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To be struggling with this decision

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Misty9 · 24/05/2013 21:20

I've been a sahm to 21mo ds since he was born. Partly choice and partly due to finishing my training course just before he arrived and not working since. Struggled for first year but lately started to really enjoy it.

Went for first qualified job interview today - and looks likely I've got it. But it's 6 month temp post and full time. And not really my dream job - but jobs are few and far between in my area in my profession at the moment.

Dh works from home and when I applied for the job the potential plan was he would sahd for the 6 month period. But he's since got a new contract and can't do this for at least 2 months. So we will need some sort of childcare and are thinking about a nanny in our home as best compromise.

I wouldn't be working for the money as dh earns enough to support us. But getting some qualified experience before possibly ttc number two would be good/important for my career prospects in a few years. But it's looking like I could get some voluntary/freelance type work in the near future to 'keep my hand in'.

Excuse essay but didn't want to drip feed! Main dilemma for me is the fact it's full time. I'm just worried it'd be too much for me to go from sahm to full time work - I'd likely not see ds much until weekends and not sure how this would impact our relationship.

I know we're incredibly lucky to be financially well off, and I'm lucky to even be (very likely) offered a job. So why do I feel so torn?

Have others felt like this, done the ft job and it been ok?

OP posts:
PearlyWhites · 29/05/2013 23:47

Splatt34 I am a sahm and I too want to be a strong role model for my dc. Am confused as too why you believe that its being a whom that makes you a strong role model. Surely you can be either.

StuntGirl · 30/05/2013 01:24

You would be foolish to give up the long term benefit for short term gain.

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