To feed DS a few jars of baby food?

[thefuturesnotourstosee]

Normally I give him something I've made myself but there's nothing in the freezer, I came down suddenly with mastitis on Saturday nigh and cooking is the last thing on my mind so I sent DP out to buy some jars.

Someone from the mother and baby group just phoned up to find out why we didn't go this morning and I happened to mentioned I was feeding DS his lunch from a jar.

She told me that if I didn't feel capable to looking after him properly I should ahve phoned her and she'd have brought food round and helped. I know she was trying to be nice but it came across all wrong. He's fed. He's clean. My friend took him for a walk to the shops earlier He's watching cbeebies

So AIBU?

I'm quite jealous, I used to buy jars all the time and eat them myself I wish I had a baby an a good excuse to gorge on a few.

In fact I bet having one would perk you right up!

I would invite your friend for lunch and serve her an iceland ready meal as a punishment tbh

Sunshine orange breakfast, made by Farleys, I think. Powdered baby food that you made up with milk or water. My kids loved them, just as they all loved the rusks. They were one for baby one for me

The rusks, that is.

Is it possible she was trying to be nice OP and just phrased it wrong? If she knows that you are part of the 'lovingly puree' camp she might have meant she was happy to help you and you didn't have to resort to jars (unless you want to)

FWIW I am not evangelical about homemade or jars, but I am avoiding them for as long as I can as I strongly suspect my PFB will prefer Heinz to Mummy's lovingly prepared vegetables, and I am sure my stuff has more texture (albeit because I am a bit rubbish) which I hope will help avoid fussiness in the future.

She already nicked DH spicy poppadum and was giving it a good suck when I left them alone for five minutes last week . I would like to stay off processed for as long as we can.

I remember Sunshine Orange breakfast, DS1(18) loved that! DS2(16) used to love the powdered macaroni cheese, I made it up with breast milk so I guess that was ok! Funnily enough they are both 6'3" healthy young lads, who will eat anything.

YANBU OP.

Madlizzy I love a Farleys Rusk too, would it be wrong to buy them when there are no babies in the house?

yes sunshine orange and there was a banana one
she loved the tomato pasta one though that smelt like sick :o

Jars for the baby,
Cabbage leaves for the mastitis.

Rest for mum.

Job done.

You're going about it all the wrong way you know, if anything is mentioned again you need to say that it was from the naice posh French range in Waitrose. The macaroni and courgette stew goes down a treat but looks like snot
Your friend is being U and a judgey cow...

Soapie - no. Mrs D - were they just a little bit thick?

My DD practically lived on jars for a few weeks whilst we had work done on our kitchen. She is now a healthy and happy 6 year old. YANBU to use jars. Use the jars, make a cuppa and go relax safe in the knowledge your little one has a full tummy.
As long as the jars are correct for the age of the child they are absolutely fine to use.

Get well soon OP xx

There is nothing wrong with the odd jar. You need to give yourself a break x

I'm one of those mums that only feed DS jars. I started with some pureed sweet potato at the beginning but given we live on a tiny island where organic food requires a remortgage and all the stuff in the Ella's Kitchen range is far better than anything we get on the shelf, jarred/packet purrees is all DS got.

And now that he's 20 months, it's mainly all he still gets by virtue of the fact that he's in full time daycare, DH and I don't eat until very late we don't eat pasta, bread, potatoes or rice and we rarely have leftovers (we eat paleo).

Better for him to have a range of different textures, tastes and variety from (gasp) a plastic tub than my dubious cooking. He's a toddler, most of what he has on his plate gets thrown on the ground no matter what form it comes in! Oh sure, he'll pick up and eat most of whatever we give him of our food, but if I need to give him dinner, I'll give him a toddler tub.

You are definitely not being unreasonable, go and have a rest, put your feet up and the cabbage on your boobs!

Have to say that I mainly didn't use jars when weaning so don't have an axe to grind re insecurity about my parenting choices. Anyway, the main reasons for not using them were that I was going through an el skinto phase money-wise and also one jar was not enough for my hungry baby. You know those weaning books where they advise you to puree and freeze ice-cube size portions? Yeah, that didn't last long - I'd give him a handful of cubes-worth, he'd wolf them down and then sit yelling really loudly for more, all red-faced and furious, while I scurried about between freezer and saucepan, frantically jabbing at them with the spoon while muttering "Melt, you bastard, melt". If I'd fed him on jars all the time I would have been fucking bankrupt, the amount that kid ate. But jars are healthy enough and not using them had nothing to do with wanting to be an uber-parent.

You poor thing - mastitis is terrible, terrible, terrible. Yes - feed him the jar on the following points -

1. He js lucky to be fed at all since you are so ill.
2. I presume you are breastfeeding so he is already having every nutrient known and unknown to man so you could feed him freddo's and a pastie and he'll be fine.
3. When he lives on macdonalds, pizza and kebabs when he is 22 and in uni, you will sigh and wonder why you even worried about that one jar when you were on your knees with illness.

They still made those box baby foods when ds1 was weaned, 8 years ago. My lovely step mother bought the Christmas pudding one for him, and then my Auntie (whos never had a baby) spent all day nagging at me because a, i was still breastfeeding, and b, he wasnt weaned ter! He was exactly 4months and 4 days old at that point!

When he was a bit bigger the pracy flavoured brakfast was his favourite!

*ter = yet
Pracy = peach
Brakfast = breakfast

Sorry,.phone somehow ended up in polish

You are over reacting! It sounds like she just offered to help/bring meals. Perhaps it came out wrong but it is posts like this that make me reason that I just don't have the same amount of energy to find fault and offence with people as so many others here.

Rude patronising bitch. Course YANBU. Hope your mastitis eases soon

You are only BU to worry for even ONE SECOND that giving your baby food from a jar makes you a bad parent. I worry that you might be thinking that about other parents though...

aww sunshine orange breakfast dd loved it I got the cauli cheese one for her THAT was rank poor baby screwed her face up as I was going but it is yummy I did like the jars of apple puree and the chocolate and pear pudding was delicious

The cauliflower cheese one. Ew. Just the smell made me want to vomit.