aibu to not want my children chanting the name of god?

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Ok opening myself up here, first time I've been nervous!

DH and I are different religions, I find comfort in personal faith, not drum banging. DHs faith is stronger and important to him.

MIL is very committed runs every aspect of life. DM is also very faithful.

I made it clear to both I would educate my children, they could teach my children, but I would not name them they can make choices when they are older. DM has respected this.

DMIL has dds 3 days a week sometimes more dependent on work.

Over the last few days I have heard both dds (dd2 is only 1!) Chanting the name of MILS god over and over and over. I asked dd1 (3.5) she said dmil did it.

I'm not comfortable, it feels like indoctrination not education, if done in public it could open them to abuse. They don't understand what they are saying.

I'm just not sure if iabu or not and if not what to say?

it's the prophets within the Abrahamic faith that have caused the divide

i think its the people, not the prophets.
i tell my pupils, when they ask, that i think God gives a consistent message but people hear differently according to their world views.

I think your first big mistake is to think that good childcare is a waste of money.
Your children are your greatest asset and should be given the greatest investment. There is adequate, good and excellent childcare out there if you choose to look for it.

I understand that you don't want this as it would hurt your MIL's feelings but you may want to take that into account when the oldest goes to school and the youngest to nursery. It would be a great time to re-evaluate the situation and re-arrange.

Mango I learn a lot from DH who has studied his religion (rather than the culture iyswim). The dds are 1 and 3.5 we celebrate eid and Christmas.

Yanbu.

I'm pretty sure I would be quite unnerved by my children chanting the name of a god ( any god) over and over when they were not even old enough to distinguish between god and the moomins.

Songs hymns stories wouldn't bother me at all but chanting would.

wholet I had looked at childcare and was persuaded out of it. Using the natural break of school and dd2 being old enough for preschool may be a good call.

I don't want to block her from gps but perhaps the level of influence is what is worrying me. I only started back in work in March.

crescent Thankyou! That helps! I may chat with her about it. We do get on well just on issues of religion it becomes a little more sensitive. If it's not a direct teaching them I would feel better.

I see what you mean, i'm the other way: I know a lot about DH's culture but my knowledge of Sikhism is fairly limited. It's good you celebrate both holidays, it will allow DC's to consider two different faiths . Hmm, it's a difficult thing to mention religion to granparents: lots of people see it as a special thing that has been passed through their family for generations. How understanding is your MIL? Maybe, if she's understanding, you could ask her to not say anything actively religious around your DC's but if they ask any questions then she's more than welcome to answer them? And include her more in your Eid activites? Your MIL could explain to them about what happens when she prays etc but not ask them to pray with her, unless they ask to? It's a difficult situation that can easily lead to arguements. Best of luck !

Your MIL may well be what crescent suggested, and if she is of south Asian background then may describe herself as 'sunni' or more accurately 'barelwi' who pay alot of emphasis to the spiritual side of the Religion, and do a lot of this particular type of dhikr (remembrance of God through chanting, repetitive recitation, and at an extreme go into a trance like state- think swirling dervish).

I very much doubt she is deliberately trying to brainwash your dc, kids pick up many things and if she's praying in front if them three or four times a day at the allocated times, followed by her dhikr after prayer (most likely is the case) then they will of course pick things up and/or imitate.
You will have to ask yourself how big an issue this is for you and your dh, and if need be arrange alternative childcare, but it would be wrong to ask her not to pray in front of them. Her house, her rules. Also prayer can take some time, I am sure you would not want her to leave the dc unattended to if she was to take off into a separate room.

Rabbitlady - thanks for taking the time to answer that! I'm not Sikh, but I have been to the Golden Temple when on holiday in India, beautiful place, lovely atmosphere.