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AIBU?

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To think this was really rude...

65 replies

Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:12

So it's been a lovely sunny day, my DD has been playing out on some communal grass which is situated outside mine and another ladies house all day.
There is around 7 children on the street who are around the same age and who play together.

I decided to bring out a chair at 3pm to sit and watch them play, today it was just me and DD in the house and I had done all the jobs in the house so we had some sandwiches out there and I had a cider.The lady who lives next door came out and said can I put my chair next to yours? I said of course, I know her quite well but not to say she is a friend.

Forward till 8pm and we are still there enjoying a drink and talking to the children. My DD had eaten her tea of cottage pie at 6 ish, sat on a blanket with us. I didn't eat then as wasnt really hungry, this is only a one off as such a nice day and both of us at home alone. Then with the neighbour being friendly and making an effort I didn't like to go inside.

So at 8pm I said to her are you hungry? And she said yes I am , so I said well there is lots of cottage pie left should I get us some? Yes that would be lovely she said.
So I emerged with 2 bowls of food,forks ect. I sat eating mine, she had one folk full then proceeded to lower the bowl onto the floor , towards her little dog that had joined us. She then looked at me and said " do you mind? "
I actually was go smacked, she was feeding my fucking tea to the dog, my lovely slow cooker lamb cottage pie to the dog.
I just said er no. As the plonked my bowl down on the grass and the bloody mut wolfed the lot down.

Now I don't begrudge the dog a meal, just not mine!! That could have been frozen for another day.
When the bowl was empty she said I hope you didn't mind I just can't stand cottage pie!! It's the texture, it's like baby food.
AIBU to be fuming.?

OP posts:
Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:38

Erm yes you are right, it was shepherds pie if it was lamb. I just usually do it with beef so the name cottage pie sticks.
I said I didn't mind as the bloody canine had its head tilted into the bowl and was already scoffing it what else could I say? I wanted it back?!
She was not pissed I don't think I don't know her that well. I had had 3 bulmers and a coke, I wasn't drunk but thought we both should have something to eat before it got any later.

OP posts:
Ellenora5 · 01/06/2013 23:39

You should have said "no I don't mind at all that your feeding it to your dog, I'm not a bit offended, just like I know you won't be offended when I chuck the bowl in the bin and tell you where to buy me a replacement"

Is there a fast and hard rule about shepherds/cottage pie by the way, I just make shepherds pie with beef, sometimes I call it cottage pieBlush

Just thinking though that shepherds work with sheep/lambs so maybe that does make sense. I'm definitely overthinking here aren't I.

pictish · 01/06/2013 23:39

I think she was a bit drunk OP. 4 glasses of wine would be enough to make me a bit lairy.

WafflyVersatile · 01/06/2013 23:39

Maybe she doesn't like lamb......

rockybalboa · 01/06/2013 23:52

YANBU. That's v bloody rude. Not as if you didn't tell her beforehand what is was. Freeeeeeeeeeak!!!

Everythingwillbeok · 01/06/2013 23:58

Yes I'm glad we are in agreement, well most of anyway.
I can't get over it ! Then my DD came over saying Rocky is eating Janes dinner, I was like yes I know love go and play,like it was normal!

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/06/2013 00:03

I think she was a bit drunk OP. 4 glasses of wine would be enough to make me a bit lairy

4 glasses of wine and I'd eat a mouldy kebab let alone a neighbour's cottage pie I wasn't keen on.

Have to say OP I was Shock when I read your OP but it has had me Grin. Had I been you I'd have reacted in exactly the same way.

budgieshell · 02/06/2013 00:13

On the plus side at least the dog enjoyed it. The dog has better manners than your neighbour.

MisselthwaiteManor · 02/06/2013 04:29

She probably didn't like it and was trying to be polite in a weird way, it's still disgusting to let your dog slobber all over someone's bowl though! I'd be chucking it in the bin.

Madamecastafiore · 02/06/2013 04:49

Cottage pie is beef IMO. Shepherds pie is lamb and I would have heaved of anyone slapped any kind of slow cooked lamb in front of me. The smell is nauseating.

I wouldn't have fed it to the dog though but would have been embarrassed at pointing out your mistake and not being able to eat it.

raisah · 02/06/2013 06:28

That was incredibly rude of her particularly in this climate where everyone is on a tight budget. Like you said that cottage pie could have fed your family another day.

Eughhh she got her dog to eat out of your bowl!! Who knows where its mouth had been, I'd have chucked the bowl away.

mamageekchic · 02/06/2013 06:37

Another one here who would expect beef if offered cottage pie, even the smell of lamb makes me heave. She was probably embarrassed.

saintmerryweather · 02/06/2013 07:16

id just like to point out that dogs are not poisonous and washing the bowl up will render it clean and ready to be usedd again, theres no need to chuck it away!

toffeelolly · 02/06/2013 07:34

There are some very rude people in this world.

Jinty64 · 02/06/2013 08:18

I expect she thought she was going to get cottage pie and was given shepherds pie, which she clearly didn't like. After 4 glasses of wine, if she is anything like me, she would have been squiffy and unable to make good judgement. She clearly felt wrong footed and didn't know what too do. I don't think she was being rude I think she did what she felt was best considering the circumstances.

You could always share her pedigree chum if it is a nice day today!

MissStrawberry · 02/06/2013 08:22

The feeding it to the dog was bad enough but to then say she couldn't stand pie is really rude. She should have said no thank you.

MissStrawberry · 02/06/2013 08:29

I think it is a bit unfair to tell the OP she should have said if she wasn't happy. A lot of people would find it hard to say actually, yes I do mind as they wouldn't want to be seen as rude plus would be so shocked at what was going on.

I make it with lamb and call it shepherd's pie. Am I right?

Sparklingbrook · 02/06/2013 08:29

See what Jane serves you up for dinner later when she returns the favour. Wink

ENormaSnob · 02/06/2013 09:05

She was rude.

WilmaFingerdoo · 02/06/2013 09:29

Had it been the lamb/beef issue she'd have said. She clearly wasn't backwards in coming forwards, hence thebbaby food comment. peopledoliketoprovehowohsoclevertheyare

Yanbu bloody rude

Tortoise · 02/06/2013 09:35

I hope there wasn't any onion in it's poisonous to dogs!

snooter · 02/06/2013 10:09

Revolting to feed her dog from your bowl, or from any human's bowl, come to that. Fair enough I suppose to give it to the dog if she didn't like it (you wouldn't have wanted it after she'd tried it) but she could have put it in the dog's own bowl.

Everythingwillbeok · 02/06/2013 10:10

Yes I suppose those who have pointed out lamb might have been the problem, don't think it was thought she barely tasted it!
It did have onions in it and garlic and rosemary and salt,along with red wine and shallots.
Hope Rocky didn't have a poorly stomach later as it was too rich for him.

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snooter · 02/06/2013 10:12

It sounds delicious! I love slow-cooked lamb. And beef. Well anything really Smile

lljkk · 02/06/2013 10:21

I don't think she meant to offend, just very deficit in social graces.
It often strikes me how very understanding folk are on MN when they know there's a diagnosis in place; the problem is that a lot of adults have social-problem-conditions too (like ASD) but they don't know it themselves.
That's what I would have assumed, lack of social graces due to malfunction not selfishness.
I wouldn't be feeding her again, mind.