Nick Ross on rape - warning you may feel the need to punch a wall

[DuelingFanjo]

sorry it's a daily mail link.

I am full of rage, particularly his comments on aggravated rape. Wtf. Presumably he means that there are situations in which he will not be able to stop himself from raping someone because it is aggravated. This has made me so angry. Please they'll me he no longer works for the BBC. I truly hope he loses his career over this. How the hell are we supposed to educate people who think like this?

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Is he on twitter? Maybe a succint # summarising why his views are offensive. Bombard him with that.

[quoteunquote]

Nick Ross this may help you not to rape or assault people, please keep a copy with you at all times, re read before opening your mouth and saying stupid things.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

#rapeisrapeblametherapist

[DuelingFanjo]

false rape claims rarer than people think

[quoteunquote]

www.thisisnotaninvitationtorapeme.co.uk/

www.notever.co.uk/the-campaign/

for any of the backward people such as Nick Ross, who need advice.

[CoalDustWoman]

He's been an advisor to Victim Support. And sat on government committees relating to crime reduction.

Scary. These attitudes are so deeply embedded in our society. And people with power and influence are so rigid in their thinking.

His wife was a founder of Childline-do they never talk over the dinner table?

[limitedperiodonly]

He is equipped to read words off an auto cue while looking at a camera. He does not appear able to process data or understand concepts like feminism. He should not have a platform.

I think he considers himself an expert on all sorts of meaty topics

But I agree, it's just one more example of why we shouldn't let people get above themselves just because they'd been on the telly.

[BridgetBidet]

I am going out with my husband tonight. I may even 'openly kiss' him. Do I deserve to be raped?

[CoalDustWoman]

Rape is the crime. Aggravating or mitigating factors come into play in sentencing. Additional crimes, such as kidnap or wounding, are often prosecuted at the same time.

[Solopower1]

'About four per cent of British women are raped at some point during their lives' Where did this rubbish come from? Four percent??

In the early 1980s my group of friends once did a straw poll. Every single one of us had been subjected to some unwanted form of touching by a male, ranging from rape to stuff that just made you feel a bit yuck. How can it be that only 4% have been raped? Not possible.

But - going against the grain here a bit, maybe - I think you should take these attitudes out and shake them from time to time. As other posters have said, if we don't know what people are thinking, we won't be able to unpack the most harmful views.

So I think we should try to be constructive about it, even if that involves taking some of the responsibility for changing attitudes. It's our problem as well as theirs. How can men change the way they think and behave? And what can we do to stop men seeing us as available for sex when we're not?

[TwllBach]

What a massive, unrelenting cunt. It's people like him that make the issue something to debate, where really it is simple -

Rapists rape. Men who are not rapists won't be tempted or provoked in to raping someone because they are not rapists

It doesn't matter what women are wearing, where they are or whether they've been drinking or taking drugs. If they are in the presence of a rapist, they will be raped. If they are not, then they won't. Blaming women, then, for being raped is essentially blaming them for not being mind readers.

I fucking hate this shit.

[TwllBach]

I wondered about the 4% thing as well. I'm pretty certain when MN did the We Believe You campaign, their statistics were higher. Maybe he meant 4% of British women have been proven to be raped by a court of law and their rapist was convicted?

[Sparklymommy]

4% seems exceptionally low. Maybe it's a misprint and should say 44%? I know, as a previous poster stated, that near enough all my friends have had some kind of unwanted sexual attention. Out of a group of 12, at least 4 had been raped. Such a crap story, with crap statistics all the way through it. Disgusting.

[TheCrackFox]

Why is he so keen to stand shoulder to shoulder with rapists anyway?

[YoniMatopoeia]

Nick Ross, for example, is a twat

[CoalDustWoman]

Do you think he'd do a webchat?

[Jux]

Get him on here for a web chat. That would be, um, interesting!

[magdalen]

There are recent statistics for England and Wales (published January 2013) here:
www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/143910/sexual-offending-overview-jan-2013.pdf.pdf
The executive summary gives the figure of 1 in 20 women aged 16-59 reporting "being a victim of a most serious sexual offence since the age of 16". That'd be about 5%. One in five (20%) report other sexual offences (sexual threats, touching, indecent exposure).
I think he is being utterly revolting, by the way.
Cheers.

[IcaMorgan]

its 1 in 4 women that have been raped or sexually abused not the 4% he states

[sillyoldfool]

I've never been raped. I've been very very drunk, and worn short skirts and clevage revealing tops and been very very drunk, in the presence of men. Those men made sure I was safe, got me some water etc. because they were men, not rapists.
I've slept with men when very very drunk, then thought the next day that it wasn't a great idea, the men were decent, made me a cup of tea, we agreed that we wouldn't do that again, because they were men, not rapists.
sex and sexuality have very little to do with rape imo.
rape is about power, not sexual attraction.

[TheFallenNinja]

I read it all.

He's promoting a book by courting controversy.

[Itchyandscratchy]

I've just tweeted Caitlin Moran to see what she think of the vagina/laptop analogy.

[Youcanringmybell]

The article is beyond shocking. I hope someone writes an appropriate retort that blows all his ludicrous points out of the water.
Someone needs to wipe the floor with this pig.

[IsBella]

Right, here's my blog post about Nick Ross

herbsandhags.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/if-it-looks-like-duck-and-it-quacks.html

[SilverOldie]

I have no words to describe how I feel about this cretin. I wonder if he would feel the same way if it was his wife or mother or daughter who was raped?