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AIBU or is this woman a bit weird?

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ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:41

OK...this is probably going to sound really petty, but me and DH want to know if this woman is being odd, or if we're reading too much into it. This is quite long...I've tried to include all I can think of.

DH takes our dog for a walk over a local field every morning. As I'm sure most dog walkers know, if you go to the same place every day, you get to know the other people who do the same. He's become quite friendly with some of them, but this one woman is behaving rather strangely.

First of all, he really liked her. They got on well and had a laugh, passed small talk to kill a bit of time in the mornings. He mentioned about me and my hair adventures and she was really interested to get some tips on how to do her own (I make dread extensions etc). So I let her friend me on Facebook (stupid I know).

Anyway as time went on, he chatted to more and more people. We moved back to my home-town so DH didn't really know anyone, and we both liked the fact he now had a few people to talk to etc. However, this woman (I'll call her Gill) started to act really weird when he talked to other people, especially women. She'd storm off in a huff, or make stupid jokes saying things like "hahaaa you don't need ME any more now do you, you talk to this person and that person". She's got a long term boyfriend so he just put it down to her being a bit highly strung.

A lot of the people over the park have exchanged numbers, including DH and this woman (it happened before she started being odd). The exchanged the odd friend type text (he always shows me them), usually nothing more than a "You going to the park today? Maybe see you there" type stuff. But recently she's been texting him a lot. She even texted him while we were on holiday recently, and she knew we were away. Some of the texts are a bit odd..."Are you OK?" just out of nowhere for no reason. Not blatantly odd...but just not in context and for no reason. She often seems really put out if she doesn't get his attention, or if he talks to other people. She's say things like "ooh you and X are getting along really well...I think she fancies you!" "Are you sure nothing's happened between you and X" etc Just quite inappropriate really

The weirdest thing though, is the hair...this is where it may sound petty. She wanted to make and install some dreads, so she asked me a load of advice, I was happy to oblige. She gave it a go and put dreads in. Seemed very interested in what DH though, but we just put it down to him having experience and knowing what mine were like...but now she's moving to the realms of really copying me. Then She commented on my shaved bits (HEAD bits...minds out of the gutter ladies). She then shaved the side of her head, just like mine...then she bleached it and cut if short...just like mine...then she started talking about dying it blue...just like mine.

It's just getting weird now. DH has changed the time he's been going to the park to avoid her, and has been ignoring her texts. It's all gone quiet for a while, but is it just us, or is she being weird? Even all his other "dog-walker" friends have been ribbing him a bit and calling her his "stalker"

I worry I'm reading too much into it...sorry that sounds really silly written down. I trust DH implicitly...I just wanted to know if anyone would be a bit weirded out.

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OhGood · 31/05/2013 19:44

nutter nutter nutter!

Are you sure this isn't the plot of a dodgy film??

wharrgarbl · 31/05/2013 19:47

She definitely sounds a bit off - single white female-ish. Ugh. Avoid.

WinkyWinkola · 31/05/2013 19:47

She's weird.

Avoid at all costs.

She's obsessed with your dh.

Nothing good will come of trying to be kind and or understanding.

LalyRawr · 31/05/2013 19:47

That does sound very Single White Female.

Ignore, avoid and move sounds like a good plan.

ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:48
Grin

I'm glad it's not just me who thinks she a bit strange! DH was worried first of all when she acted all off with him...he thought he'd done something to upset her. Until she admitted the only reason was because he was friendly with another woman (who's lovely, I've met her and her husband). Then we put it down to her just being a bit neurotic or something....then the hair copying started Hmm

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Merguez · 31/05/2013 19:48

She fancies your DH.

I like the sound of your hair!

Gruntfuttocks · 31/05/2013 19:48

Definitely weird. Time for DH to find somewhere else to walk the dog, or maybe you need to take a turn?

DawnOfTheDee · 31/05/2013 19:48

You have to ask if this is weird...?! I'm think some kind of dog-walker, be-dreaded fatal attraction type scenario.

The hair thing is way weird. This is not a 'Rachel from Friends' uber popular hair cut that the world and his wife might give a go. It's really really specific.

I would avoid her at all costs and not reply to ANY more texts!

ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:50

He's not replying to any-more texts.

It's sort of developed over time DawnOfTheDee. It's not until I read all that back that I realise actually it IS really fucking weird....

He's been thinking of that Gruntfuttocks - he's already changed the time he goes. She works specific shifts so is always there at the same time.

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MisselthwaiteManor · 31/05/2013 19:50

Absolutely a nutter! You both need to ignore her completely before she kills you and wears your skin and tries to convince DH she is you

magicstars · 31/05/2013 19:52

She's creepy - defo (both) avoid!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 31/05/2013 19:54

Or boils any poor little bunnies.

Definitely avoid, avoid, avoid!

LalyRawr · 31/05/2013 19:54

Hoppus that made me giggle!

Though potentially not helpful for Op.

AmberLeaf · 31/05/2013 19:56

Deffo wierd.

Hopefully she will get the hint and bog off!

saulaboutme · 31/05/2013 19:56

No you're not reading into it. She's shown you what her personality is and she's flirty and insecure.
Keep avoiding her and write her off, sometimes we come across people like this in life. I know I have.

ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:57

It made me laugh actually Hoppus

We've made similar jokes Chez Scarlet

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ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:57
Smile
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CrystalSinger · 31/05/2013 20:00

Isnt there a fay weldon book with a lot like this?

Forgotten its name.....

Corygal · 31/05/2013 20:01

Barmy AND has a pash on yr DH. Avoid.

ENormaSnob · 31/05/2013 20:02

Creepy weirdo.

TolliverGroat · 31/05/2013 20:02

Put some pictures on FB photoshopped to look as though you've shaved all your hair off and got a large and prominent facial tattoo.

LadyBeagleEyes · 31/05/2013 20:03

I think you need to find another park.
Do you keep rabbits BTW?

ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 20:06

LMAO....funny you should say that TolliverGroat...

I posted a pic yesterday with that in mind...looks rather like I've shaved it all off but it's taken from the shaved side with it all slicked back.

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ChasingDogs · 31/05/2013 20:08

If it was just the hair, I'd say she was copying it because your hair sounds awesome and she perhaps doesn't have much imagination. Thus she has had to emulate you in order to obtain the same level of awesome.

But with all the messages etc., she is definitely exhibiting that wonderful combination of fancying your DH and being utterly fucking nuts. Given that he's avoiding her and not answering her messages I don't think there's an awful lot else he can do until she moves onto her next obsession/victim.

Shame he's had to change his dog-walking time. I had to do that recently and I miss the regulars I used to see. Although admittedly, none of them were basket cases. I'm pretty sure that would change my outlook on things.

Good luck to you. Hopefully if she's ignored long enough she will move on.

GoodbyePorkPie · 31/05/2013 20:10

Run for the hills! I wonder what her boyfriend thinks of all this?