To forbid second piercing?

[mamaliv]

I can't believe I'm even posting about this as I feel so strongly against it, I just have to share my frustration! DD1, who's 12, has her heart set on getting second piercings on her ears (just behind the regular place, which she had done about a year ago). I think she's absolutely too young, and would prefer her never to get them done, but want her to wait until she's at least 16 before deciding. I know she's a good girl and would never get it done without my permission, but DH is being frustratingly vague and told her it's her decision. It is not her decision!! (or is it...?). It sounds superficial but I know that people do judge on appearances, and second piercings just do not look professional. And she's way too young!

[StuntGirl]

Quite, Jessie!

[TheBigJessie]

Most Asian babies don't go to Claire's. I'm not sure that's a rousing endorsement of Claire's! Possibly more of a black mark.

[thebody]

Ok well me and the thousands of other shit parents out there who take their dds to Claire's and allow their under 18s to have piercings will all bow down to your superior knowledge and parenting skills.

[HeavenlyYoni]

Anyone know about flesh holes? My dd has 2, one very large now which she managed to conceal under her hair. For the record, I allowed normal piercing at 12, and then by 14 she'd started doing her own, despite the fact I had told her not to. She is now pierced as much as she can be, and I can't say I'm happy but she won't listen to me. We have enough to be going on with with other issues and I think she is playing on that.

[Glittertwins]

I've had 6 holes in one ear and 3 in the other since I was 16. Never had too much of a problem looking professional at work since my hair always covered my ears. I have tiny silver studs in all but the bottom holes which look a lot better than the marks the holes would leave behind and they even looked perfect on our wedding day too.

[StuntGirl]

You mean stretched piercings heavenly, what would you like to know about them?

[SlowlorisIncognito]

I have never, ever known a piercer in the UK to refuse to pierce a teenager with parental consent, not for something ear related anyway! Most say 16 without parental consent, which I think is fair enough as that is the age of consent, and whilst not a full adult, you're allowed more autonomy in law at that age.

WRT Claires, and other chain stores:

-It is better to be pierced with a needle than a gun, due to needles being more sterile (one use only). Piercing cartilage such as the upper ear with a gun is more painful and can cause permenant disfigurements, so should not be done.

-A professional piercer will be able to advise on the best jewellery to promote healing and prevent allergic reactions.

-A piercing studio is more likely to have qualified first aiders, in the rare event something does go wrong. Also, as they have more experience, espeicially with non-earlobe piercings, things are less likely to go wrong.

I think getting first ear piercings in Claires is ok but not ideal, however for second piercings or other ear piercings I would definately go to someone who would use a needle and had more experience and training.

Honestly between now and 16 she is likely to go behind your back and get it done anyway, possibly by a friend. At least if you allow it, you can chose where she has it done, and ensure everything is safe as it can be. Unstretched lobe piercings are very likely to disappear entirely if she takes them out when she's older, if she wants a job where they would be an issue.

[firesideskirt]

YADNBU. You are so right. I was permitted a second piercing at 14 even though my mum warned against it. I bitterly regret it now.

[firesideskirt]

that said it has not held me back in my chosen career!

[frissonpink]

I think it's sad to consider any 14 year old as anything but a child.

[kelda]

Just my opinions, based on my experience, to these questions:

'-It is better to be pierced with a needle than a gun, due to needles being more sterile (one use only). Piercing cartilage such as the upper ear with a gun is more painful and can cause permenant disfigurements, so should not be done.'

With the gun, it's the earring that pierces the ear. This is sterile, and very sharp. The gun itself may not be autoclaved, but then niether is a great deal of hospital eqipement (eg. endoscopes). If I remember correctly, Claire's don't use a gun for cartilage piercings.

-'A professional piercer will be able to advise on the best jewellery to promote healing and prevent allergic reactions.'

We were given good advice on healing and allergic reactions at Claires.

-'A piercing studio is more likely to have qualified first aiders, in the rare event something does go wrong. Also, as they have more experience, espeicially with non-earlobe piercings, things are less likely to go wrong.'

I insured that there were first aiders available at the shopping mall were my girls had their ears done.

[mumfeministmum]

I find this whole chat ridiculous its an ear piercing for gods sake. It doesn't exactly scream prostitute!