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To think this was really rude...

65 replies

Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:12

So it's been a lovely sunny day, my DD has been playing out on some communal grass which is situated outside mine and another ladies house all day.
There is around 7 children on the street who are around the same age and who play together.

I decided to bring out a chair at 3pm to sit and watch them play, today it was just me and DD in the house and I had done all the jobs in the house so we had some sandwiches out there and I had a cider.The lady who lives next door came out and said can I put my chair next to yours? I said of course, I know her quite well but not to say she is a friend.

Forward till 8pm and we are still there enjoying a drink and talking to the children. My DD had eaten her tea of cottage pie at 6 ish, sat on a blanket with us. I didn't eat then as wasnt really hungry, this is only a one off as such a nice day and both of us at home alone. Then with the neighbour being friendly and making an effort I didn't like to go inside.

So at 8pm I said to her are you hungry? And she said yes I am , so I said well there is lots of cottage pie left should I get us some? Yes that would be lovely she said.
So I emerged with 2 bowls of food,forks ect. I sat eating mine, she had one folk full then proceeded to lower the bowl onto the floor , towards her little dog that had joined us. She then looked at me and said " do you mind? "
I actually was go smacked, she was feeding my fucking tea to the dog, my lovely slow cooker lamb cottage pie to the dog.
I just said er no. As the plonked my bowl down on the grass and the bloody mut wolfed the lot down.

Now I don't begrudge the dog a meal, just not mine!! That could have been frozen for another day.
When the bowl was empty she said I hope you didn't mind I just can't stand cottage pie!! It's the texture, it's like baby food.
AIBU to be fuming.?

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olympicsrock · 01/06/2013 23:14

How very very rude.

LaurieFairyCake · 01/06/2013 23:16
Shock

Did you tell her it was cottage pie beforehand?

If you did that completely beggars belief.

That is incredibly rude!

nothruroad · 01/06/2013 23:16

That is unbelievably rude!

Elquota · 01/06/2013 23:17

YANBU at all! How strange, and rude.

If she didn't like cottage pie why did she accept it in the first place?

Sparklingbrook · 01/06/2013 23:17

YANBU. Sad

Chottie · 01/06/2013 23:17

yep very rude

ivykaty44 · 01/06/2013 23:19

is it possible she didn't like it and was struggling to know what to do?

She said yes to cottage pie, so thought she would like it and then when it arrived it wasn't as she likes it - so it was a get out clause so she didn't have to eat it

Sorry but cottage pie varies greatly in how it is made etc.....

ginmakesitallok · 01/06/2013 23:20

Grin she obviously didn't like it as much as you did, but very rude!

TigerSwallowTail · 01/06/2013 23:21

If she didn't like cottage pie she shouldn't have said yes to some Confused. How many ciders did she have?

MrsReacher · 01/06/2013 23:22

Sorry. Probably not the response you are after but this has really made me chuckle. Not least because she used your bowl. YANBU at all What a waste of a lovely dinner. I would also never accept any food offered by her in the future but then I'm funny about sharing my plate with the dog !

CloudsAndTrees · 01/06/2013 23:23

If she's making a comment like 'cottage pie tastes like baby food', then it's wierd that she said yes to your offer of cottage pie in the first place.

Would you really have taken it back to freeze after she had tried it though?

I'd be more annoyed about a dog eating out of one of my bowls. I love my dog dearly, but he doesn't get to eat from our crockery!

Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:23

She said yes if you are getting some and it's not too much trouble yes please I'm hungry!! Then let her dog scoff the lot. Now I'm no Gordon Ramsey but I know I'm a good cook and I do a lovely cottage pie, yes it may have dried up a Touch but hey I was saving her cooking. Tbh I was more arsed the dog was licking my bloody bowl and fork.
My dd was just staring at the dog then looking at me!!

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LittleMissLucy · 01/06/2013 23:24

Eccentric? A strange, doggy person?
Shame about the food tho.

I would have said "yes I mind !" And whisked it out of her hands...

WouldBeHarrietVane · 01/06/2013 23:25

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Birdsgottafly · 01/06/2013 23:26

When she said "do you mind", if you did, you should of said so.

If she ate a fork full, which you said that she did, she obviously didn't like it, so was at a loss what to say.

It is a lack of communication by both, that has caused the problem. I think that people try to be to polite, telling the truth, isn't being rude.

Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:26

No I wouldn't have froze it after!! But what I meant was that could have been frozen if she hadn't accepted it.
Then she left the empty bowl on the grass.
She had had 4 glasses of wine I think, I was on cider.

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MrsOakenshield · 01/06/2013 23:28

very odd. If it's made with lamb it's shepherd's pie, though, isn't it? I though cottage pie was made with beef mince ? I would have been right pissed off as, shepherd's or cottage, I could easily have seconds. Or thirds, or fourths.

mrswoz · 01/06/2013 23:29

Um, I would have been very surprised if you had given me cottage pie made with lamb mince. I hate lamb, and if you'd offered me cottage pie I would have expected beef tbh. Shepherds pie I would have assumed was lamb.

But no way would have fed it to a dog. Actually I hate lamb so much I probably would have smelt it and refused already!

MakeGlutenFreeHay · 01/06/2013 23:30

Why did you say you didn't mind if you clearly did?

LittleMissLucy · 01/06/2013 23:30

You are making me hungry now

Cosydressinggown · 01/06/2013 23:30

Hmmm when you say you were still enjoying a drink at 8pm (from 3pm) how many does that mean you had actually had? Ie was she pissed out of her head? If not, she is rude.

Having said that, it's awful when you taste something and then really don't like it. I can't choke down food that I don't like. I wouldn't have said yes in the first place, mind...

WafflyVersatile · 01/06/2013 23:32

It's a bit odd and rude but maybe she saw it as the least rude route out of not eating something she didn't like for whatever reason.

I would try not to let it get to me but not offer her food again.

MrsReacher · 01/06/2013 23:35

Mrswoz. I used to get the two mixed up until somebody pointed out the clue was in the name........Smile

fanoftheinvisibleman · 01/06/2013 23:37

Hmmm she was rude to do that. But (and it doesn't excuse she did it), you offered her cottage pie but gave her shepherds pie. I love cottage pie but cannot abide lamb.I wouldn't have done what she did but would probably have been Blush trying to push it round my plate trying to eat as little as possible.

ivykaty44 · 01/06/2013 23:38

you mean cottage are looked after by cows?

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