about different religions. Fact is, some religions chant and that is their thing. Some don't. They might just be copying her.

Unless you are of a faith which has many gods, surely god is god. S/he/it just has different names. I don't get "your god is not my god" stuff - if you believe in imaginary beings and they give you comfort then don't quarrel over name changes - all the same made up notion.

Would it be something she would do in the course of her day - or something she'd have to deliberately teach them?

It would fuck me right off - but then, knowing her views she wouldn't be looking after them 3x pw.

True Santana and that's part of my issue, if I admit I am uncomfortable how will that make DH feel?

wholet also the issue, I don't mind them observing and expect them to pick stuff up, dd regularly wraps her head it's cute in play. But this feels very specific, it's not a usual part of the religion as far as I can tell, I have never ever heard it.

Oh crap I can't explain why it feels a step beyond so probably abu.

Would you feel able to name the religion?

Are your partner & family muslim?

I'm asking because I can't think of another circumsance that god would not be god, are the saying Allah?

I doubt they are chanting 'MIL gods name' they are repeating something they have heard

Unless of course MIl god is SATAN , then of course you should throw holy water over all of them and run far far away

I wouldn't like it and would have a word with her.

Ok was trying to be vauge so as not to alert the bnp crew.

They are chanting Allah Allah over and over.

I am nominally Christian but more believe there is "something" I find comfort in and so see (as athrawes said) everything add the same.

Tbh of they were chanting god god god over and over I'd find it equally disturbing.

soda

If you feel they are being guided towards a religion, rather than being taught about region then you must speak to your dh and try to find the what you both feel is acceptable abd then speak to mil.

The actually region is irrelevant ifyswim

I hate to be pedantic, but Islam, Judaism and Christianity all worship the same God - they are just branches of the Abrahamic teachings.

"Allah" is just the Arabic term for Jehovah

Exactly Footface

I think I've been ostrich like thinking they can learn and when old enough I can have a cozy chat about lots od people believing different things and it's up to them. I also haven't wanted the conversation with DH.

Feels like I'm having my hand forced at an age they are too young for independent thought. Worried if I let it slide they will be labelled by default. But don't want to hurt MIL if I put them in formal childcare she would be devastated.

I agree Holly, we appear to be at war over semantics land oil.

But if DM had them decked out in crosses chanting god id have the same issue!

So you are condoning on the one hand (wraps her head, it is cute) and condemning on the other (Allah Allah). I think you must make up your mind and stick to it.

holyberrybush no thy don't all worship the same god.......hence the angst and wars that happen