Just dropped 7 year old DD at a party and am a bit shocked. The inviter is a lovely little girl who does gymnastics with DD. They've been in the same group since September and get on really well. DD also knows her 8 year old sister and one other gym friend but noone else.
Background :We live in a small, predominantly white, middle class village about 20 minutes away from the town where the birthday girl lives. The town is very multiculural and very poor. We haven't been to her house before and I only know her mum to say hi to at gym, however she is always really pleasant and friendly and both her daughters are lovely so, no qualms about leaving DD with them for an afternoon (party at their house.)
Anyway, the reason I'm shocked is that I just took DD over and the friend, her sister and even the mum, were dressed in the most exquisite, white, sticky out party dresses. They had professional looking make up on and intricate hairstyles with extensions! (Except mum who always has her head covered.)
DD was in jeans and trainers!
I commented on how beautiful they looked, checked mum had my mobile number and kissed DD goodbye. On the way back to the car, I saw another invitee arrive and she was also wearing a similar frilly white dress!
I have 3 DC so have been to plenty birthday bashes over the years and have never seen this kind of outfit! I used to encourage DD to wear a dress for a party but she's recently decided that dresses are no fun for playing in and prefers a pretty top and jeans. I'm now worried that she's feeling really awkward and embarrassed if she's the only one like that?!
I think the family are muslim, (purely based on the mum's head scarf) and they are black. The other little guest I saw was fair haired though so is it more a town thing than a cultural thing?
AIBU to be bothered at all? I'm just really surprized and hope DD isn't bothered and is having fun!