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AIBU?

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aibu to hate my grandma?

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joanna1990marie · 02/06/2013 02:44

So, she is 68 years old, and up to a point she was what I believed to be a loving, kind and respectable human being, I have recently found out that she stood there and watched while her ex husband beat up my mum as a child! She also told my mum when she was a little girl that she had cancer...she didn't btw and I find myself do utterly disgusted by this woman, I've also found out she snogged a 16!!! Yes 16 year old in a local club about a year ago, once again infront of my mum! And then to top it off has had a 3some with the disgustingly smelly carwash fellas from Albania. I had to stay with her for a week once as me and my partner had a falling out and she had a hamster....bear with Me.... She used to put ham in its cage and fruit and hamsters won't eat meat so it was off and smelling, she had one of her friends around and blamed the smell on me! She talks about me behind my back and is one of them people who if she is not involved in a conversation will bark out a laugh, just to make people look at her! She chases around foreign men in their 20's, I am utterly repulsed by this woman! I unfriended her on fb....I know, sounds childish...just because she was messaging me EVERYDAY pretending to be this sweet little grandma when I know what a mucky slag she is, she found out that I'd deleted her because she spies on my profile every day and apparently she cried, and tbh I just dont care, and now she's hassling family members asking them what she's done to upset me! Sorry this is stupid long....almost forgot that when I was 20 weeks pregnant, we were all having a family meal at my mum's, I started to have a nap as I was struggling with exhaustion, she started putting this weird teddy in my face while I was sleeping because she'd gotten so pissed at the meal, so I politely told her to fuck off, she then proceeded to drink even more tequila...no one else was drinking... And then me my sister and mum were in a conversation when she decided she was gunna fall down the stairs and piss herself on the floor, she was pretending to be unconscious, no one saw her fall, just heard banging, I thought if shes really injured she'll want an ambulance as she was still feigning unconsciousness, low and behold as soon as I mentioned phoning 999 she made a miraculous recovery! AIBU???? Dear god it feels good to rant!

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joanna1990marie · 02/06/2013 07:21

Thanks for the responses, barring the one who would like to correct my grammar at 3 in the morning, cngaf, work that out, and the other one looking for an argument, go start your own thread for pent up aggression if all you like to do is argue with a computer screen.
For everyone with helpful responses, I'll try and find a way to cut her out delicately, not for her sake but for the rest of my family as I know they'd be upset if I brought the whole shebang down on them.

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MatersMate · 02/06/2013 07:35

An young man shagging, piss soaked Grandma. Kinda hoping I end up like that Grin

Sorry joanne cant be very nice for you though. I'd tell her how hurt and embarrassed you are by her behaviour, maybe it's time she heard a few home truths?

bailo · 02/06/2013 08:11

So raisah its not ok to look down on people because they're Albanian, but it is ok to look down on people who have a job washing cars?

LadyBeagleEyes · 02/06/2013 08:19

Funniest thread ever Grin

EleanorHandbasket · 02/06/2013 08:24

Wowsers.

marriedinwhiteagain · 02/06/2013 08:41

What does your mum think? TBH you all sound a bit fruity.

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 08:49

Hey im not fruity! My mum is very laid back, she manages to ignore all the things grandma does, not with ease but with a little more subtly than I have. She is someone who forgives very easily because she thinks it's unhealthy to hold grudges, but she doesn't like the way grandma acts. She said she's getting worse with age!

bailo · 02/06/2013 08:53

Getting worse with age? She could live for another 20 years or more. Imagine what she'll be like then!

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 09:06

Jesus Christ, don't even put that thought in my head, although by that time it would be quite funny watching her go clubbing in her hot pants as she does now!

ihatethecold · 02/06/2013 09:09

bloody hell. what a nightmare!

I also agree that its just rude to comment on someones grammar.

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 09:14

To be fair it was daft o'clock in the morning and my brainy no worky! :*)

peggotty · 02/06/2013 09:16

Ok assuming this is true, the only thing I would be worried about here is YOUR mum and the fact her own mother allowed her to be abused. You say your mum doesn't want you to cut your gran out but I suspect you should be supporting your mum to cut your gran out - your poor mum has the worse deal here.

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 09:30

Ive told her that, I've said if you let me be treated that way Id have nothing to do with you, I don't think it helps that she has never known who her father is, grandma is very flaky about the details. If you met my mum you'd understand, she is so different from this woman that she actually feels sorry for her, my mum is loving and genuine and just a generally fantastic person with a great attitude to life, so I think she'd rather just put up with her but keep her distance.

TheBigJessie · 02/06/2013 09:32

I'm worried about the hamster.

rabbitlady · 02/06/2013 09:39

i really hope this isn't true.

if it is, the hamster needs removing from the situation.

LadyBeagleEyes · 02/06/2013 09:41

Why have you just namechanged Op?

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 09:44

Hamster is gone now, she gave it away as it was too much for her..wtf...she is now wanting a cat but has settled for 3 goldfish.

And because people keep judging me on my age elsewhere so I've changed it so in future all my opinions will be considered instead of dismissed.

TheHerringScreams · 02/06/2013 09:57

It's good that the hamster's gone. It's so wrong that people are judging you on your age, I was judged on my age until I got to 25 and then apparently I was mature Hmm

McNewPants2013 · 02/06/2013 10:01

you both sound as bad as each other.

I know what a mucky slag she is I really hate women being called slags and other names just because they enjoy sex.

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 10:07

It is sex with numerous amounts of men, enjoy sex but enjoy it monogamously! I've had 2 sexual partners my current partner I've been with for coming up 6 years, I don't drink and I don't go clubbing barring new years eve! So please explain how that relates me to an old pensioner who practically lays it on a plate?

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 10:10

Theherringscreams, im 22 and have been told about my lack of maturity being due to my lack of age, I think judging by my post age and maturity do not come hand in hand! :-D glad someone understands.

McNewPants2013 · 02/06/2013 10:15

because you are judging her based on her sex life then calling her names based on her sex life.

She doesnt want a relationship, she wants to have mulitply sexual partners and that has not got anything to do with you.

McNewPants2013 · 02/06/2013 10:18

whats the problem with foreign men.

corlan · 02/06/2013 10:20

It's true - there's no one quite like grandma.

joanna0211marie · 02/06/2013 10:23

Why come on to start an argument, if you like to sleep about that's your prerogative, this lady is related to me and is making a name for herself and she is Associated with me so therefore it has got everything to do with me. Once again, in relation to your foreign men comment rtft, or join a debate team. either way!