To think my MIL is so wrong

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

My MIL is worried that me BF my 5 month old DS will turn him into a breast obsessed pervert when he is older, She also described me stroking his face with my hair (which he seems to love) as 'Grooming' him! Bizarre?

YANBU!!!

Grooming? Heard it all now!
Enjoy your baby & ignore your mil.

YANBU she is clearly a bit odd!

Thanks, I was shocked by that expression too but she does come out with some real pearls

What an odd thing to say. Is she chomping at the bit to bottle feed your son?

Wtaf??! God I've heard it all now. OP you continue bf your DS until you're both ready to give up & don't give a flying fuck to any crap that other people say.

Sorry about the language, but this sort of stuff really pisses me off.

What an odd woman, what do those comments say about her?!?!?

I think you may be right Gingerbread, she's been pushing me to wean onto solids since around 8 weeks! She didn't BF any of her 4 but my DH loves boobs so her theory doesn't hold up!

She said you were grooming your son?

I don't think a comment like that deserves a civilised response from you.

I'd tell her to fuck off.

I think she might have meant grooming like apes lovingly groom each other? (not sexual "grooming")

Or not. The breast feeding thing is idiotic

I just said 'What like a paedophile!' And she just said 'Well I didn't mean it like that' but didn't provide any alternative explanation

Does she know what grooming means?

I suspect she regrets not bfing her children

Wtf?! What a weirdo. But some people are idiotic like that. I remember my brother telling me to stop molesting his daughter (my niece, then aged 2) when I picked her up and was giving her slushy aunt type kisses and tickling her. Thick shits IMO.

Tell her that a man being obsessed with breasts is not a perversion, its normal

It's sad that she feels so uncomfortable about the physical affection you show your baby. Points to some jealousy/ discomfort about her own parenting. Sad really

Poor you Fakebook you must have been v upset. I can only think she meant I was grooming him to like women with long hair? But maybe I'm clutching at straws

She is total wrong!

She might have meant the ways primates groom each other?

...my DH loves boobs so her theory doesn't hold up!

I'd be sorely tempted to point that out to her if I were in your shoes tbh .

If she ever says it again you could you say "would you like to discuss the way you fed your children and dh's feelings about breasts?"

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Yeah, like Jamie, I just thought "jealous". My MIL was all supportive of my BF until I got to the exact threshold at which she gave it up - I think at about five months? Now, at 11 months, she thinks I'm a loony. Ignore your MIL - she is a headcase!

Obviously the comments about breastfeeding are loopy.

What they all said

I'm actually quite disgusted at her grooming comment, if said in the context it seems.

My ds found me shaking my hair and stroking his face with it hilarious and he loved it...a totally innocent act!

And as far as the bf goes...none of her or anyone elses business....do what works for you and your baby. My mil and sil were disgusted at me bf...mil clearly has lots of regrets and sil is just a silly girl who believes she has perfect parenting advice...we'll see how perfect she is once she actually becomes a parent!

What does your dh/dp say?