How much to give as a wedding gift?

[concernedmate]

DH and I can not decide on an agreeable amount.

Its for my oldest friends daughter's wedding, we have been friends 30 years and although we now live miles away and only get to see each other every few years.

Her dd and partner have asked for £££ as they are setting up a new home and I am more than happy to send a cheque as not able to make it to the wedding as had a previous engagment. How much would you send. We do not have an unlimited amount of money, but sending some money would not cause too much of a problem to us.

Asking for opinions before I reveal amounts dh and I are suggesting.

TIA

If, as you say, sending some money would not cause too much of a problem to you....then £20 seems mean.

I was regularly giving £50 over 10 years ago.

Now I do have money issues, £20 is about the most I can afford.

All depends on your means I would say?

Do you really view attending a wedding as a "free meal", Astely? I get that an invite is a sign that people like you which is of course nice, but I regard going to weddings as kind of a pain in the ass. I only go if people insist. It had not occurred to me that I should be essentially repaying the cost of my attendance.

I think if you are a couple £20 is pretty darn stingy if you're having a sit down meal.

Depends on your finances, surely. DH and I are going to a wedding in a couple of weeks, the couple have asked for money, we will be giving a cheque for £25. I don't think that's stingy at all. The wedding involves travel and an overnight hotel stay for us, plus drinks in the evening - we won't have any change left over from £100. Now considering that we live hand to mouth as it is, that is £100 we don't really have and the £25 is a stretch.

Should we have declined the invite perhaps?

Pineapplecrush it astounds me sometimes how mean people can be yet they have no problem spending vast amounts on booze.