So this morning I woke up looked at my phone to check the time to see a message from a now ex friend saying she's "going to delete me off whatsapp (that's how I contact all friends) because your all about you and never reply"
now here's a little background I met her last summer through a play scheme that we both volunteered at she seemed quite nice or do I thought until we started going to the park etc with our 2 children she kept making comments saying things like "everyone you know are wierd" etc then one night she phoned me like 20 times maybe more from 11pm (which each call I answered) she was drunk she expected me to just get up go round and drink with her leaving my son and partner which I said no to.
On another occasion we went to a soft play centre together and walked up "together" afterwards she phoned get sil to pick her and her son up "saying shell will be fine she can make her own way home" I was pretty annoyed as she lived round the corner from me and just ditched me which I thought was pretty rude.
On another occasion she phoned and asked if I could go drop something off it was again about 10:30pm and I wasn't dressed and was very tired so dp said he will go drop it for her until she phoned and was saying things that made my partner uncomfortable and we decided I should drop it in the end, so when I got round there again she was pretty drunk and in her dressing gown with what looked like nothing underneath (she was still expecting my partner to drop it off, and kept saying things like "your partner is really good I've lost so many friends because of their husbands/boyfriends trying it on with me but your partner hasn't etc" which set alarm bells off so I distanced myself from her.
I bumped into her last month and she said she will message me etc I told her that me and dp have been pretty down as dp's close friend died and it was his funeral next week etc well the night of the funeral she was messaging me " hiya what you upto want to come round" then when I didn't reply se sent another saying "are you ignoring me?" "why are you ignoring me?" to which I replied "sorry not a good night for me will message soon" (she constantly does this if you don't reply straight away so a few days later I sent a message explaining why I didn't want to talk as partner was really upset, then the only other messages were asking to go see her or how we are etc
'm currently pregnant and found out I have a low placenta and to take it easy etc and was abit worried and stressed about that news as well as my son having a chest infection and was really bad with it and my mum being rushed to hospital so I have been worrying about that too so have been really busy I haven't heard from her for a few weeks until I got that message, which I replied "how dare you I have had alot of things worrying me with ds being I'll partners friend dying and my dm being in hospital my world if you can't understand that it's not all about me it's all about my family and not remembering to send you a message every single day then you are not a friend at all" so aibu to be very annoyed about receiving this message? And replying with what I did?
is this better for everyone?
My response: I've not surprised that you replied- waking up to an unreasonable message like that would leave me boiling, and i would explode. In fact, I have exploded to similar messages first thing in the morning before.
But, in the cold light of day, be sodding grateful she's dropped you. She's a self-centred drama queen. You do not want the hassle of someone who always has to make a fuss and get attention at the moment. You have enough real stuff going on in your life.
If she apologises to you after your reply this morning, don't renew the friendship!