in finding the "busy mum" thing ANNOYING

[Nehru]

and " the rare moment I get a minute to myself" and
" i have no time to brush my hair" ( or whatever).

Specially when it is said on here after a good hour or so of titting about!

But busy mums..ARGH

In between those posts, I had to lift him off the top of the radiator 5 times. I can't remove them, and he climbs on the windowsill from the top of them.

Nice to have calm DC's...

'I always drive dd2 to school in my pjs she has to be there by 8 and I have a baby and a toddler to get ready'

try South Africa - we have to be in school by 6.30 - I have to get 2 ready and in by then (8 and 2) - and I am dressed!!

Yes, but not so irritating as those who list all that they have done and sit back waiting for the awe-stricken "super mum" comments to roll in.

Some people are busy, others are not. Being busy might be as a result of work/children/hobbies/caring responsibilities or any combination of activities. Being a mum, per se, does not automatically render a woman busier than anyone else with things to do. That's why the media phrase 'busy mum' is so patronising and irritating.

I'm busy sometimes and I'm a mum. Sometimes I'm busy because I'm a mum.

Don't sweat the small stuff OP, theres enough big stuff to sweat about.

I don't always see the 'busy' aspect as stuff to do, but what clogs my brain. Even when DS is in bed at 7:30pm, my brain is still in overdrive thinking about what to do at the weekend/what we're having for dinner/ do we have clean clothes etc etc. So i'm not totally relaxed anymore.

Pre-DS, food was what was in the cupboard or nip to tesco express/take-away. Now food shopping is on a budget due to less money, and often is a once a week 'big shop' that takes up a morning/evening. A 2 year old can't eat old pizza from breakfast, he need fruit and cereal and yoghurts. There are tonnes more things that are more important/harder with a family!

OK Couthy sorry you are having a tough time. My DC were far from placid but they couldn't climb out of the playpen until they were old enough to generally not create havoc. Maybe I was lucky.

I still object to 'busy mum' though

the actual phrase "busy mum" and twee ads definitely gets on my tits BUT I do buy into the lukewarm tea and peeing with an audience. Mine are 2 and 3. They can open the door and usually ask for a train track to be built or have a fight over something just after I've made the tea. I do get more time to myself at work (and I am a teacher).

I am so busy that I delegate my busyness. The butler drinks my tea (hot) and the maid wees for me (privately). One day I was so massively busy I found my head up my own arse! What an eye opener that was.

I am the busiest mum in the world, ya can't touch me.

The cat typed this. She is slightly less busy.

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Aah but it's the busy mind that is the issue imo. Who else makes sure DC x has ingredients for cookery class next day, who else makes sure rugby kit is clean by x day, who else makes sure there is soemthing to eat for evening meal, that essay was completed and invites for whatever went out.

Not so bad once DCs are older but really a pain at certain stages. Perhaps my fault for putting up with a DH who didn't take it on.

If you ever have to go out in pjs then you are seriously unorganised.

YANBU. I HATE "mum" being used as a noun in that way in ALL contexts. It is horrible. Especially in the plural.

You call your own mother "Mum"; you refer collectively to "mothers". But please don't, because you will be making some horrible patronising generalisation about them

All sorts of people are really busy yes, but there is a horrible overtone of martyrdom to "busy mum" which implies that they exist for others. It's that advert world where boys throw dirty PE kit at their mothers, mother sneakily serves Nimble bread to her husband, she spends months on preparation for xmas and doesn't even get a proper seat at the table - and her only complaint is a wry raised eyebrow to camera. The implication is that if you are a mother and you are not flogged to the marrow by other people's needs, uncomplainingly, you are DOING IT WRONG.

I'll take busy mum thank you very much.
That's a compliment on here
far better than lazy mum that is so often used

Oh Funnys you've just proved my point. DS2 never had a cot or a playpen as he could climb before he could walk. We'd have spent an awful long time at A&E if I'd left him in a playpen/cot.

I had the same conversation with my MIL.

I'm very glad you've never experienced a child like that becuase clearly, you'd be unable to cope.

I am stupidly busy. I have 4 DCs.

To give you an example of how busy actually am:

Today I got up at 6.30 to walk the dog for an hour, fed the children and sent them to school. I went for breakfast with DH, went to assembly, had a cup of tea at school, went to the shops and bought a birthday present, got my eyelashes extended, bought a chicken, went to a friends to give her a birthday present and have a cup of tea, picked kids up, put the chicken in the oven, tried to sort out internet. I am SO BUSY. Now I have to go to the chippy for chips to go with said chicken because I have been SO BUSY.

The washing needs hanging out, but I have been too busy. Likewise the ironing. And changing the beds which I didn't do earlier in the week. The floor could do with a sweep. Everywhere I look I see things that I have been too busy to do.

Worse than a 'busy mum' I am a 'busy mummy'

Ruby strap them in the pushchair

Oh yes! Why didn't I think of that.
How stupid of me.

a) we didn't have a pushchair up the stairs where we live (It lived at the bottom of the stairs)
and
b) He could overturn the push chair while strapped in.

PS he's 4 now and survived his toddlerhood.

I take it your in flats to? I used to carry the pushchair in block it off with the cupboards and drawers with the brakes on and then give dd a bit of food. She used to tip pushchairs, climb out of playpens and cots etc. Just advice that was all. I had the same with dd.

Good point curryeater, I always felt awkward about using 'Mum' in the plural, I could never put my finger on why and you have explained it perfectly.

Petey dear. Your life is not my life. Your child is not mine. I'm awfully glad it worked for you.

No need for that really

Strap them in the pushchair?

He could climb out of the pushchair, with the straps as tight as they go, before he could even CRAWL.

He could get himself out of the Bumbo within 3 days of it being bought.

He climbed out of his highchair, throwing himself out of it.

My darling toddler laughs in the face of your restraints...and mine!

I sympathise Ruby. Now please tell me it gets easier than when they are 2y4mo...please?!

Ruby DS2 walked at 9 months. He could climb at 10 months. We had a good playpen and was out of his cot at 18 months as he climbed. BabyDan is the answer imo.

You are an apologist for your poor choices. And very pa at that