The assumption is that any woman who chooses not to pursue a claim is being let down by the State or is acting irrationally. But could it be that she is right? What if she feels partly responsible for what happened?
I feel responsible for something that happened to me a long time ago. I was drunk with a group of friends in a hotel. It was a wedding, so there were a lot of people booked into rooms. I was sharing a room with a female friend.
This female friend and I got chatting to a group of people. One of the men was complaining that he was unable to drive home (he lived nearby) and so female friend drunkenly suggested that he stay in our room. I said it would be okay. Later on, I go up to the room to find that female friend is asleep in her bed. I assume that the man got a lift home.
But then there's a knock at the door. I open the door and the man is there (quite drunk). He gets into my bed. I get into the bed too and expect us both to just go to sleep.
He puts his arm around me. In the back of my mind I'm a bit 
...but don't say anything because I was very drunk and sleepy. Next thing I know he's pulling my underwear down and touching me. I absolutely did not touch him or anything. It was a complete surprise. He then ended up putting his penis inside me.
I sort of froze and didn't know what to do. For some reason, I felt like I couldn't say anything...maybe this was because I was drunk. Friend was still fast asleep in other bed. I sort of just thought it'd be easier to let it happen than to say anything I think.
The next day he was gone but there was a number left on the side of the bed. I was crying in the morning and told my friend what had happened. She was shocked and rang the number. He was extremely apologetic...thought I was a lovely girl, did not realise that it wasn't consensual because I didn't say anything (I didn't bloody do anything, just lay there in stunned silence, half passed out.) He was so genuinely sorry. I later found out that he hit a woman when he was drunk and used to get in some violent fights (these incidents did not happen that night however)
I wouldn't class this situation as rape. I certainly don't compare myself to the women who are violently attacked by a stranger, etc. so I can partially see where Nick Ross is coming from.
Sorry for almost hijacking the post. I'm still unsure about what happened to me specifically and this post reminded me of it.