To feed DS a few jars of baby food?

[thefuturesnotourstosee]

Normally I give him something I've made myself but there's nothing in the freezer, I came down suddenly with mastitis on Saturday nigh and cooking is the last thing on my mind so I sent DP out to buy some jars.

Someone from the mother and baby group just phoned up to find out why we didn't go this morning and I happened to mentioned I was feeding DS his lunch from a jar.

She told me that if I didn't feel capable to looking after him properly I should ahve phoned her and she'd have brought food round and helped. I know she was trying to be nice but it came across all wrong. He's fed. He's clean. My friend took him for a walk to the shops earlier He's watching cbeebies

So AIBU?

Your situation was what jars were invented for.

When I went back to work after DS, Jars saved my sanity on more than one occasion.

Don't most people use a combination of jars/pouches and normal food? DS eats at different times to us. We normally have breakfast and lunch together and have the same or similar things, and then at tea time he either has a jar of pasta, or some leftovers reheated from the day before. He is guaranteed to always eat splodge so I always have some in the cupboard in case of fussy days.

You used to be able to get the tinned stuff years ago when I weaned my ds, mrsjay, but not very much - it was already being overtaken by the jars. Which now seem to have been overtaken by the pouches. Don't think there's a blind bit of difference in the whole lot apart from each is that bit more expensive.

Good grief, she should try doing a touring holiday when her child was just weaning! A different B and B or hotel every one or two nights for ten days meant there was no way we could take home cooked food with us. And, just like another poster, the bright orange jars were always my DS's favourite. I'm assuming her child will never have a meal out, go to McDonalds (whisper it) or something similar ever, and she'll never buy a takeaway anything. Otherwise, at what age does it become OK to give your child processed food occasionally?

DS ate mostly jars as a baby. I was constantly told by MIL how he's never eat normal food, would be fussy.

From the age of 1 he ate everything and anything 'normal' and is now 11 and the least fussy eater I have ever met.

This is interesting. Doesn't apply to all food but it is interesting anyway.

YAB completely U. I am disgusted and am on the phone to SS as we speak! I can't believe you would even need to ask this.

I've heard there's even some terrible lazy mothers (cough cough ) who always use(d) jars! It makes me sick sick sick that people care so little about what their child eats.

Her reaction depends on how you told her you were feeding him from a jar. Did you sound quite miffed about having to feed him jar food? Maybe she took the way you said it as being disappointed so she offered to help?

DS had maybe 10 jars in total and I wouldn't have thought twice about giving one in those circumstances!

I'll give you a funny story in reverse. A Mil story of course

I was feeling quite clever at all my bulk making and freezing, and telling her what I'd put in each meal.

She looked at me.

And said.

sigh<

"well, if you can't feed him properly on Heinz, at least you fill him up so he won't cry"

Translation: "Anything but Heinz is pure poison"

The Heinz tinned egg custard was quite nice :D

Why did you think to mention it?

Check him over in the morning. If his ears have turned green or his toes have all fallen off, your friend was probably right and you broke your baby by feeding him from a jar. Otherwise, you're ok.

Of course YANBU, do you really need to ask?

P.S. I concur about the Heinz Egg Custard jars. Bloody lovely.

DS had mainly homemade with the odd jar for when it was more convenient. Same now he is 3.5 and he has 'proper' home cooked meals the vast majority of the time with the odd, quick convenient meal when needed (although as I have the only 3 year old who refuses nuggets and fish fingers the options are limited!)

Oh, no. You've ruined him for life. He'll never get into Cambridge now. The angels are weeping for him.

Of course there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeding your child food from a jar. Really. Your friend sounds like a prize cow. Did she really say you weren't looking after your child properly? How did you refrain from telling her where to get off?

I hope you are feeling better.

Geez. DS would only eat jars actually pouches, which he preferred cold and, shudder, sucked I lovingly prepared a lot of food for him, and food from the table, but no all he would eat was breast milk and those bloody pouches.

Still very fussy at three, and he's not my only child. The others aren't like that before anyone thinks it me. I think he has a sensitive palate

floggingmolly she asked me what DS was having for lunch and I told her and that was her response.

I knew I should never have gone anywhere near our local NCT mother and baby group.

omg at your friend!
that is quite a mental over reaction you know.

When my eldest (14) was little she would not eat anything and my HV suggested those box things that you add water to. I am not sure they even sell them anymore, maybe they do...anyway they then became the only thing she would eat for about 3 years solid (she had developmental delays and autism, we didn't know at the time!)

Paperseagull DP is an Oxford graduate. He'd be appalled if DS went to the other place! Maybe the baby food is for the best after all

Heinz also used to do a wonderful banana pudding. And that Miller chocolate pudding! When I worked as a nanny- it was always one spoon for them, one for me

I fed dd on jars (she would eat jars and turn her nose up at home made purees) and she is an excellent eater.

It never fails to amuse me what is considered the hallmark of "proper" parenting.

Of course you are not BU. Next time you are unwell, do invite your friend round to cook for your baby (but make sure you have a few jars in the house as well in case it is inconvenient for her).