To feed DS a few jars of baby food?

[thefuturesnotourstosee]

Normally I give him something I've made myself but there's nothing in the freezer, I came down suddenly with mastitis on Saturday nigh and cooking is the last thing on my mind so I sent DP out to buy some jars.

Someone from the mother and baby group just phoned up to find out why we didn't go this morning and I happened to mentioned I was feeding DS his lunch from a jar.

She told me that if I didn't feel capable to looking after him properly I should ahve phoned her and she'd have brought food round and helped. I know she was trying to be nice but it came across all wrong. He's fed. He's clean. My friend took him for a walk to the shops earlier He's watching cbeebies

So AIBU?

I don't like jars but this is what they are for, IMO. The same times I would eat a pizza or ready meal, that's when DD would get a jar.

Oh ffs of course you're not.

I don't think your friend needs to be so judgemental tbh, whatever the circumstances.

I would be more likely to feed 8 mo dd a sandwhich or something basic like that if I wasn't cooking, but I wouldn't impose my ideas on someone else.

Oh good lord. If you're sure that's what she meant re the jar, then she's deranged.

I cooked loads of beautiful food and blended it painstakingly when DCs were little. Sometimes they would eat it, often it was a battle.

But you know what they would alway eat without fail? The luminous orange pasta stuff from jars. So whenever I was feeling a bit under par every other day that is what they would get.

Be a rebel! Maybe you should buy non-organic one day and really show them.

It's food, he ate it, his belly is now full.

When did the odd jar of food become a big deal? It's not crystal meth!

Yes. He will now have a lifelong love of jarred food. You won't be able to take him into a supermarket because he'll keep hugging the pickled onions.

Crazy lady.

Hope the mastitis is starting to ease.

You've made me laugh now. justfornow I'll buy him a jar of pickled onions to cuddle up to in his cot I like to make him happy

As for crystal meth I'd take some right now if I thought it had pain killing qualities

It might kill the pain but I think it's a little moreish

You want heroin for that not crystal meth.

My lot had plenty of jarred food in their babyhood and I'm happy to say that they're all very healthy and happy teenagers and 20 year old. Methinks your friend is a little...erm...militant.

IMO jarred food is for when needs must, ie for exactly the situation you are in at the moment. Your friend was probably just trying to be nice but went about it the wrong way.

get better friends she sounds a judgy snooty a self important pearl clutching cow

I hope you feel better soon,

The pouches are better

Just ignore!

DD had plenty of jars. That was less than a year ago. And it was the one thing she would always eat.

He's fed. It wasn't pork scratching. All is fine. Tell that woman to sod off!

There is nothing wrong with jars of baby food and anyone thinking parents who buy them aren't capable of looking after their children should get a bloody grip.

Why is jarred food like a ready meal?

It's just pureed fruit/meat/vegetables. It's not full of preservatives etc, my understanding is that's it's like UHT milk; heated to a high temperature and then stored in an airtight jar.

When my daughter was weaning we lived in a really awful bedsit with a shared kitchen-really disgusting. Because of this she ONLY ate from jars. She's now 20 and absolutely fine!! Really, don't worry.

A peach that I mush up with a fork, compared with peach puree in a jar... One is a peach I have chosen not the mankiest ones they can't sell. One is fresh, the other isn't. One is made to sit on a shelf for months, the other isn't. One is always different in taste and texture prompting my LO to expect food to vary and enable her to cope with this as she grows. One has lots of vitamins and minerals, the other doesn't. One is cheap the other isn't. One tastes nice, the other doesn't.

That is how jar food is like a ready meal.

OP is still NBU to use them sometimes, though.

Of course yanbu!!

I never noticed anything 'manky' about the fruit in jars. And I assume that, being fruit, it contains vitamins and minerals. And aren't they kept fresh by being stored in an airtight container? Certainly I never saw any mould on the ones I gave to my ds. Nothing like a ready meal either - have you seen the ingredients on one of those buggers? Baby jars just don't compare.

Hope you're feeling better soon OP and honestly don't worry.

fwiw Baby food must be of highest standard and a fruit puree baby food is the exact same as normal fruit you can't really faff about with tinned baby food

Let me tell you, I have one particular friend whose DS is a couple of months older than my DS.

She brought him for a visit a while back and we discussed our HV's.

I was telling her how my HV was going to discuss BLW at our next appointment and I mentioned how it was different from when we last weaned babies (we both have DC who are in high school). My friend went on to tell me that she'd told her HV not to bother coming back. Her DS would be getting jars and that's that.

She's not a bad mum for that. My preference is to know everything that's in the food my DS will eat but I don't think it's bad parenting to choose otherwise.

jarred I meant jarred do you still get tinned baby food ?

According to the back of the jar, MrsTP, all food is made with 'baby grade' ingredients.

This means they're grown a certain distance from roads, with minimal contact with pesticides etc, and in many cases are organic. They have to meet strict quality guidelines and haven't been allowed to sit on a worktop picking up bacteria/going a bit manky.

As my DS screwed his face in disgust at my carefully made purees, but gobbled down anything in a jar, I can only assume your 'it tastes better' ascertion, is similarly not true in all cases.