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AIBU to not understand the concept of tea in bed?

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ChangeyMcName · 20/05/2013 00:33

I've read many comments on this site about DHs bringing DWs tea in bed on a daily basis. Are people's lives actually like that? Every day?
Feel a bit Hmm . We have to take turns.
AIB selfish to wish I experienced the joy of waking up to a cup of tea like so many of you seem to?
Or is this actually a myth and everyone has to make their own tea really?

(may be overthinking a tad)

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cory · 20/05/2013 07:34

My mum was one of those people who feel sick early in the mornings so my dad who is one of Nature's larks used to bring her coffee in bed when he couldn't bear his loneliness any more when it was time for her to get up. The caffeine

Dh has to get up at a ridiculous hour to catch his commuter train, so makes his own tea every morning; he has been known to bring me a cup before he shoots out of the door. We use loose tea so it makes sense getting the maximum out of the pot.

HintofBream · 20/05/2013 07:36

Tea in bed every morning when he gets up, then half an hour later, coffee and marmite toast too. He's a treasure really.

KnickKnacks · 20/05/2013 07:36

For 28 years every day (regardless of whether it was working day, on holiday abroad etc) my dad would get up and make my mum a cup of tea.

And then she left him Sad, and she moans almost as regularly as my dad was with the tea, that she never gets a cup of tea in bed. Angry

5madthings · 20/05/2013 07:37

My dp is just making me a cup of tea to have in.bed. I am not a morning person and he quite often brings me tea in bed, 70-80% of the week? Depends on.his shifts.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 20/05/2013 07:37

just sitting here sipping my tea :)

iloveweetos · 20/05/2013 07:37

Think DP has made me tea twice in 2 and half years lol
Would love a tea in bed right now!!

trice · 20/05/2013 07:38

I am having tea in bed right now. Dh doesn't drink hot drinks so he has to make do with a cuddle.

FoundAChopinLizt · 20/05/2013 07:41

He brings me tea in bed every morning, then I bring him coffee for our send cup.

starsandunicorns · 20/05/2013 07:44

My dad always brings my mum tea and toast up her before he leaves for work and every sunday he does a full tray of breakfast tea toast ceral grapefruit and fruit juice.

I always make a brew for my dp when i get up and bring it to him

BitBewildered · 20/05/2013 07:49

I've just drunk the tea DH brought me before he went to work. I take him one on a Friday, but the other six days a week he does the tea delivery. It's one of his most endearing habits!

hackmum · 20/05/2013 07:58

OP, I thought you meant "get" as in "understand", and I thought At last, someone like me! I hate drinking tea in bed, and having breakfast in bed is even worse. Can anyone explain the attraction?

hackmum · 20/05/2013 07:59

Ah, I just realised you did say "understand", not "get". Oh well. You know what I mean, I think.

Aniseeda · 20/05/2013 08:16

DH used to bring me tea in bed as he is a natural lark and up at 6 every day regardless of whether he needs to be or not but understood that the lively, crack of dawn, 'wake up mummy' mornings that toddlers bring used to kill me (I am an owl) so he'd see to them until he had to leave for work and bring me a brew to try to ease my pain as much as possible!

Somewhere along the line between toddlers and teens, the tea stopped coming and there are some mornings, like today, that I really miss it! I make my own and take it back to bed with me, but it's not quite the same!

Ragwort · 20/05/2013 08:26

DH would happily bring me coffee (I don't drink tea Grin) in the morning but we are both larks so happy to get up around 6.15am - that when the paper arrives so we often sit at the kitchen table drinking our cofffe/tea and sharing the paper - a bit of quiet time before DS gets up Smile.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 20/05/2013 08:58

I'm the same as you Hackmum - don't "get" it at all, especially the breakfast part. I had an operation a few months ago and had to eat in bed for the first week or so afterwards, hated it.

I do quite often take a cuppa up in the evening though and have it while I read or watch TV in the bedroom (DH and I like different programmes so I often have an hour or so upstairs watching telly mid evening).

littlewhitebag · 20/05/2013 09:01

My DH brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning as he gets up before me for work. It is the best part of the day snuggled up sipping tea and contemplating the rest of the day. I am not a fan of eating in bed though.

Morloth · 20/05/2013 09:25

I don't like to eat in bed - don't like crumbs.

But I love a cup of tea brought to me in bed.

Lovely tea, a kiss, a book/newspaper, snuggly bed - all good things that go together.

SummerRainIsADistantMemory · 20/05/2013 09:28

If I'm having a lie in dp drops me up a cuppa and some biscuits.

Only at the weekends though, during the holidays when he's up for work and I'm still in bed he just heads out.

I need to start training the kids to bring me up tea Grin

valiumredhead · 20/05/2013 09:29

Whoever is first up makes the tea in this house and now ds is 12 that includes him too. I always have tea in bed at the weekends, it's lovely :)

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ChangeyMcName · 20/05/2013 09:41

Lots of lucky people here with devoted, tea-bringing partners. Literally could not be more jealous. Mine rarely does anything like that for me unless there is something in it for himself.

In fact I did recently receive a tea in bed. Was blown away. Then he returned to the bedroom whilst I was enjoying my tea in bed to remind me that we had lots of housework to do and when would I be getting up? Kinda soured the tea.

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Dontwanttobeyourmonkeywrench · 20/05/2013 09:45

My DH doesn't do it unless under extreme duress but DS (15 3/4) will do it grudgingly most mornings as well as bring DD (6) her breakfast in bed because he leaves an hour earlier than she does. We may have to curb DD's expectations as she gets older Grin

iloveweetos · 20/05/2013 09:47

lol changey...sounds exactly like my other half
who said romance is dead? Hmm

hamdangle · 20/05/2013 09:56

DH brings me tea, toast and a glass of juice in bed every morning even when he's in work and I'm not, which is quite a lot because I'm teacher! I can't function without caffeine and carbs first thing and also I'm a little bit spoilt.

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ChangeyMcName · 20/05/2013 10:01

Can I just ask - to the ladies who get tea/juice/breakfast in bed - do you do similar nice things for your DH? Are you expected to 'pay back' the good turn?
I'm sorry I just can't get my head around the idea that your DHs do this lovely thing so frequently, unprompted. Which makes me a bit sad really. DH would not see this as Fair at all. And it is ever so important that things are always Fair.. Hmm

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EeyoreIsh · 20/05/2013 10:04

My amazing DH makes my breakfast everyday. At weekends, it's tea and toast in bed. During the week, he makes my tea in a flask and breakfast sandwiches whilst I shower.

I am totally spoiledGrin he's done this almost everyday since we got married. Very occasionally I get up first and make him breakfast.

It's just the way our relationship is. He is great at getting up in the morning, I'm not. I do other lovely things for him, so it balances out.

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