Aibu to wear pink to this wedding?!

[PorkPieandPickle]

Met with the bridezilla for tea recently, an she was talking about the mother of the groom being a bit precious about her outfit, and how she was not showing anyone because the mother of grooms outfit should be a surprise. She laughed and said she wouldn't put it past her to turn up wearing pink. (pink is the colour scheme)

I didn't think that much of it at the time, but my 3 best wedding style dresses are all various shades of pink... Does this mean I can't wear pink?! I have never heard of it being a faux pas to wear the colour scheme colour?

Maybe it is because the bridesmaids will be wearing pink and she wants to be really clear who is and isn't one?

Steer clear of pink if I were you.

Well, your friend's comment makes it fairly clear she is not expecting the mil to wear pink. Better check with her i suppose, since you've heard this comment. You can't really feign ignorance!

You could just say something about having a pink dress you'd like to wear but is it going to be a problem with what the bridesmaids are wearing? See how she reacts. When is the wedding? Do you have time to get something else or borrow a dress off a friend?

If the bride is a friend I'd just ask what shade of pink she is going for. If you have an outfit that is a totally different shade, it shouldn't be a problem. Usually you would steer clear of the chosen colour, but if she's being particularly bridezilla, then her wedding isn't worth buying a new outfit for unless you want to.

I agree with just asking.

Your friend may have been thinking that the MIL would try to match the colour of the bridesmaid dresses but if your dress is a completely different shade of pink then why not. Perhaps you could take a picture and show her and see what she thinks. You do have 3 shades to choose from.

Ok good plan, I'll just straight ask her. I didn't want her to think I was weird or stupid for asking! I've just not heard of it before, and If we hadn't had that conversation, I wouldn't have even known pink was the colour scheme!

Oooooh, Bridezilla indeed! Sounds like she'll be cross if you do wear pink . If you didn't know about the 'colour scheme' (one of the many wanky things I hate about weddings but I digress....) but as she HAS told you I wouldn't go there. Unless of course you don't care if she cops a strop. Difficult though because lots of women wear pink a lot so quite hard to police unless invite says 'do not wear pink'.

That's what I thought was strange- if she didn't want people to wear pink then she should have made that clear. TBH, I quite happy to go and buy something new, but I have a feeling that when I arrive at the wedding there will be several women wearing pink who had no idea about her wishes, and then I'll be irritated. But hey ho, it's not worth upsetting the bride.

I once went to a wedding and was wearing the same dress as the bridesmaids but fortunately in a different colour. A complete coincidence but I felt ridiculous!

I would expect the wedding party to not match the bridesmaids but not clash either. And also mother of the bride gets first dibs on a colour and mother of groom wears something different. There had to be a bit of communication between all parties, sounds like the mil is being a bit obstructive and that is what is annoying your friend.

Ok so I spoke to her this morning. She was fine about me checking, but her pink ban was just immediate family/top table. So I was fretting over nothing, and don't need a new dress!!!