AIBU to not understand the concept of tea in bed?

[ChangeyMcName]

I've read many comments on this site about DHs bringing DWs tea in bed on a daily basis. Are people's lives actually like that? Every day?
Feel a bit . We have to take turns.
AIB selfish to wish I experienced the joy of waking up to a cup of tea like so many of you seem to?
Or is this actually a myth and everyone has to make their own tea really?

(may be overthinking a tad)

My 8 yo makes me coffee and brings it with a bikkie on the saucer at weekends.
She's well trained, (by DH) we have a coffee maker, and I drink it just hotter than warm, black.

I'm useless without coffee though, so I get all suspicious when I'm woken with a giant mug of coffee- it means plans are afoot!

I want a cup of tea now. It is 8pm here though and if I have caffeine at this time I won't have to worry about morning breath because I won't be getting any sleep.

DH1 is an early bird. I'm not, and on top of that, I take medications which leave me groggy in the morning. Even without those, transitioning from lying down to upright and functioning, in the morning, is a mammoth task, likely to result in me flaking out on the floor, if attempted too quickly. So, DH kindly brings me a nice cup of chamomile tea, which helps to increase my blood volume (and reduce the risk of fainting) and washes down my first batch of pills that stop everything hurting so much of the day.

After that, I'm ready to put me socks on, hobble down the stairs and take over so he can be off to work.

I drink my tea without having to get up and brush my teeth first, but DH has to brush his before he can drink tea. I am quite glad I don't. I agree with Moist - staying in bed is the point!

No tea on my bed because, for tea i have to sit on the dinning table and my mom makes it for everyone.

There's no rule in our house but we tend to take turns at the weekend.

Saturday I'm usually rubbish in the morning (I don't know what it is about Saturdays but at 35 weeks pregnant with No2 and a demanding nearly 2 yr old, I am a zombie) so DH plays with DD1 and I get a cuppa in bed at some point. By Sunday I seem to have recovered enough from the week and feel well enough to get up early so he's the one to get a bit of a lie-in and he usually wants and gets a herbal infusion to help him feel human again.

DH occasionally brings me tea in bed as a treat. My mother and grandmother have had tea delivered by their DH's in bed every day of their lives so maybe it's a "traditional" man thing! That said, I'd rather have DH's ace cooking and co-parenting than a cup of tea in bed every morning so we'll stick with our non-traditional set-up!

Dh brings me coffee every day as he's up much earlier. (If he has a really early start he makes it in a flask and leaves it by the side of the bed)

Yes. He brings a small breakfast up too. To be fair, it was one of the things I was looking for in a man! I sometimes do it instead if he's really tired or at the weekend. This is because I wake up slowly and he wakes up quickly. While he's making the tea, he unloads the dishwasher.

It sounds like a lot written out like that - I tend to do a lot of the wifework though - organising/remembering/planning birthdays etc.

I never realised this was so widespread. I don't think anyone in our families does it. I get up earlier than DH every day of the week and it has never once occurred to me that he deserves a cup of tea as well as a lie-in! [bad wife emoticon].

I get a coffee every morning, not in bed mind but still in a lounging position.

If DH is on night shift he puts the coffee sweetener and milk in a cup and leaves it in the fridge. He's a good egg.

I got tea every day before DS. On the days I go back to bed after his 5am feed I get tea brought up.

DH does loads for me and I do loads for him. IMO love is something you practise, something you do daily, that the little things are what make the biggest difference.

DS is 10 and goes through phases of bringing me coffee in bed on school days. I'm not a morning person, and DH leaves for work at 5am. If he's up before me at the weekend, he'll bring one up for me or send one of the DCs up with it. He doesn't like drinking in bed though, and I've never had breakfast in bed (crumbs! on sheets! no thank you).

Urgh at brushing before your morning cup of tea!

I'm gobsmacked at the thought that not everyone shuffles bleary eyed downstairs to slurp tea/coffee and munch cereal/toast and then go upstairs to make self presentable. Utterly gobsmacked.

OP, Yes my DH makes me tea in bed, has done since I was 16 years old! If i'm up before him then I'll bring him tea up.

makes me tea in bed?? That's a clever trick considering our kettle is downstairs in the kitchen...

I meant, of course brings me tea in bed..

My dad takes my mum tea in bed every day. It started when she was pregnant with my big brother 48 years ago to help with morning sickness but he's just carried it on. He says its the least he can do for her.

I take my DH a cup of tea every weekday morning as I am nearly always up first.

At the weekends he will bring me a coffee quite often.

DP makes me a cup of tea every morning, AND its while he's up getting breakfast for, nappy changing and generally wrangling our 2yo.

While me and the baby do cuddles in bed

I have just learned from a Google search about the spiritual effect of having tea in bed (before brushing one?s teeth) [mind boggles]

Apparently, it can increase susceptibility to being attacked by ghosts (demons, devils, negative energies, etc.).

That must be where I've been going wrong all these years

I don't drink hot drinks. I've had breakfast brought to me in bed on Christmas morning and Mother's Day by DH, but that's it. It would feel a bit strange to me if it were a regular occurrence!

I'll occasionally take DH coffee when he has a lie in, but only because it means he's likely to shift out of bed more quickly.

FIL takes MIL all of her drinks throughout the day to wherever she is - and he does hot drinks in bed for whoever is staying in the house. It's very sweet and another way he shows how much he dotes on his entire family - but I still find it quite strange as it's not been part of my growing up experience, if that makes sense.

I used to have a timer plug and set the coffee percolater to brew just before we got up, lovely waking to the smell of fresh brewed coffee on a morning, alongside the timed bread maker the house was so inviting mmmmm coffee and fresh bread... why have I not done this in ages?

Whoever is up first makes the coffee here. So that would be DH 99.9 percent of the time as am lazy cah.

DH always brings me coffee in bed and kisses me goodbye. I always greet him with dinner and desert, so a fair swap.

DH used to bring me tea in bed before he left for work, but he leaves very early now - 6am - and so he leaves me to sleep. On the occasions when he works from home then I get my cuppa :)

And I get one every Saturday and Sunday, almost without fail. It is just one of his things.

My Mum is highly jealous, because she is the provider of tea in my parents relationship. She loves it when we go and stay, because generally DH will be up first - and he brings her a cup too! :)

Mimsy - I had forgotten, my Dad does bedtime drinks for everyone in the house who is staying, so things are more balanced in my parents relationship than I thought