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AIBU or is this woman a bit weird?

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ScarletLady02 · 31/05/2013 19:41

OK...this is probably going to sound really petty, but me and DH want to know if this woman is being odd, or if we're reading too much into it. This is quite long...I've tried to include all I can think of.

DH takes our dog for a walk over a local field every morning. As I'm sure most dog walkers know, if you go to the same place every day, you get to know the other people who do the same. He's become quite friendly with some of them, but this one woman is behaving rather strangely.

First of all, he really liked her. They got on well and had a laugh, passed small talk to kill a bit of time in the mornings. He mentioned about me and my hair adventures and she was really interested to get some tips on how to do her own (I make dread extensions etc). So I let her friend me on Facebook (stupid I know).

Anyway as time went on, he chatted to more and more people. We moved back to my home-town so DH didn't really know anyone, and we both liked the fact he now had a few people to talk to etc. However, this woman (I'll call her Gill) started to act really weird when he talked to other people, especially women. She'd storm off in a huff, or make stupid jokes saying things like "hahaaa you don't need ME any more now do you, you talk to this person and that person". She's got a long term boyfriend so he just put it down to her being a bit highly strung.

A lot of the people over the park have exchanged numbers, including DH and this woman (it happened before she started being odd). The exchanged the odd friend type text (he always shows me them), usually nothing more than a "You going to the park today? Maybe see you there" type stuff. But recently she's been texting him a lot. She even texted him while we were on holiday recently, and she knew we were away. Some of the texts are a bit odd..."Are you OK?" just out of nowhere for no reason. Not blatantly odd...but just not in context and for no reason. She often seems really put out if she doesn't get his attention, or if he talks to other people. She's say things like "ooh you and X are getting along really well...I think she fancies you!" "Are you sure nothing's happened between you and X" etc Just quite inappropriate really

The weirdest thing though, is the hair...this is where it may sound petty. She wanted to make and install some dreads, so she asked me a load of advice, I was happy to oblige. She gave it a go and put dreads in. Seemed very interested in what DH though, but we just put it down to him having experience and knowing what mine were like...but now she's moving to the realms of really copying me. Then She commented on my shaved bits (HEAD bits...minds out of the gutter ladies). She then shaved the side of her head, just like mine...then she bleached it and cut if short...just like mine...then she started talking about dying it blue...just like mine.

It's just getting weird now. DH has changed the time he's been going to the park to avoid her, and has been ignoring her texts. It's all gone quiet for a while, but is it just us, or is she being weird? Even all his other "dog-walker" friends have been ribbing him a bit and calling her his "stalker"

I worry I'm reading too much into it...sorry that sounds really silly written down. I trust DH implicitly...I just wanted to know if anyone would be a bit weirded out.

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ScarletLady02 · 01/06/2013 10:31

Blush Thanks for the compliments guys.

It seems pretty unanimous that INBU then...that's good! Don't think I've ever had a unanimous one before Grin

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JakeBullet · 01/06/2013 11:05

You hair is amazing, I am in Essex too. Do you do hair....?

MasterSplinter · 01/06/2013 11:20

Oh I love your hair. Smile

ScarletLady02 · 01/06/2013 11:44

I make and install woolly dreads JakeBullet, but can install just about anything, whereabouts are you? (PM if you'd rather)

Little update: DH saw another of his dog-walker buddies this morning who saw "Gill" yesterday. Apparently she said "Oooh have you seen MrScarlet's Wife?" She's shaved all her hair off!"

Is it wrong I'm doing an evil laugh right now??

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VeganCow · 01/06/2013 13:26

God I thought you were talking about someone i know, (dog walker )at first, until you mentioned the hair. Apart from that, it could be her. She is OBSESSED with one of the blokes who walks his dog every day.
he is very happily married, brings photos of his kids to show everyone, talks about his wife all the time, but this does not put her off. Its very weird.

gaggiagirl · 01/06/2013 13:52

I would laugh my back off if she shaved her head too, please keep us informed. And yeah avoid her at all costs before she turns your husbands lips into a key ring or something (that's what nutters do!)

digerd · 01/06/2013 17:38

Strange. I walk my dog 3 times a day, but rarely meet anybody now. And nobody wanted my numberSadHmm

WafflyVersatile · 01/06/2013 19:40

No obsessed stalker for you, digerd. Sad

phantomnamechanger · 01/06/2013 19:55

This would actually worry me.
It's OK for the other dog walkers (and us online) to be mildly entertained by this, and make bunny-boiler jokes, but I would not like it at all.

She might just have a mad crush on your DH and be harmless but these obsessive behaviours she shows are pretty overwhelming and I would make sure your DH avoids all areas she walks her dogs from now on. Defriend her on FB, tell her not to contact either of you again, then ignore all further texts etc. Report anything else she says or does to the police. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. She's unhinged.

pictish · 01/06/2013 20:09

Oh dear...sounds to me as though she looks up to and admires both of you, and has developed a stonking fascination for your dh in particular. I think she wants a bit of what she imagines your life to be like. She wants to absorb it and have it for herself. She wants to be you, and have him.

It's sad really. Her life will be lacking somewhere and she has latched onto your dh. A fan. What a pain in the arse.

Btw - your hair is awesome...you look fabulous!!

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